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RE: The first kiss - who initiates? - 4/26/2007 4:32:40 PM

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It's gone both ways here (or all three, if you want to count asking permission as a third option LOL). We've had one or two ask permission, a couple of them initiated without asking, and the rest I've initiated. For me, all of the above are perfectly acceptable.

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RE: The first kiss - who initiates? - 4/26/2007 4:33:28 PM

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Male submissives - have you ever initiated the first kiss on a romantic level with a woman, or does it feel inappropriate and awkward?

Femdoms - do you prefer to initiate the first kiss, or do you like a man to do it? (for the sake of this conversation, assume there's no "mutual initiation" option. Sometimes in dating, it's clearly a situation where one person has to make a move and get it over with).

I'm interested in femsub/maledom comments on this well.

Akasha

He initated after I asked for it (and I think begged for it) for a few months.

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RE: The first kiss - who initiates? - 4/26/2007 4:46:23 PM

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Usually, I get kissed first. I've never really given it much thought, but it tends to be more of a feeling that I'm more comfortable moving at her speed rather than at mine. It can sometimes change during the relationship, depending upon how the rest of the dynamics play themselves out.

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RE: The first kiss - who initiates? - 4/26/2007 4:52:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Male submissives - have you ever initiated the first kiss on a romantic level with a woman, or does it feel inappropriate and awkward?

Femdoms - do you prefer to initiate the first kiss, or do you like a man to do it? (for the sake of this conversation, assume there's no "mutual initiation" option. Sometimes in dating, it's clearly a situation where one person has to make a move and get it over with).

I'm interested in femsub/maledom comments on this well.

Akasha

I've done both...I've initiated the first kiss sometimes, usually knowing those instances where it would be appreciated. I've also been kissed first...My first submissive just laid one on me out of the blue and then smiled and said she hoped she wasn't in trouble.

If a femsub kissed me first, it would not be something that bothered me unless the situation was inappropriate or the timing were inappropriate.

I happen to be one of those guys who loves kissing...

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RE: The first kiss - who initiates? - 4/26/2007 6:07:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Male submissives - have you ever initiated the first kiss on a romantic level with a woman, or does it feel inappropriate and awkward?

Femdoms - do you prefer to initiate the first kiss, or do you like a man to do it? (for the sake of this conversation, assume there's no "mutual initiation" option. Sometimes in dating, it's clearly a situation where one person has to make a move and get it over with).

I'm interested in femsub/maledom comments on this well.

Akasha

Yes. With a Domme (it was rebuffed) and with Vanilla (it wasn't).

Here's a question; I was on a date recently, beautiful, very attractive....no reason for a guy not to go in for the kill.

But she was needy (she called me 9 times in the 3 days before our FIRST date!!!!!). She clearly wanted to set a toothbrush on my counter long before I even discovered whether or not she preferred the toilet paper facing up, or down ...so I offered a nice friendly hug.

A warm hug....not a kiss. She moved in for the kill, I made it clear I had a nice evening, moving my face aside. She then, as she walked toward her door said, "did you not have a nice evening?"

I had, and I said as much. I really did have a nice evening.

Now...all you guys that are reading this....I know you're commiserating with me....all you women....I don't have a clue what you're thinking....but here's what I'm thinking....

How come, if you (a woman) after a date that just didn't sink in well....you're thinking..."Uhmmmm....I'm not answering his calls....get a fucking clue....figure it out...you're over 21..."....

But as a guy, I'm feeling like a total prick because there's no fucking way to tell a woman...."sorry hon....I'm just not that into you".

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RE: The first kiss - who initiates? - 4/26/2007 7:46:57 PM

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Femdom/male sub - my collared submissive. I kissed him first. His first kiss ever. While it was lovely, it was a mistake because he could not get his head around kissing/cuddling but no sex. But the initiation and interaction that first evening was lovely.

FemSwitch/MaleSwitch - a later lover. I kissed many parts of him, shoulders, arms, back, nipples during a play scene, the kissing all my initiation (kinda necessary since he was chained up). I don't recall who initiated our first mouth to mouth kiss.

FemDom/MaleDom - I kissed M first. I didn't become his sub until later.

