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do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/2/2007 10:25:59 PM

yuyu777

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if you and your dom discuss to play rape scene, will you feel scared in the play?

is it more like being helpless than being scared?

will you cry?

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/2/2007 10:30:04 PM

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If it goes the way it's supposed to i'll feel scared...and for me its definately about feeling helpless...a loss of control. and yes i would most likely cry...i'm a big weenie anyway.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/2/2007 10:31:15 PM

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If it's going right...yes, very scared, and yes, much crying.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/2/2007 10:57:00 PM

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if you and your dom discuss to play rape scene, will you feel scared in the play?

No. I wouldn't engage in rape play with a man I didn't completely trust. And I highly doubt Valyraen would ever engage in rape play with me if he thought I was ever actually scared of him during those scenes.

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is it more like being helpless than being scared?

Actually, it's just really sexy. I don't feel helpless in the slightest because I'm not fighting to win. If I was, there would be a knife wedged between his ribs. I'm rarely unarmed or more then a few steps away from a blade.

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will you cry?

Why would I cry? The man I love cares enough about me to make one of my ultimate sexual fantasies come true and ravages me like an animal. That doesn't sound like something to cry over for me.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/2/2007 11:04:01 PM

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Yeah a lot of rape scenes are more about ravishment and being desired.

Mine are more about being used and abused.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/2/2007 11:08:57 PM

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It's roller coasters. We know deep down we're safe, but we can feel free to let that fear in, just a little. And it's always a wild ride.

Screaming, restraints, feeling helpless....yep, it's roller coasters.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/2/2007 11:10:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Yeah a lot of rape scenes are more about ravishment and being desired.

Mine are more about being used and abused.

Mine are very much about being used and abused. But the fact that we both know I could, at best, kill him or, at least, seriously injure him if I actually fought back takes a lot of the "Oh God I'm terrified" out of the situation. The only times he actually scares me are the slave breaking scenes where he uses his sword on me and in those scenes I don't fight back at all.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/2/2007 11:15:38 PM

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Yes, i feel scared, but in a good way. It's scary in the same way a roller coaster is scary, i know i'm completely safe but it's more fun if i don't think of that.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/2/2007 11:19:09 PM

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Yes, i feel scared, but in a good way. It's scary in the same way a roller coaster is scary, i know i'm completely safe but it's more fun if i don't think of that.

That's probably a better way to put it. It's scary in that "I LOVE THIS" sort of way, which I can't really define as scary. Yes, there are a few moments I wonder if this is really the man who loves me, much like when I wonder if my heart has stopped beating on a rollar coaster, but I still don't see it as "scary". It's a thrill... scary is when I realize I'm being followed out of an adult store into the parking lot and that this man is following me to my car... and following my car once I'm driving...

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/2/2007 11:22:12 PM

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I don't do rape play scenes...but if I did I am sure that the Dominant would be very scared and yes, he would probably cry alot.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/3/2007 12:10:32 AM

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Btw, real is nothing like play. When I was attacked in real I nearly took his eyes out. Play, no matter how scary/fun, is not and never can be the same.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/3/2007 12:11:07 AM

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i've partaken in the "use and abuse" plays like Albatross, and yes, i have cried, but i was in such a state of being....seperated i guess, i really can't recall if it was from fear or happiness, likely both.

For me it's all about the feeling of "uncared for", even if you do know it's not true in the back of your mind.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/3/2007 12:12:36 AM

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I only minimally discuss those scenes with my sub, to establish when and where "something" might happen... but that's it. Everything else is left as an unknown. If she's blindfolded or a breathable cloth bag put over her face, it's easy to terrify her. There are some simple and creative ways to make her think (and feel like) there are others in the room, and like she's on the receiving end of the gang-bang train. It can be a very terrifying and traumatic experience.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/3/2007 5:20:24 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Yeah a lot of rape scenes are more about ravishment and being desired.

Mine are more about being used and abused.

I'll take one of each please!

I love role-play and when we did an abduction scene, I was totally into it and completely scared. Of course, it helped that I was tied to a tree and he was cutting my clothes off with a knife while slapping me around and calling me horrible names. Mmmm I sure wish we would do that again.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/3/2007 5:41:34 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Yeah a lot of rape scenes are more about ravishment and being desired.

Mine are more about being used and abused.

Ditto to the above....

and yes, i would be scared, because Sir would not take my pleas into consideration if i agree to a scene...i also fight back..i'm a big girl (height/weight) but He is far bigger than me and can easily hold me down...the fear comes from knowing He's going to do as He wishes without regard for any enjoyment i may want from the scene...

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/3/2007 7:46:20 AM

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I never feel scared, and I don't cry. I think that Master has a fear of actually raping me, if that makes sense. He always tells me beforehand, and it drives me nuts. I keep telling him the whole idea is to do it when I don't know it's coming, and to let loose on me, use me and abuse me, as LA stated.

Until then, I will just keep encouraging him to do it that way and hope that he realizes that it's what I want and won't upset me.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/3/2007 9:09:48 AM

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Maybe it's because we do force play and that I do rape scenes with people I don't know- so I know exactly what ways I do and don't have the disadvantage.

Not that rape scenes with fear are the only cool types- but I'm a fear junkie.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/3/2007 9:24:57 AM

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ORIGINAL: yuyu777

if you and your dom discuss to play rape scene, will you feel scared in the play?

is it more like being helpless than being scared?

will you cry?

i would hope so to all 3 questions, otherwise its not going to be rape play just rough sex surely. Its about them getting into our heads, the mindfuck is as scarey as the action.

dpt.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/3/2007 10:33:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Maybe it's because we do force play and that I do rape scenes with people I don't know- so I know exactly what ways I do and don't have the disadvantage.

Not that rape scenes with fear are the only cool types- but I'm a fear junkie.

We could never do that. *grins* If I didn't know who it was I wouldn't know if it was the person Valyraen approved or an actual rapist and, for lack of knowing, I would have to treat them as an actual rapist. It wouldn't be pretty.

Do you ever use a signal to tell you that they aren't an actual rapist, as in tie you up, rape you and quite possibly kill you?

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/3/2007 10:38:10 AM

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I'll just poke my head in on this one really quickly...

I'm not uncomfortable with mindfucking Aqua... done so on several occasions, actually. The thing about trying a rape scene with her, as she's already pointed out, is the fact that she's had considerable martial arts training and could very easily give me some serious injuries acting solely by reflex, even to the point of causing permanent damage or killing me.

From my perspective, better to let sleeping dogs lie.

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