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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 3:21:32 PM

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For those that say it's rude to not at least respond to an email to say, "Thank you but I am not interested," do you consider it totally rude if the person does that and blocks you at the same time?

Akasha

It's not clear to me why you would block someone under these circumstances. If the person were constantly e-mailing you after you said "No thanks", or there was some offensive content then a block might be justified.

I believe that blocking needs to be "earned" in some way.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 3:24:18 PM

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For those that say it's rude to not at least respond to an email to say, "Thank you but I am not interested," do you consider it totally rude if the person does that and blocks you at the same time?

Akasha

If the person says "Thanks but no thanks" then as far as I am concerned we are done. I am ass-u-m(e)-ing that you imply the original email was in good form, and there was no real reason to block. In that case, I don't know that I would understand why they would block someone. But since both people are done, I don't see the issue. I DO think that the blocking is in bad form though.

If the original email was clearly rude (i.e. no misunderstandings occured), then I see how there would be justification in blocking since the original email showed someone of questionable sanity (why else would you berate someone you barely know?)

OnC

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 3:42:41 PM

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If you say no thanks, how would anyone know you had blocked them unless they disregard your answer and attempt to continue correspondence?

Sometimes the continued correspondence is simply one more note thanking you for your reply and wishing you luck.

I've been the recipient of some rudeness on this site, but more often than not, when I say "no thanks, I don't think we have much in common, but I do wish you the best of luck" people are actually appreciative of receiving a response and an answer and will most often respond by saying "thank you and the best to you as well". Doesn't mean they've disregarded your decision, it just means they want to say thanks for having replied, since it seems to be a rarity.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 3:47:26 PM

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I've only blocked people if they keep writing (whining) after I've said "no thank you and good luck with your search"

The only time I do not respond is when they mention something that I have specifically said I don't do (like online cam domination).

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 3:57:06 PM

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I dont reply at all if they have not read my profile. I rarely block because the non readers generally only email once.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 4:00:24 PM

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I recently got an email from a guy who'd read my profile (*gasp*), saying we should chat. I replied, Good luck in your search. He didn't 'understand' what I'd meant by that, and repeated that we should chat. So I explained that while I appreciated his interest, it wasnt reciprocated, and repeated good luck in your search..

he hasnt replied yet, but I am anticipating a block ahead.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 4:36:02 PM

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I don't respond to a lot of profiles. I guess it needs to speak to me in order for me to respond. If I do write I always appriciate a response, but I rarely get them. A lot of times it's just read with no response back, even when I ask for it. Gets frustrating at times. If I don't get a response back I don't keep pestering so I don't know if I've ever been blocked. :) The way I look at it I feel I'm a pretty good guy, who knows why they didn't respond. I don't have time to read too much into it and I would drive myself crazy if I did.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 5:54:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: Thunderbird56

For what it's worth, here's my view on the whole "response" thing. If you have placed an *ad* here *asking* for certain people to respond to it and they do ... you *owe* them a reply. IProbably not the first time, but if several attempts all respond to him this way he may see the light. In fact, for a few seconds of effort, you could start someone down a whole new and better life.
That doesn't mean you have to put up with it. He gets ONE chance. If the filth continues past your first reply then you can block knowing that you at least made an effort to try and help.
I can understand that it must get frustrating, but I think simple manors and common courtesy still indicate a simple reply.
Myself, I have on occasion sent mail to ads that obviously aren't looking for me. I have done so *only* as a gesture of friendship and helpfulness. To point out something ambiguous or contradictory in their profile, or make a polite suggestion or what have you. To see those efforts rewarded with a "unread/deleted" is rude. Once, someone actually made the change in profile I suggested, yet still could not be bothered to say a simple thank you or send any reply at all.
Perhaps I'm just unrealistic and expect too much from our computer society?

Just a little something that I want to point out here.

It's the internet. Just because I have signed onto the site doesn't mean that I have to read or respond to anything and everything that someone shoots into My mailbox. I look at it the same way as I do junk mail. Just because I happen to have an address, doesn't necessarily mean that I want fliers from the local insurance agent, cell phone companies, or carpet cleaning company. I don't owe any of those mailings a reply any more than I owe a reply to people here if I chose not to write one.

