Collarchat.com

Create a
Free Account		 As the Collar Turns:
 Collarchat.com - BDSM Forum

Home  Login  Search 
Espanol  Deutsch  Francais  Italiano  Portugues 

RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master?

 Enter the "Ask a Master" Chatroom

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master >> RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3 4 5   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 2:50:55 PM   
juliaoceania


Posts: 13471
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

We hash this over every few weeks or so.  Does it matter?  I'm 43... I don't care how mature a 21 year old is, I'll probably never take them as seriously as someone who has simply seen more in their lifetime.  Do they think I'm old and jaded?  Probably. 

Cali



If you were 18 again you would look at the 21 year old a lot differently....

I am surprised that there are those who think that one can be an adequate care provider, but not master another person. My mom was 18 when she got married and started reproducing, she was more masterful than any master that I have seen posting here...

Edited to add, my mom could silence any of us with just a look... talk about knowing how to dominate us

< Message edited by juliaoceania -- 1/29/2008 2:54:57 PM >

_____________________________

Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard

There is a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in. ~ Leonard Cohen

Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

(in reply to CalifChick)
Profile   Post #: 21
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 2:53:26 PM   
CalifChick


Posts: 9743
Joined: 10/28/2007
From: California
Status: offline 		Julia... don't even get me started on young mothers.  I've seen way too much that breaks my heart.  Of course there are plenty that do well... but we're talking generally about young men here, are we not?  Young fathers (big fat generalization - lots of exceptions) usually don't raise young children.

Cali


_____________________________

Proclaimed by her peers as "The Undisputed Goddess of Sarcasm", "Big Bad Cali" and "Yum Bum".
Advisor to the Subbie Mafia, founding member of the W.A.C., member of the Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair-a's

(in reply to juliaoceania)
Profile   Post #: 22
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 2:53:31 PM   
celticlord2112


Posts: 5732
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessTeaze
It is a Big responsebility, to call yourself a Master/Mistress, and to be really able to guide someone, which is the task You take upon Yourself being a Master/Mistress.


Big responsibility == big font, is that it?



_____________________________



(in reply to GoddessTeaze)
Profile   Post #: 23
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 2:53:45 PM   
collaredncontent


Posts: 81
Joined: 1/21/2008
From: GA, USA.
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Justme696

quote:

ORIGINAL: collaredncontent

I'm sorry, but I can't take anyone seriously who spells things out like 'Thanx' and 'grinz' and so forth, I don't care how old you are.

-Brian.



You judge a person on 2 words? mmm 
OF course you can dislike.....but this sounded agressive  lol



Ah the barrier of text, it wasn't meant to be aggressive. More like a brow loft. I know people can type however they please but when you agrue that age is how you define maturity and then type out words that irk me...it's really hard for me to take the argument in question seriously. And I must admit as a 22 year old brat I scoff at being labeled by my age. Nothing I can do but wait for this big sphere of the Earth to go around the Sun a few more times.

(in reply to Justme696)
Profile   Post #: 24
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 2:57:24 PM   
juliaoceania


Posts: 13471
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Julia... don't even get me started on young mothers.  I've seen way too much that breaks my heart.  Of course there are plenty that do well... but we're talking generally about young men here, are we not?  Young fathers (big fat generalization - lots of exceptions) usually don't raise young children.

Cali



A lot of young men work their asses off to provide shelter for young families....

My own brother was 19 when he started his brood, his exwife was 28, she abandoned her family and left him holding the bag....Men are just as loving, caring, interested in being good role models as women are. To think otherwise is sexist in my mind. I have seen too many men that sacrificed every bit as much as I have to think differently


_____________________________

Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard

There is a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in. ~ Leonard Cohen

Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

(in reply to CalifChick)
Profile   Post #: 25
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 2:59:11 PM   
YourhandMyAss


Posts: 5514
Joined: 6/25/2006
From: Sacramento
Status: offline 		We didn't just spring into being at 21. It is possible to have years of experince  in something before 21. I had 6 years of sexual experince before turning 21.
quote:

ORIGINAL: shysub0951

If they are 21 and have 8+ years experience i will second guess them. .

