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Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/7/2005 4:53:26 AM

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There is a feeling that I have gotten from the Dominants who I have been with in my life that I am at a loss for a name for. In talking with other submissives I have found that I am certainly not the only one who gets this feeling, although I have never heard an actual name put to it.

It is the feeling that you get when you are chatting and laughing with your girlfriends at a munch and your Dominant walks up and strokes your hair, the feeling that you get when your eyes meet from across a crowded room, the feeling that you get when you are hurrying around waiting for Him to come home with butterflies in your stomach...and He walks in and puts His arms around you, the feeling you get when you balancing the checkbook and he comes up and strokes your cheek......the list goes on and on.

The only way that I can really describe the feeling with any accuracy is to say that it is very much like the feeling that you get when you sit down to nurse a baby and that intense calm comes over you when the oxytocin is released into your body. It is like you can feel your mind stop racing, your heart rate and breathing slow and you become enveloped by a calm and serene cloud. It is sometimes as profound as a shot of valium.

I have always described the feeling as a "settling into place", because quite often it comes at a time when I am pre-occupied with anything other than submission, and it instantly puts me into "submissive mode".

Do you get feelings that are similar to this and if so.....how do you describe them? Does anyone understand the process that is taking place at this time....chemical??? hormonal??? Has anyone ever heard of a name for it?

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/7/2005 5:33:00 AM

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I was just thinking about this exact same subject this morning. I woke very early ran to the grocery, came home and made his favorite breakfast. His clothes are all laid ready , His home is sparkly fresh and clean and I can't wait for him to wake up *grins*

Owners notice things, if you have been slacking off or if you have gone the extra mile to be found pleasing.

Always being kept on your toes, feeling their power/strength/authority, kneeling at His feet and basking in the glow.

The name I have heard for it is fulfillment.

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/7/2005 6:38:50 AM

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The name I have heard for it is fulfillment.

Thank you kisshou. I see fulfillment as the satisfaction one gets from the overall experience of the relationship. What I am referring to specifically is the intermittent feeling that overtakes you as a result of direct contact with Him. The look, word or touch that can drop you into place from a headspace that is unfocused on your submission.

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/7/2005 6:53:12 AM

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erin,

I don't think this is a particularly submissive feeling. I've experienced it as well from a Dominant perspective. When my boy takes my hand and kisses it, or gives me a kiss on the cheek (2 things I let him do freely, as often as he wants) or sometimes it's just those sweet eyes that stare up at me with such adoration. All this gives me that feeling you describe.

I personally call it true love.

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/7/2005 7:31:02 AM

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What I have come to call it is "submissive fuzzies"

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/7/2005 10:24:46 AM

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Whether i am in His place and territory physically or 1000 miles away, i always have Him mentally, emotionally, spiritually with me ....but yes i get the anticipation of knowing He is coming home from work, going to phone me and even when He dwells on me mentally ...it makes me sexually and emotionally charged.

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/7/2005 7:42:14 PM

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I agree with LA I suppose, it's likely not a feeling reserved for submissives. It's the same as that feeling of anticipation perhaps when a Dominant knows he/she will be speaking or chatting with their sub/slave. Kind of a rush that comes over you..."that warm fuzzy feeling". I understand that what you are referring to though has a physical as well as an emotional reaction coupled to it, where you feel like the rest of the world fades away and you are focused "only" on your Dom/me at that particular time. This could work for both the Dominant and well as the submissive I would feel...as to what to call it..hmmm...presubspace maybe, or would that be forespace...lol.

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/7/2005 9:46:24 PM

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I have been reading posts on collar me for a while now, and this is my first post. I do totally know what your talking about... I too have the same feelings of peace and calm that come over me when my Dom touches me or looks at me from across the room. I honestly thought that it was only me. I respect him and love him so much. I have never felt what I feel for him for anyone else, not ever.

I especially feel calm, relaxed feelings come over me when he touches the area on my back, right below my neck. When he touches me there, my whole body relaxes. It's as if I am a cat, and someone just grabbed me by the back of the neck and my whole body goes limp and I stop what I am doing.

