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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/29/2008 11:07:40 AM

samboct

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"It's the internet. Just because I have signed onto the site doesn't mean that I have to read or respond to anything and everything that someone shoots into My mailbox. I look at it the same way as I do junk mail. Just because I happen to have an address, doesn't necessarily mean that I want fliers from the local insurance agent, cell phone companies, or carpet cleaning company. I don't owe any of those mailings a reply any more than I owe a reply to people here if I chose not to write one."

I must respectfully disagree. An online virtual community is nevertheless, still a community. We gather here electronically because we share common interests, which implies a certain level of support for each other. By its nature, this is a site intended to foster relationships between people.

Companies that send out junk mail, email, and phone solicitations are only interested in the contents of your wallet. It's a lousy way to do business and my response is to not do business with companies that harass me in this fashion.

However, as some previous posters have pointed out, composing a response to a profile is often not an easy process, and I too have seen efforts go unacknowledged. In response to the original poster-a polite response followed with a block makes little sense. An impolite response followed with a block makes a certain amount of sense, or as I have experienced first hand, a nonsensical response followed by a block which does not permit a rejoinder also makes sense.

I will point out that courtesy is a two way street. Impolite emails exist for a variety of reasons, but it appears doubtful that efficacy is amongst them, while it is likely that anger is a motivating force. Recipients of a thoughtful, polite request for further conversation who rudely rebuff the sender by failing to respond are only encouraging the ratio of "noise"/useful emails to increase further.

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Sam

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/29/2008 11:34:40 AM

MrRodgers

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

I don't see how it could be rude. After all, being told no does not give the person an excuse to try and beg and plead their way through to your pants.

I didn't at first coming to the kinkosphere agree necessarily but I do now. If only because of the mountain of email that available women receive and from both sides of that delightful power grope, er grab...it can become a bit much.

One way to reject people is to keep it to two words without any reasoning that might inspire a response.

It really doesn't matter why one may be rejected...it is always up to the emailer/profiler upon initiating contact to be on steady ground. If one has devoted enough time and energy to that and also very selectively chooses whom they email...one minimize one's rejections.

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RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block s... - 10/29/2008 12:16:37 PM

WinsomeDefiance

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ORIGINAL: marieToo

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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

If you say no thanks, how would anyone know you had blocked them unless they disregard your answer and attempt to continue correspondence?

Sometimes the continued correspondence is simply one more note thanking you for your reply and wishing you luck.

I've been the recipient of some rudeness on this site, but more often than not, when I say "no thanks, I don't think we have much in common, but I do wish you the best of luck" people are actually appreciative of receiving a response and an answer and will most often respond by saying "thank you and the best to you as well". Doesn't mean they've disregarded your decision, it just means they want to say thanks for having replied, since it seems to be a rarity.

You raise an excellent point. In fact, thinking back I can recall getting a similar letter in response to my thanks, but no thanks email. Why it didn't occur to me before I'd posted, pfft - no clue.