(in reply to shysub0951)
Profile   Post #: 26
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 3:02:37 PM   
kinkypuppy2


Posts: 345
Joined: 11/4/2007
Status: offline 		Age is not the issue.
Maturity and knowledge of self is.

_____________________________

See nic "Kinkypupper" also as "slvseeker" As I cannot reply to any posts or log into collarchat under that name I had to create this profile.

(in reply to GoddessTeaze)
Profile   Post #: 27
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 3:03:43 PM   
CalifChick


Posts: 9743
Joined: 10/28/2007
From: California
Status: offline 		Working to provide shelter does not equal raising caring, thoughtful, compassionate, productive human beings.  It means they have a roof over their head and hopefully food and clothing, etc.  It's room and board, not raising people.

As I said there are exceptions, and yes, my views are sexist.  It's great that your brother did that.  In my world, it's the exception not the rule.  Maybe your world is different, and if so, great.

Cali


_____________________________

Proclaimed by her peers as "The Undisputed Goddess of Sarcasm", "Big Bad Cali" and "Yum Bum".
Advisor to the Subbie Mafia, founding member of the W.A.C., member of the Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair-a's

(in reply to juliaoceania)
Profile   Post #: 28
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 3:05:49 PM   
celticlord2112


Posts: 5732
Status: offline 		Unless my math is off, someone who is 21 has 21 years of living under their belt.

quote:

ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

We didn't just spring into being at 21. It is possible to have years of experince  in something before 21. I had 6 years of sexual experince before turning 21.
quote:

ORIGINAL: shysub0951

If they are 21 and have 8+ years experience i will second guess them. .



_____________________________



(in reply to YourhandMyAss)
Profile   Post #: 29
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 3:07:53 PM   
collaredncontent


Posts: 81
Joined: 1/21/2008
From: GA, USA.
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: celticlord2112

Unless my math is off, someone who is 21 has 21 years of living under their belt.



One can only hope, lol.

(in reply to celticlord2112)
Profile   Post #: 30
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 3:11:41 PM   
celticlord2112


Posts: 5732
Status: offline
quote:

Working to provide shelter does not equal raising caring, thoughtful, compassionate, productive human beings. It means they have a roof over their head and hopefully food and clothing, etc. It's room and board, not raising people.


To put it mildly, what a crock!

Roof over the head and food in the belly are steps one and two towards raising "productive" people.  If the parents don't take those responsibilities to heart, the rest is a lost cause.

Arguing otherwise isn't sexist.  It's silly.


_____________________________



(in reply to CalifChick)
Profile   Post #: 31
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 3:13:50 PM   
CalifChick


Posts: 9743
Joined: 10/28/2007
From: California
Status: offline 		<taken out to avoid the whole thread getting yanked>

Cali

< Message edited by CalifChick -- 1/29/2008 3:18:19 PM >

_____________________________

Proclaimed by her peers as "The Undisputed Goddess of Sarcasm", "Big Bad Cali" and "Yum Bum".
Advisor to the Subbie Mafia, founding member of the W.A.C., member of the Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair-a's

(in reply to celticlord2112)
Profile   Post #: 32
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 3:20:27 PM   
MasterFireMaam


Posts: 5482
Joined: 3/1/2006
From: Tempe, Arizona
Status: offline 		*shrug* Get to know them, then make a decision. I know some 21 year olds who are WAY more mature than most of the 40 year olds I know. I know some 21 year olds who take the BDSM craft seriously and are good at what they do. I do concede that finding both of these as well as real self awareness and good relationships skills IS hard to find in someone that age. But then I feel finding those four things in ANYone is difficult.