I love to initiate a first kiss. I'm not at all opposed to someone else initiating it. If I know enough about the malesub to know he views flirting the same way that I do, I have no problem w/ a male sub initiating a first kiss with me.

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RE: The first kiss - who initiates? - 4/26/2007 8:54:47 PM

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I've been with at least one malesub who did. Didn't bother me at all. But I do like to fuck with a guy's mind so I did make a point, after enjoying it, of telling him to ask next time. It made him squirm deliciously. And watching him collect his balls to ask made me wet.

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RE: The first kiss - who initiates? - 4/26/2007 8:58:55 PM

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I tend to initiate. I did with Angel, and shocked the hell out of him becasue obviously until then he didnt think I was impressed with him at all. Ive had a few others Ive initiated with, both sub and vanilla. Even one Dom, who really wasnt expecting it.
I like kissing someone for a first time, (if the chemistry is there) who really isnt expecting it.
Then, I make the subbies ask afterwards. Angel squirms so beautifully when he is made ot ask anything.

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RE: The first kiss - who initiates? - 4/26/2007 9:03:58 PM

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Well actually I don't think a guy is necessarily a prick if he isn't interested. I mean granted it's no fun being told that, but I would rather him be upfront about it. As for who initiates....depends, timing,place, is there anyone else around,

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RE: The first kiss - who initiates? - 4/26/2007 9:06:00 PM

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told this one male sub I went out with recently after he gave me one of the best kisses,I've had in a while "Did I say you could kiss me?" then yank his head back. umm the look on his face

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RE: The first kiss - who initiates? - 4/26/2007 10:05:10 PM

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I kissed Daddy first, true it was only on the lips and mostly a platonic one, but still it was me first.

quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Male submissives - have you ever initiated the first kiss on a romantic level with a woman, or does it feel inappropriate and awkward?

Femdoms - do you prefer to initiate the first kiss, or do you like a man to do it? (for the sake of this conversation, assume there's no "mutual initiation" option. Sometimes in dating, it's clearly a situation where one person has to make a move and get it over with).

I'm interested in femsub/maledom comments on this well.

Akasha

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RE: The first kiss - who initiates? - 4/27/2007 3:10:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: Elorin

Femdom/male sub - my collared submissive. I kissed him first. His first kiss ever. While it was lovely, it was a mistake because he could not get his head around kissing/cuddling but no sex. But the initiation and interaction that first evening was lovely.

FemSwitch/MaleSwitch - a later lover. I kissed many parts of him, shoulders, arms, back, nipples during a play scene, the kissing all my initiation (kinda necessary since he was chained up). I don't recall who initiated our first mouth to mouth kiss.

FemDom/MaleDom - I kissed M first. I didn't become his sub until later.

I love to initiate a first kiss. I'm not at all opposed to someone else initiating it. If I know enough about the malesub to know he views flirting the same way that I do, I have no problem w/ a male sub initiating a first kiss with me.

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All my life I've understood the concept of "Domme"....I just didn't know what the fuck it actually meant until about age 42. I'm one of those lucky few that have always had a preponderance...(as above described), it took me a while to make actual sense of it.

I was raised a man (obviously), we do the courting, we buy the flowers, we open doors...all that.

I actually enjoy doing so.

As a man, I learned early, never through any instruction...societal insouciance...these were the rules. If you wanted to play....here was the book.

There was never anything inherently wrong with the rules...as a guy, they allowed me some latitude. Honestly I can't imagine having been a girl (although, it should go unsaid that girls do have a few key slight advantages).

Your question was..."First kiss - who initiates?" (I presume you're asking, as to my first kiss with a Domme).

I did.

It was, in my perception, accepted. I was later told..."hesitantly".

I'd stepped over the line.

I'd only done what I'd grown up with. Funny how if we look at your boobs, we're animals...on the other hand, if we don't ask for your phone number....surely we're gay.

Being a guy ain't easy.

Ahhh...but, my first kiss with a Domme; It was spectacular. Electric, like Edison never planned for.

I never made that mistake again...but that memory will last a thousand lifetimes.

Easily.

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RE: The first kiss - who initiates? - 4/27/2007 3:21:27 PM

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The bravest one lol

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