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SirKitty -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 7:56:09 AM)
I seen ev'ry blue eyed floozy on the way ... But their beauty and their style Wear kind of smooth after a while. Take me to them lardy ladies every time! Oh won't you take me home tonight? Oh down beside your red firelight, Oh and you give it all you got Fat bottomed girls you make the rockin' world go round!

Countrydesire -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 8:00:09 AM)
Every site I've ever been on has this discussion.. over and over again. I agree with the original poster. It is not the fact someone is overweight, that is their business and they are the only ones who can do anything about it. IF they can that is. The problem which I believe is what this thread is about is WHY some people feel the need to belittle, degrade and just be mean about overweight people. WHY do people feel that is they have the right to make people feel bad and to hurt their feelings? There is no reason to try and intentionally make someone feel bad. All it does is show how shallow and ugly that person is. Who cares what a persons preference is in looks, that is their choice. If someone prefers small women/men or athletic bodies there is nothing wrong with that. BUT why do they feel they are so superior to them? Someone might have a great body and be dumb as a bag of rocks!!! I would not tell that person, "hey.. you're stupid".. It's just uncalled for remarks. These people (like the guy from SF who made the comments about the FAT factor being OK) are just shallow and rude and their nasty comments just goes to show what an azzhole they really are. Sometimes saying NOTHING is much better than saying anything at all!! I think if you like skinny people... it's ok... while we might think that is shallow, it doesn't matter. It only affects us if we let it. Why don't you "mean" people just learn to keep your mouths shut? If you dont' like someone, fine... let it go. There is no reason to be mean. Like someone else said, KARMA will come back on you or your loved ones so I would be very careful in the hurt you inflict on others!!! I'm stepping off my soap box now.[:@]

IrishMist -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 8:02:20 AM)
quote: I think if you like skinny people... it's ok... while we might think that is shallow, it doesn't matter. It only affects us if we let it. Exactly. It only affects you IF you let it. Someone wants to call you fat; big fucking deal; it only affects you if you let it

BBBTBW -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 8:06:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl My fat experience from being pregnant is not a crock. The amount of food a woman eats during pregnancy has nothing to do with her having too much amniotic fluid. Before my pregnancy, I weighed around 125 lbs. I admit that I prefer men with all their hair, but obviously I can overlook baldness or I wouldn't have a bald play partner. Why can't men overlook a woman disfigured by pregnancy? By the way, I'm happy for you and all other women who don't have loads of stretched skin from pregnancy. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. DBG, your whining and moaning is not helping your case. I too am a LARGE WOMAN...LARGER THAN YOU BY FAR. I have stretch marks from being pregnant (battle wounds) and extra skin from being pregnant (love rolls). These things I EMBRACE because I garnered them by bringing my beautiful daughter into this ugly world. I also have excess weight because I lived a sedentary lifestyle for a few years after a car accident. Regardless of these issues, I am BEAUTIFUL, SEXY, DESIREABLE because this is what I put out. CAUTION Now I am going to be BLUNT I just viewed your profile and your picture doesn't smack of a woman who is overweight simply because of extra skin. Your face holds way too much fluff for that to be the only factor. Face it darling, you are just a WOG (Woman of Girth) You either embrace it and feel good about yourself or you do something about it. I don't live far from you, I live in NE Oklahoma. If you decide you want to go thru with some surguries to assist you in your self esteem, I will go with you and hold your hand thru it. I will take you to the hospital, wait while you are having your procedures done take you home from the hospital, make sure you have things you need to be comfortable and is conducive to your healing. BUT you have to drop the negativity. The only reason you can't find what you want is because you don't put out that you are happy with yourself. SO get happy and get on with your live and stop playing the WOE IS ME record over and over....its kinda tired.

BossySSBBW -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 8:10:30 AM)
I find that people who feel the need to denigrate me because of my weight usually have some horrible issues going on in their lives that they have no control over so they lash out at the easiest target. I tend to have a bit thicker skin about it because I have seen it, heard it, or been the target for over 30 years now. I figure if they are picking me it is okay since someone else might be more sensitive and not as able to brush it off as the abuser's problem and not mine.

FatDomDaddy -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 8:11:04 AM)
This thread is not dead yet???? OK... Why do so many BBW's and especially the ones without pictures, not list their weight in their profiles?

