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BeachMystress -> RE: Scary Stalker (4/29/2007 9:53:14 AM)
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I posted this to another thread a while back, and am going to share it here since it sounds a bit like the situation with which you're dealing.
I was stalked for two years. He showed up at my house and threatened me via IM programs and emails. I'd had two dates with this man. I had not given him my home phone or told him where I live. I met him at a pier local to my home. He was a very nice looking man but there was just something off. After the second date I told him I wasn't willing to go out again. The harassing messages started that night. I changed my IDs and it took him less than a week to find them again. A couple of weeks after that, when my housemate was in Tx for a month, he showed up on my doorstep. (turns out he lived eight blocks away and after seeing me in my car on another occasion, followed me home.) He didn't knock or ring the bell. I became aware of him because of a noise the top step made. I looked out the peep hole and there he was. After watching for about 90 seconds (it took a while for me to process that not only was there someone standing in the dark on my front step, but that it was this man who had been threatening me) I got the phone, went to the back of the house and called the police. They were there within two minutes and caught him in the back alley, about two houses down from mine. He told the cops that he had just mistaken the house for one an old friend of his lived in. (This was 11:30 PM) As he wasn't "doing anything wrong at that time" they couldn't even detain him more than asking who he was and why he was there. They did record his name and it became part of the police record. After that, he became more vicious in his threats. I tried to be reasonable when he'd IM me. They say you're supposed to be very calm and sane with a crazy person, and from his threats and his actions, I was convinced he was not stable. He'd harass me heavily for two months or so, then disappear for three months. My housemate was vanilla and an ex boyfriend. I did not want him knowing my business.
Two years.. I lived with this hanging over my head, not knowing how to stop him and too embarrassed to go to the police or my housemate. I was definitely high strung on the subject after two years. If I was home alone, any noise made me check all the doors and windows. I'd not leave the house by myself after dark. I have to admit that by that time, I wasn't very stable myself. This guy found my new ID (yet again) and was in the process of IMing me about how he was going to rape me with a bottle until the bottle broke. Something snapped and I quit trying to be calm, reasonable or sane with this man. I told him that I had had enough. That I was going to print out every threat, email and IM that he had ever sent me, along with the photos I had of him. That I knew within two blocks where he lived and that I was going to take the photos and print outs door to door, telling people what he had been doing to me. When I found his apartment, I was going to tell his girlfriend what he had been doing (yes, this ass had a girlfriend) and then wait with her till he came home.. at which point we were going to slice off his dick and put it down the garbage disposal. My tirade came off to him as very serious because I meant every word of it. Yeah.. as I said I snapped. Hey, after two years you try keeping calm. At that, he tried to pass stalking me off as a joke!!! Aww, didn't I know we'd been playing a game? Cops called twice.. and it was a game?? I haven't heard one peep from the guy since.
The sad part is that this man got to victimize me for two years because I let him. I wasn't willing to out myself. Take action NOW, not in another year. You're being victimized. It is not legal. The sites I posted can help you with the process of dealing with him. Good Luck!
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