I have not had a baby yet, so I wouldn't know what that feels like, but if it's as awesome and amazing as the feelings I get from my Dom touching me, then I can hardly wait... :)

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/8/2005 5:46:50 AM

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Shortly after I moved back to Indiana we bought a house. The first Christmas there I got up early, started a nice fire in the fireplace and opened the curtains, got the kids up and passed out presents. I stood on the stairs and watched. It was snowing outside, those huge flakes that look so awesome... the kids were sitting around the roaring fire opening gifts and at that moment the world was perfect. That's what the feeling is I think, at those moments the world is perfect.

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/8/2005 3:45:04 PM

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I had a friend in highschool, half the time I picked up the phone to call him and he was already there gonna call me.......Tiertu (whom I hope I can at least call friend) calls it vibrating on the same level.........

In the end result.........that kinda closeness is what we all cherish and desire ups or downs.......

love to you and yours,
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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/8/2005 5:04:16 PM

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That's what the feeling is I think, at those moments the world is perfect

I've been pondering over this, and yeah, thats the same conclusion I came to as well. It realy varies in intensity for me, sometimes it's just this immense feeling of calm and peace, and sometimes I feel it with such intensity I want to cry, and I do... It's just like my heart can't hold in any more of the perfection, can't keep it to myself anymore.

Gah. I cry too much. They should send me to India with a water filter for the salt, think of the lives I could save.

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/8/2005 5:26:53 PM

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Hello Erin,

I know that feeling well, but
also lack a name for it.
For myself it is like a gentle warm
breeze that passes through my body,
flowing out from the heart.

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/8/2005 5:47:33 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

It is the feeling that you get when you are chatting and laughing with your girlfriends at a munch and your Dominant walks up and strokes your hair, the feeling that you get when your eyes meet from across a crowded room, the feeling that you get when you are hurrying around waiting for Him to come home with butterflies in your stomach...and He walks in and puts His arms around you, the feeling you get when you balancing the checkbook and he comes up and strokes your cheek......the list goes on and on.

I get this kinds of feelings every time I'm scared, but I know it goes beyond fear.
My "submissives fuzzies" (good name to describe it, Emerald!) only come when I really want to be scared, and I want to feel my blood rushing, wich usually lasts like 2 seconds. It really settles me into place.

I think everybody gets this kind of feelings every now and then.

I remember getting it every time I was about to jump into a 5'8 feet depth swimming pool at my grandmother's house when I was only 3 years old. I didn't know how to swim, I couldn't breath, and I was drowning, but the feeling was so good that, my parent's scandal and previous lecture for doing crazy suicidal acts, were totaly bearable.

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/8/2005 5:49:51 PM

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I've always called it finding your center, or centering your focus.
I even use the command "Center" when I want Elegant to focus on finding that calm place inside herself where the outside world doesn't matter, only her place with me.

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/9/2005 12:42:42 PM

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Warm fuzzies is a good term but if it actually is when feeling extra sub-like and would/could do anything for your Dom/me(more than usual in a serene sense) then I use the term sub-state for it. The equivalent I get as a Domme is when feel like can do absolutely anything and very intune with my sub I call Dom state.

Just my terms.

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/13/2005 4:45:58 AM

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For me it's simple.. I call that being in love :) I can remember looking down at my beautiful son as he nursed upon my body and feeling how good it felt to be able to have that special moment with him and to give such a beautiful thing to him that only he and i could share... To me, that was how i fell in love with my baby :) That complete trust, love, and fluttering you get when you see that person whether your baby or your dominant... it's all the same thing honey... love!

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/13/2005 5:43:05 AM

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It's not the same as in love for me at all. I can get the sub fuzzies in a variety of experiences with just about any competent dominant who takes the time to connect with me. Being in love is a very different state for me.

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/13/2005 5:53:55 AM

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It's not the same as in love for me at all. I can get the sub fuzzies in a variety of experiences with just about any competent dominant who takes the time to connect with me. Being in love is a very different state for me.

Wow Emerald....You and I agree!!! There are Dominants who I respect that can "drop me" in just such a manner without being in love with them. I don't think that it would work for me however, if it was a Dominant who I had no experience or knowledge of.

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RE: Not talking subspace...or sub drop...so what is it? - 5/13/2005 8:18:07 AM

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I know that feeling that your talking about "mistoferin". I don't have a name for it. I just call it "Bliss".

I feel at ease, i feel calm, i feel at one with Master/Mistress.
A feeling you can only name yourself.

arwen xx

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