starshineowned
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Joined: 4/19/2005 From: Texas Status: offline
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As a result of our natural roles, we come at this from a fundamentally different perspective. Regardless of the gender of the dominant partner, a position of strength is always more respected than that of perceived weakness. Slaves/subs often, or must, hide their true nature because that is not an accepted norm in western society. To operate effectively in that society, it is difficult to be entirely true to our nature in all situations. Especially in situations, like mine, where one gender is disproportionately represented, to go against those cultural norms invites a stigma that causes more problems than it's worth to be true to my nature. With my Master, I have the freedom to be what I am, but with those that could never understand the position that I have chosen, nor could I explain that feeling to them, it would be impossible to even exist within that society while expressing who I am. Todays woman is expected to be self sufficient and strong. Deviating from that expectation, in expressing my desire to follow, is seen as weakness and only invites scorn. If I were a Domme, it would be easy to express those things, and in fact most women would cheer for me. "His house, His rules" just doesn't carry the same connotation that your statement does. Yours denotes strength, to be respected, while mine shows weakness to be ridiculed. This is exactly the mentality and expectations that society on the whole has, and thats quite okay and fine. Despite that..we chose to not follow that game anymore and continue to deny our true natures or at the very least not even follow the paths to lead us there. starshine
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