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question about finding a slave or sub - 5/2/2007 11:53:35 AM

mercmjm

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Honestly, any tips for a young dom on finding a sub or a slave? Honestly lately I have either been lied to about age or stood up like 5 times in a row. Also anyone know where in ny/ct subs who are between 18-25 hang out?

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RE: question about finding a slave or sub - 5/2/2007 12:19:23 PM

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you could check your area for a lifestyle group called TNG {The Next Generation} - they are all over the country and members consist of people 19-35

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RE: question about finding a slave or sub - 5/2/2007 12:22:12 PM

mercmjm

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ya i looked at that, they meet like once a month, unfortunately due tow ork since i am in westchester its a bit harder for me due to trains and all that but next month i do plan on going

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RE: question about finding a slave or sub - 5/2/2007 4:09:53 PM

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Why not consider joining some local groups by searching on munches in your area. It might have an older crowd but i am sure they would be able to tell You of other venues where people are in Your age group.

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RE: question about finding a slave or sub - 5/2/2007 4:21:40 PM

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I'd improve your profile...it might then attract better quality women.

1. Don't insult other Doms. This makes you look like you have to puff yourself up and put others down in order to feel good about yourself.
2. Expand on what you mean by real time experience, 'cause, frankly, at 22, women will really want to know just what you feel is real time experience.
3. What do you want in a relationship?
4. What qualities are you looking for in a woman?
5. What do you have to offer a relationship?
6. What qualities do you have that you think are appealing to women?

That's a start.

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RE: question about finding a slave or sub - 5/2/2007 6:03:51 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

I'd improve your profile...it might then attract better quality women.

1. Don't insult other Doms. This makes you look like you have to puff yourself up and put others down in order to feel good about yourself.
2. Expand on what you mean by real time experience, 'cause, frankly, at 22, women will really want to know just what you feel is real time experience.
3. What do you want in a relationship?
4. What qualities are you looking for in a woman?
5. What do you have to offer a relationship?
6. What qualities do you have that you think are appealing to women?

That's a start.

Master Fire

I agree with Master Fire but would like to add that your first 2 journal entries are so negative I think I'd pass you by, is it possible to delete them (I've never used the journal so don't know). Also don't be so defensive about your age in your profile, I'm sure there are young subs just looking for a Dom in their own age group. Good Luck!

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RE: question about finding a slave or sub - 5/2/2007 6:41:23 PM

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Patience patience and more patience.

That which you seek you will find when and how you least expect it.

Just be yourself and get involved with the local community. it can take years..

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RE: question about finding a slave or sub - 5/2/2007 7:56:32 PM

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Your profile definately is immature and player like. Before you wonder what is wrong with everyone else, look within yourself.

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RE: question about finding a slave or sub - 5/2/2007 8:11:46 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mercmjm

Honestly, any tips for a young dom on finding a sub or a slave? Honestly lately I have either been lied to about age or stood up like 5 times in a row. Also anyone know where in ny/ct subs who are between 18-25 hang out?

Considering the age group you are looking for, don't just look for those who have already figured out they are a sub/slave. Try "vanilla" folks whose personalities you are attracted to. You may find that you are attracted to those with submissive personalities and could be someone's pleasent intro. I had plenty of fantasies in my head before I was first introduced to it at 18 and my dominant never had a chance to figure it out until we started dating.

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RE: question about finding a slave or sub - 5/2/2007 9:14:34 PM

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Try local groups and munches. Online is a hit or miss thing. Its a good tool but it also brings out all kinds that maybe aren't so serious.

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RE: question about finding a slave or sub - 5/2/2007 9:58:11 PM

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Also anyone know where in ny/ct subs who are between 18-25 hang out?

The Subway??? Sorry I could not resist!!

It does not matter your age, it does not matter if you are Dom, Master, sub, slave, vanilla, chinese or from outerspace, it is not easy to find that good fit; time, patience, a good attitude and a good dose or reality always helps.

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RE: question about finding a slave or sub - 5/2/2007 11:33:51 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

I'd improve your profile...it might then attract better quality women.

1. Don't insult other Doms. This makes you look like you have to puff yourself up and put others down in order to feel good about yourself.
2. Expand on what you mean by real time experience, 'cause, frankly, at 22, women will really want to know just what you feel is real time experience.
3. What do you want in a relationship?
4. What qualities are you looking for in a woman?
5. What do you have to offer a relationship?
6. What qualities do you have that you think are appealing to women?

That's a start.

Master Fire

I suddenly have this urge to ask you to critique MY profile

But... ummm... DON'T, OK? I'm feeling kinda vulnerable <<sniff-sniff>> right now, and I'm not sure if I can <<snff-snggkkk-sniffle-sniff>> handle that kind of pressure, right now...