I'm sorry to say it, but I think you are unrealistic in thinking the computer society is going to take time out of their day to respond to everyone. This is especially true if the information in a person's profile has already answered the question sent, or allows the person sending the email to know automatically there is no interest due to such things like age, location, or marital status. Personally, I happen to think it's rude to waste the time of someone who has specifically pointed out such matters in a profile, it goes unread, and they see fit to waste My time anyway.

Don't think that the spammers, mass mailers, and chat types do it once and then go away. They don't. I've sent several emails out to folks who send the same silliness over and over every month or two. After the second time, I generally ask them if they don't bother to keep track of the people who have already rejected them. I've found it saves My personal time to be rid of them the first time around.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 6:17:09 PM

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I always try and respond......at least a "no thank you, good luck in your own search". I've only had to block a handful of people since i joined this site and then it was for sending me something totally offensive. Of course you get those jackasses who will send something rude, then block right away so i don't even have a chance to tell em' to "fuck off!" and then block them! i hate that.....cowards.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 6:29:46 PM

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If someone has sent you a polite inquiry and you politely say that you are not interested, why block them? Yeah, it is kind of rude to assume that person will have nothing worthwhile to say to you at a later point, or to assume they won't just leave you alone. What I don't get is how bent out of shape people get about the e-mails they receive and don't receive on here. It doesn't damage me in any way to have someone send me an unkind e-mail - often it is a source of amusement. I just read it, laugh at it and move on. Most of the time it doesn't even warrant the effort to click the block button.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 8:10:26 PM

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If it was a polite and reasonable message?

Yes, that's pretty fucking rude.

If it wasn't?

They earned a block.

The bottom line is simple - put yourself on the other side. If you sent a perfectly reasonable and polite message to someone and they essentially responded with "Don't contact me again" + block, that is going to be viewed somewhere on a spectrum between curt and rude for most people. Now, that's not necessarily a bad thing (sometimes having that reputation can be advantageous), but that effect is definitely there.

My personal policy is that I won't block people unless they spam me or piss me off. When people just inquire politely and I say no, I don't block them unless they come back with something asinine.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/28/2008 9:17:58 PM

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It's amusing in its immaturity if done publicly. But it's what the block function is for- whether it's the door, the telephone, or the email- it's yours to use as you like.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/29/2008 7:23:34 AM

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I do not feel that one should "block" someone after one email; but if it continues,especiaaly after one has asked that person to stop, I feel that blocking them is your option. I feel that many people of this forum get emails from many strange people. Oh---how the world has changed!!!

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/29/2008 7:32:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: Thunderbird56

If you have placed an *ad* here *asking* for certain people to respond to it and they do ... you *owe* them a reply.

I have placed and ad on here and I am asking people to read it. Within that ad I placed I took the time to write some requirements that must be met in order for me to be interested in replying to someone who writes to me. I also write a warning that if you tell me you have read and enjoyed the profile and still offer to serve me I will know you havent read a word and are not worthy of a response.
So, after having done all that is it still rude of me to not reply to messages that are offering themselves to me? I made it very clear in the ad they are replying to that that was not desired. If they couldnt be bothered reading my profile, my ad as you put it, why do I owe them anything?

I hae no problem with telling someone no and then blocking them after a first contact. I have already put the effort into telling them what they need to know in my profile, in no uncertain terms. If they are trying to go for the easy way around reading that and coming directly to me, they do not warrant my time. And if they have read it and believe they are the exception to my rules then I know for a fact the block will be necessary.

It is a 2 way street, if you want a response then put the effort into reading the profile. Anyone who cant be bothered reading the information hey have hadny shouldnt feel that they are owed anything.

DV

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/29/2008 7:52:32 AM

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Hijack on: oooooooooooooooooh DV I adore, love, adore, love your new pic!

Hijack off:
Personally I think its weird to block someone who sends a nice hello sort of email. It seems to me to be a bit of an over response. I would be bewildered at being blocked for saying 'hello!' to someone.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/29/2008 8:23:42 AM

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You should be paid by the sender, fifty dollars for every single email you get after politely saying no thanks, that would do it.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/29/2008 8:36:05 AM

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/29/2008 9:10:33 AM

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*lol* Stella! Brilliant!

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/29/2008 10:04:38 AM

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LC. I want to be your slave. Block that. I block nigerians. I block young know it alls. If your tired of blocking pull your profile and put up a new one.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/29/2008 10:32:48 AM

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This is humorous. Debating manners and polite comportment in internet communications.

I do appreciate the intention though.

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