rubberpet
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Joined: 4/6/2006 From: The Land of Voodoo Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty Is there are difference? Have you ever been in a BDSM relationship with someone whom you would have never even considered for a 'nilla relationship? Do you look for different things in a 'nilla partner than you do in a BDSM one? Can someone make themselves more "BDSM attractive" in ways that do not automatically make them more "Vanilla attractive"? Discuss. I will put my thoughts in a subsequent post. Taggard Not really. If I enter a BDSM relationship with someone, I would certainly enter a vanilla relationship with that person, too. To me, the choice is interchangable...that person has to fit into both sides of the spectrum. For me, that person needs to have the same core characterisics on both sides...intelligence, stability, playfulness, free-spirited, lovingness, monogamous, and strength, just to name a few. Personally, I look for the same type of woman for both relationships. I love plus-sized women, so that's the only real "requirement" for me. They can be short and curvy, tall and amazon-like, or in the middle and plump, but I just prefer plus-sizes. Mistress is my dream girl because She not only is plus-sized and has all the above characteristics, but She is also gothic. That is such a huge turn-on for me. She is the type that will get totally gothed out, slide into Her shiny latex catsuit and 5" heel boots with me locked in my full latex catsuit, hooded and gagged, and being dragged my collar and leash just to go grocery shopping. That's the kind of girl for me! On the other side of the coin, I think I'm much more attractive in the BDSM world than in the vanilla world. I get hit on daily on collarme and when I'd go to fetish parties (I think the full latex catsuit has something to do with it), but I can count the number of times I got hit on in the vanilla world on one hand and still have fingers left over. I find it strange, but oh well. I have my gothic goddess and I couldn't be happier!
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Collared and devoted property of Mistress Lorelei (vampchick88) as of 3/26/08. Rubberpet - The Resident Anti-Subby and mysterious shadowy figure known as Voodoo, proud hitman and wiseguy for the Subby Mafia.
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