IrishMist -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 8:12:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FatDomDaddy This thread is not dead yet???? OK... Why do so many BBW's and especially the ones without pictures, not list their weight in their profiles? Because they are hiding from you my dear [8\|] [:D]

gothicdiva -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 8:17:39 AM)
FatDomDaddy, I, for one, used to have that I weighed 400 pounds on my profile. I did that on purpose. So that when I met someone in person and he found out that I weighed half of that or less, he would be more than pleasantly surprised...LOL P.S. I actually don't think it's anyone's BUSINESS how much I weigh....kinda like what size bra I wear as well. I am upfront about being overweight and I have pics posted and will provide more when the time comes. Be well, M. Diva

BBBTBW -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 8:23:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy I do like to joke around a great deal....But it is funny if I state I prefer red heads over blondes no one really gets up in arms over it.....If someone states they prefer a nonsmoker over a smoker no one bats an eye....I am more attracted to someone who is healthy, attractive and intelligent.... and I clearly said someone who is "substantially" overweight...And the deffinition of "substantially" varies from one person to the next....I am the only person who makes the judgement of what type of person I find to be acceptable or not...And after all it is a two way street is it not? And from these forums I think it would be not to hard to ascertain that I am a fairly "happy" person. But that is impossible to tell! I could be in jail....And yet somehow I still am at peace with my environment. I would love to meet you DOMIGUY, I am one of the few that appreciate your warped sense of humor. (I have one too) For the record, I am HEALTHY, ATTRACTIVE, INTELLIGENT and DOMINANT but I am also SUBSTANTIALLY OVERWEIGHT according to modern day standards. Talk about bumping heads instead of uglies LOL

BBBTBW -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 8:32:53 AM)
WAY OFF TOPIC RANT quote: ORIGINAL: Dtesmoac on planes I'm an irritable bigot... Me too, thats one of the reasons I don't fly....Plus there is NEVER and yes I said NEVER enough leg room. Damn I would like to look out the window sometimes but I always have to sit on the isle so my long assed legs can have some room to move....and while we are on planes....can you people please sleep before you get on the damn plane and not lean your seat back to squish my already squished knees.. Nope no more planes, I will just drive or swim or stay the hell home. Ok rant over

SoftKajira -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 8:35:55 AM)
As someone said before, it can only affect you if you let it. I'm fat right now, I haven't been fat all my life so i've been on both sides of the fence. I don't mind if someone has a preference and isn't attracted to big women shrugs I have a preference and am not attracted to big men, it's never been an issue. I've never had an issue finding a man, and never felt like i needed to pursue those that don't want me. If someone feels the need to call me names etc.I just smile and go about my business. I am fat. so you calling me fat or whatever else is not going to hurt my feelings. I am beautiful, I love me and if you don't well then.. sucks for you smiles

BBBTBW -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 8:39:22 AM)
All of you that complain about "another fat thread" should STOP adding to them

BBBTBW -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 8:45:31 AM)
I know that you probably just replied to the last posting there was, however my profile contains both my pic and my weight.... I do however take my pic down occasionally because I get tired of men wanting to sub to me because I am "SO BEAUTIFUL" They look at the pic and forget I gots sumwhut of a brain.

MistressNoName -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 8:47:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gothicdiva Satyr, I agree with you. Why is it that EVERY fat/overweight woman labels themself a "BBW?" More often than not, these women are just fat...and NOT beautiful. Besides that, I HATE that term. I'd be interested to see the person who actually coined that term. As someone else said, it all comes down to "preference." I prefer someone who is more "fit" themselves and they have a right to turn me down because I am not. I don't have an issue with that. I also turn people down for other reasons...ie. ignorance, rudeness, etc. Thrilled to wake up and see yet another "fat" thread on here...LOL M. Diva This is an example of the type of mean statement I was talking about. You have your personal preference. Groovy. But why do you have to be mean about it? Maybe fat women are not beautiful in your sight. That's fine, too. But maybe lots of others think you're just dead wrong. Why is it that thin people seem to think they own the monopoly on good looks? Fascinating the sense of privilege that abounds. But this has been going on a good long time. And will take some time to correct. That's ok, I'm in it for the long haul. My point still stands. Nothing wrong with your personal preference. I personally could care less. What I do care about is the persistent belief that it's ok to be insulting, mean, unkind to others (in this case fat people) just because you don't like them, or the way they look. And to FatFomDaddy, I don't know why other fat women don't post their pics nor do I know why they don't post their weights. I only know why I do not. Perhaps you should ask the particular person instead of presuming their reasons. Just a suggestion. I'm just wondering about something. Does anybody actually think it's ok to be mean to ANYBODY? I mean, I would just think it would be a no-brainer to most people that it's actually better to be kind rather than unkind. That's what this issue is all about, people. Not about whether or not it's better or cooler or whatever to be fat or thin...It's about the way we treat one another. Does anyone disagree that we should treat each other with kindness? If so, then maybe we are just a crueler race of beings than I gave use credit for. MNN

