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RE: The lustfully sadistic woman who beats you and does... - 7/20/2008 6:55:25 AM

MISTRESSKUMA

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

It depends on how they think about it. If she considers finances to be a chore, or a skill he's better at, then he would be serving her by taking care of it. If she's laid back and doesn't care if he sets up a baseball game with buddies, as long as he checks his calender for conflicts, then by not bothering her to ask permission he could still be submissive.

An action does not define domination nor submission. Intent and emotions do.

the act of someone else having all the control does not make me feel emotionally dominant.

the act of me taking charge only in the bed room does not make me feel emotionally dominant. it would make me feel service oriented, ie a top.

the act of ironing all his clothes, cleaning and cooking would not make me feel emotionally dominant.

all of the above acts would make me FEEL emotionally submissive. better?

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RE: The lustfully sadistic woman who beats you and does... - 7/20/2008 2:33:38 PM

cloudboy

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Also, the question frames relationships as a kind of consumer choice. I just don't see relationships as choices and pre-determinations. When you go that road -- ironically you fly with a set of blinders on --- guided by tunnel vision. What about people following their intuitions?

There is another assumption in play here as well: the idea that anything less that "total domination" is not domination. Who cares really? What makes relationships work is compatibility, cooperation, and energetic interest in one another.

The first step in any relationship is: do I want to spend time with this person? If you do, why get neurotic over roles and status questions?

< Message edited by cloudboy -- 7/20/2008 2:34:54 PM >

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