Master Fire

< Message edited by MasterFireMaam -- 1/29/2008 3:21:00 PM >

_____________________________

The power of who we are can be intoxicating. The power of who we could be is humbling.
-----
Ms Relationship Books
-----
BDSM How-To Books

(in reply to GoddessTeaze)
Profile   Post #: 33
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 3:22:08 PM   
yes2


Posts: 1
Joined: 7/13/2007
Status: offline


i get a lot of emails from 20 something year olds. i couldnt submit to one, much less take Him seriously. this is just for me. everyone has their own comfort and standing,yes2



(in reply to CalifChick)
Profile   Post #: 34
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 3:24:19 PM   
celticlord2112


Posts: 5732
Status: offline 		edited out as well....


< Message edited by celticlord2112 -- 1/29/2008 3:25:03 PM >

_____________________________



(in reply to CalifChick)
Profile   Post #: 35
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 3:33:29 PM   
Asherdelampyr


Posts: 9553
Joined: 11/14/2006
From: The Desert
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Julia... don't even get me started on young mothers.  I've seen way too much that breaks my heart.  Of course there are plenty that do well... but we're talking generally about young men here, are we not?  Young fathers (big fat generalization - lots of exceptions) usually don't raise young children.

Cali



A lot of young men work their asses off to provide shelter for young families....

My own brother was 19 when he started his brood, his exwife was 28, she abandoned her family and left him holding the bag....Men are just as loving, caring, interested in being good role models as women are. To think otherwise is sexist in my mind. I have seen too many men that sacrificed every bit as much as I have to think differently

Just to put my 2 cents in here

Im 21, I make over 30K a year (starting Thursday) Im in  college and am a father... I started providing for myself at the age of 10...
With that in mind, do I think most 21 year olds could so much as dominate a gerbil? no, but some can


_____________________________

Pirate King, Resident Sex God (ordained by GT)

Sir Hawtness

The nicest man you'll ever bleed for

Posting Help

Vitam Piratae Eligo

The Rainmaker

(in reply to juliaoceania)
Profile   Post #: 36
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 3:35:46 PM   
mbes


Posts: 345
Joined: 12/14/2006
Status: offline 		There are 20-year-olds I would trust enough to begin a relationship with.
There are 40-year-olds I wouldn't trust to pick up my mail.
Age may be a factor in maturity and common sense but it isn't the determining factor.

(in reply to celticlord2112)
Profile   Post #: 37
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 3:42:20 PM   
collaredncontent


Posts: 81
Joined: 1/21/2008
From: GA, USA.
Status: offline 		Is it unthinkable to respect a person as a 'Master/Dom/etc' but not want them for YOUR 'Master/Dom/Etc'? I think so. I can respect a Master/Dom/Etc without wanting them to be MY Master/Dom/Etc. Would you want a 21 Master with limited experience for yourself? Maybe. Maybe not. But you can still respect the person and not pass down judgement that they are UNWORTHY just because you wouldn't submit to them.

Another two cents.
-Brian.

(in reply to mbes)
Profile   Post #: 38
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 3:42:34 PM   
Jayxkes


Posts: 138
Joined: 7/8/2004
Status: offline 		In much the same way as someone of any other age can!

Master is, what Master does.

(in reply to GoddessTeaze)
Profile   Post #: 39
RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? - 1/29/2008 3:47:27 PM   
LivingForce


Posts: 7
Joined: 6/4/2007
Status: offline 		Hello... this makes my first post and to me its like this...  Age is a number nothing more...   I am 25 years old..  my life experience not a lot...  I had to start caring for my brother when I was 10 years old... He was 16 with Epolepsy...  when we would go out to the pool or something my parents wouldn't say to my brother to look out for me... no it was Living look out for your Brother... 

Some people have absolutely no life experience..  Thats fine... but to tell me because I haven't lived 30 years theres no way that I could have the knowledge to care for someone else?  I've been doin it since I was 10 years old in one way or another. 

Some kids become men and women of the house very early for one reason or another... sure they haven't went to work or traveled or had sex...  but they grow up fast when life changes for them.

I myself don't take myself as a Master.  A submissive makes you a Master no one else. 

(in reply to Asherdelampyr)
Profile   Post #: 40
Page:   <<   < prev  1 [2] 3 4 5   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master >> RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3 4 5   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2010
Collarchat.com is a member of the Free Speech Coalition
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.078