forsakengrace -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 8:47:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl I have to admit I am insulted by men who even have a preference for skinny women because of the fact that some of us can't do anything about it. If there weren't medical conditions that caused women to be overweight, I could understand. If stretched skin went away with rigorous diet and exercise, I could understand. Look at all the partially bald men out there who want skinny women. They are the lucky ones. If baldness bothers them, all they have to do is go to a hair restoration clinic like Bosley's. Any scars left by the surgery will be covered by their hair. They can still look good nude. Women can't. I"m only quoting one post but you've commented a few times about how some women can't lose the weight or how women can't hide the scars from surgery ... I'm a fat girl. I'll say that right now. I am ... I hate being a fat girl so I am doing whatever it takes to not be a fat girl any more. Why? Because it does hurt when men turn away from me because of how I look. Rather than sit here and throw a hissy fit over it, I'm going to do something about it. Now ... Will I probably have some skin issues along the way? ... Pfft, yeah ... Prolly. But they make wonderful creams and lotions these days that can help with that. Whining about it WON'T help ... Now, I know that you feel like you're not whining and maybe to you, it isnt ... But thats kind of how it sounds. Like, you won't even bother to try and change because you'll have skin issues or you might feel the need to have a tummy tuck which will leave a scar. You're giving no credit to anyone who might look at that scar and be immensely proud of you for your accomplishment (loosing the weight and keeping it off, which is so hard to do) and you're also assuming the only reason a dominant might want a thinner girl is because she'll look good naked. I've seen A LOT of ugly skinny women. They don't look good naked or clothed! Sometimes what people are attracted to isn't looks but health ... A thinner girl is less likely to have certain health problems and we can all agree that dead subbies aren't much fun. (wanders off now that she's done ranting about the rant)

gothicdiva -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 8:56:17 AM)
MNN, I wasn't trying to be mean. Nor was I directing my comments at anyone in particular. Just stating how I feel. Certainly, there are alot of attractive people of ALL sizes. Being beautiful doesn't necessarily have anything to do with size...it has to do with facial features, bone structure, etc. I happen to have a couple of friends in the 300-400-pound range, who have absolutely stunning faces. It just seems that lots of FAT women using the term "BBW," when it's not warranted IMO. Just because someone is "big" it does not mean that they are "beautiful." Surely, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and what one finds attractive, another may not. In case you haven't noticed, I AM FAT! I never have tried to hide that fact...so, I am not being prejudiced against other overweight people. I personally just do not like the term "BBW" and I will not use it whether I qualify as such or not. And by the way, I would suggest that you not JUDGE me since you don't know me. I am not mean at all and I do not go out of my way to be ugly or nasty to anyone. Be well, M. Diva

SireKane -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 8:57:49 AM)
My opinion pertains to the dominant male submissive female dynamic. My experience or data is based on my association with other dominant men over the past 27 years, and my personal observations bdsm related events. Dominant men overwhelmingly prefer woman who are height and weight proportinate.

defiantbadgirl -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 9:02:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BBBTBW I just viewed your profile and your picture doesn't smack of a woman who is overweight simply because of extra skin. Your face holds way too much fluff for that to be the only factor. You're right about that. However, the pregnancy was the beginning of it. Before, I cared about my body and staying in shape. My shoulders and hips were exactly the same measurement, forming a perfect hourglass. I wore a size 7 and was not a woman of girth. After the pregnancy, I found out the ugly skin was there to stay and no amount of exercise or even starving myself would fix it. People were asking me how far along I was months after my baby was born because of the stupid skin. At that point I began to eat and gain weight. I knew my body would never ever look good again anyway. I would never look good in a bikini or feel comfortable having sex with the lights on. I could never look in the mirror again and like what I saw. I am now a woman of girth. But even if I wasn't, I would still look fat anyway because of the stretched skin. My body was destroyed by the pregnancy before I ever gained weight.

BBBTBW -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 9:05:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gothicdiva MNN, I wasn't trying to be mean. Nor was I directing my comments at anyone in particular. Just stating how I feel. Certainly, there are alot of attractive people of ALL sizes. Being beautiful doesn't necessarily have anything to do with size...it has to do with facial features, bone structure, etc. I happen to have a couple of friends in the 300-400-pound range, who have absolutely stunning faces. It just seems that lots of FAT women using the term "BBW," when it's not warranted IMO. Just because someone is "big" it does not mean that they are "beautiful." Surely, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and what one finds attractive, another may not. In case you haven't noticed, I AM FAT! I never have tried to hide that fact...so, I am not being prejudiced against other overweight people. I personally just do not like the term "BBW" and I will not use it whether I qualify as such or not. And by the way, I would suggest that you not JUDGE me since you don't know me. I am not mean at all and I do not go out of my way to be ugly or nasty to anyone. Be well, M. Diva I disagree with the RED statement. Someone could be BUTT FUGLY in their facial features but be the most beautiful person within which eventually will supercede the external superficial beauty...Quasimoto for example. You did make a blanket statement that quote: More often than not, these women are just fat...and NOT beautiful. Becareful what you say in written text....it will come back to bite you.

astarri -> RE: rant over "fat women" (5/1/2007 9:18:56 AM)
so if your car got a scratch on it you should probably enter it into a smash up derby. The weight is your issue so i would then say -fix it- and i dont mean with diet. You have emotional distress about it and i would say go and see a therapist. baggy skin on your tummy doesnt make you undesireable. Many men like a little fluff. What is undesirable, however, is your attitude about it. You are repulsed by you and therefore you take it very personal to get feedback about it. Love who you are because you are more than your flesh. Stop victimizing yourself and fix you.

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