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Calandra -> RE: How to know when its time to meet (7/16/2007 12:37:59 PM)
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I am one of those who's comfortable meeting within the first 24 hours if the person is of interest to Me. I am seeking friends first, and only if they demonstrate that they are reality based and not on some fantasy trip will I wish to explore more EVER. I think it's idiotic that some people have such arbitrary rules for meeting.
If you meet someone in the produce department of your local grocery store, do you have the need to pull out a card with your internet contact info and say "I'm sorry, I'm interested in getting to know you, but we have to talk for a month online first so I feel safe"??????
Unless someone lives far away, I can't think of a single reason that I wouldn't be willing to spend two hours over coffee at the local bookstore. At the very least, I will be able to decide if this person has social skills, carries a good conversation, and recognizes that regardless of power orientation, I am a PERSON first. I'd much rather meet once and eliminate the possibility of a closer association early on, than spend hours and weeks online trying to make that decision based upon possibly flawed or deceptive information.
In My opinion, if I can't sit still and talk companionably with someone over coffee in a totally vanilla setting with people all around, I wouldn't be interested enough in them to do anything more intense and/or intimate anyway. If someone doesn't engage My mind, it's never gonna work.
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