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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 11:45:59 AM

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Is this online game all consuming to some?

Only when the real world starts to be viewed as an annoying distraction.

Never really tried cybersex or phone sex. The whole thing just does not do anything for me.

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 11:50:33 AM

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I agree with all the people who say it's infidelity.

Unless, of course, the cyber-affair is open.

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 11:55:39 AM

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whether someone is writing words of woo with a quill and/or sending it via the pony express or this newer/quicker version...

yep, it is cheating..just faster and easier to begin and end.

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 12:09:05 PM

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Bad news....I just played some online game and I accidently ran over a pedestrian....I'm on the run....Being chased by the virtual police.....Going to try to get down to virtual Mexico to chill out for awhile....See you when things calm down.

Online is a joke. Those that are dillusional enough to waste real emotions over such crap deserve to be dumped....Not because they are cheaters but because they are morons.

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 12:18:05 PM

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Bad news....I just played some online game and I accidently ran over a pedestrian....I'm on the run....Being chased by the virtual police.....Going to try to get down to virtual Mexico to chill out for awhile....See you when things calm down.

Online is a joke. Those that are dillusional enough to waste real emotions over such crap deserve to be dumped....Not because they are cheaters but because they are morons.

^drops a dime to the virtual police and gives them the lowdown on domiguy's escape plan^

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 12:36:22 PM

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Bad news....I just played some online game and I accidently ran over a pedestrian....I'm on the run....Being chased by the virtual police.....Going to try to get down to virtual Mexico to chill out for awhile....See you when things calm down.

Online is a joke. Those that are dillusional enough to waste real emotions over such crap deserve to be dumped....Not because they are cheaters but because they are morons.

^drops a dime to the virtual police and gives them the lowdown on domiguy's escape plan^

Moronergy.

So that's how it's gonna be....Gonna play rough eh?....Think your going to drop the dime on me and everything is going to be just rosy? Well, I'll be damned if some virtual coppers are going to get the better of me!! (Domiguy softly pats his virtual AK47 which is across his lap as he presses harder on the accelerator sending his "84 Oldsmobile careening towards the border)

Ya know, there is going to come a time when the heat is off....And I'll come looking for you Sinergy....Oh yes, and there is this sweet little bird in Nirvana, California that I might have to look up as well.....

They'll never take me alive!!!! Muahahahaha!!!! (Domiguy utters a crazed laugh as he throws an empty bottle of mezcal out the window as the worm sits between his lips like a toothpick)

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 12:39:14 PM

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 8:31:39 PM

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Considering the lack of emotional input that was required of me on my few forrays into 'cyber' romance, it would be sad if anyone elevated it to the level of cheating. Quite frankly, I quit doing it because it was boring.
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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 8:52:45 PM

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It's interesting. We'll see post after post saying online relationships aren't real....yet it's still infidelity?

An affair of the heart is an affair. I'm of the belief that feelings are real, and that feelings can develop for someone without meeting. Some think affair only relates to the physical. I say it's relationship based. When I was married and in an online relationship absent of my husband's knowledge, I considered myself to be cheating. Any time I orgasmed, whether masturbating or with my husband (very rare), I was with that other person in my mind. I arranged my schedule to spend time online and on the phone with that other person. For all the effort I put into it, I may as well have been sleeping with him. So....real? Not real? What is it? Because if the concensus is that it's cheating, then that must be there's something to online interaction after all, eh?

For what it's worth, I told my ex about the online affair. It was a D/s relationship. He claimed I was brain washed and mentally ill and didn't want to hear about it. He also said if it was in person rather than online, it would have had a bigger impact on him.

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 8:57:46 PM

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"Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?"

My theory about "Is it cheating?" tends to be "If you have to ask . . ."

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 9:10:19 PM

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To me, yes it is. It might be make believe, but I know that sometimes a lot of emotions get wrapped up in that stuff. I remember once catching someone cheating on me, it wasn't the sex part that bothered me, it was more of the conversations I read that hurt.

Cheating is cheating... you do it, it's over, period.

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 9:21:52 PM

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If you feel the need to hide it from real time partner then yes its infidelity. If you so strongly believe its just fun and games then why dont you tell the person you are cybering with that you are already in a real time relationship?

A lot of people meet online and go on to real time relationships after "courtships" online so Im sure they believe its real.

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 9:31:34 PM

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If you are not being honest with your partner it is by definition infidelity.

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 9:32:57 PM

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I used to work with one guy that nearly ended up in divorce because he got into a online relationship with another woman (even though they never really met in real life). His wife found out and wasnt happy.

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 9:38:18 PM

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If you need to minimize the screen, hide the information and sneak around it is an affair.
If your partner can sit next to you, watch you type and knows ALL about what you are doing
it is not an affair.
Some situations are not that complicated.

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 10:05:27 PM

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It would be interetsing to find out if there are any court cases that have been decided where this qualifies as bona-fide infidelity, as much as physical, in-person cheating on one's partner.

I mean how "equivalent" they are considered, as far as influencing the reasons people divorce, as well as the financial settlements during a divorce. There must be some information on this somewhere on the Internet - maybe I will try to look it up.

My sister is a divorce attorney, and she says she's had clients where this has been the major reason for their divorce. - Susan

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 10:07:15 PM

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Yes, the key issue here is the honesty about the virtual relationships with the real life relationships and vice versa.

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 10:07:32 PM

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I am not surprised Susan, if you need to hide what you do online from me,
then you are not the person for me.

Welcome back Susan, I missed you.

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 10:11:22 PM

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I missed you too, MsMia, thanks. I was really distracted by all of the contracting work happening at my house, and I kept getting mail from guys, and other people, and I just didn't have the time to answer, and so I de-activated (temporarily) my profile, because I felt guilty about my un-answered mail. That might sound silly, but that was my reasoning. I missed being here a LOT, though. I practically had withdrawl symptoms (really). Glad to be back. - Susan

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RE: "Is a virtual affair real-world infidelity?" - 7/27/2007 10:15:05 PM

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I admire you for being able to step back!!
I get withdrawal after a day or 2!
I bet you are happy with your new "digs"!
I am addicted to HGTV, and I want a new everything.
I NEED a submissive handyman.

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