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Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 5:54:31 AM   
hogtieyoutight


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 I have in the past had a couple subs that I would use sexually be it oral or vaginal while they were tied up. When I cum for instance on her face I have left her tied and wiped my "deposit" off. She has told me she does not need me to do this and that I should just allow it to stay in place till I am ready to release her which may not be right away. She says I, as a Dom should not lower myself to do this..What are your thoughts
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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 5:56:47 AM   
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It's too early in the morning for this....
Do what works for you and for the person you're involved with. If you want to leave it, then leave it.
If you want to wipe it off then wipe it off. It's your rules for the game.

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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 6:15:40 AM   
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I say spank her hard for being selfish... she just wanted to use it for a facial.

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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 7:24:00 AM   
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My thoughts are that you need to get in touch with your inner Dom and see what HE wants.

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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 8:11:23 AM   
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I'm of the belief that if you think it will drip in her eyes, you should wipe it off. That burns badly. Basically he will wipe my face, to prevent it from getting in my eyes, but he leaves it if it on the hair. If you want her to be able to see then wipe it. If you don't enjoy her sneezing repeatedly to get it out of her nose then wipe it. If you don't care, then don't.

Did you develop this habit of wiping it away because of an incident with an ex? Because if her eyes started burning and you needed to cut the ropes so she could get to the eyewash,  then I can see you worrying about this. If so, tell the new one that you prefer she lay tied for a while happily and therefore aren't going to do this when she's tied. Your choice. Or make her beg for it if you would enjoy that.

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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 8:17:11 AM   
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Ah well - it's your choice what you do for starters.

But perhaps leaving it to dry will make her feel more owned... Certainly a couple of my playmates loved the thought of being "marked" like this..

Or if you prefer to wipe it off, why not use her panties to do it - then she can have a nice damp reminder of your dominance when she puts them back on?

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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 8:19:09 AM   
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male ejaculate is alkolotic and can burn the more sensitive membranes of the eyes as mentioned previosly. however it is Your dynamic and it should suit You.

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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 8:21:03 AM   
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male ejaculate is alkolotic and can burn the more sensitive membranes of the eyes as mentioned previosly.



that is why it should be swallowed ...all for safety

sorry...just enjoying the start of my weekend ;)

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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 8:32:34 AM   
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I kind of agree with those who say that it's up to you.

My views on selfishness for a dominant are admittedly a bit odd. Because I always preach responsibility and accountability. And many people read this as my saying you should pander first to the needs and wants of your girl.

In my mind being a dominant is an act of claiming. We take things. We make things our own. It's impossible for a dom to control his space if he doesn't claim it, and impossible to keep safe what he doesn't control. Since this was clearly in your area of control, it's fine if she says she'd prefer you leave it, but I think calling it selfish is both redundant and crossing some line, somewhere.

I'm told I'm an odd sort of sadist. I don't so much get off on pain, but inflicting emotional difficulty and duress is another sort of claiming tool I have for driving home that a space is mine. But that's also for the benefit of the girl since that's what, at that moment, she's there for. So, often I intentionally do what I know my partner won't like, but in that way it's as much for them as it is for me, even though it's dictated by my wants and, if you will, my selfishness. It also makes me enjoy it often a touch more but, y'know.

So in other words, the responsibility I preach is in taking care of, at least in that moment, what is yours; under your stewardship and control. And sometimes that means first enforcing the nature of that exchange in a way they won't like.

In short, fair enough if she regards it as selfishness. In your place, I would inform her that selfishness is my prerogative, and make a point of doing the same thing she complained about until she learned to show proper deference in requesting otherwise. But that's just me, trying to show my own views and approach, not to enforce them on anyone else.


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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 8:40:02 AM   
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Sir cleans it off of me, I don't ask but He does it anyway.

And this makes me lasugh inside because my last bf who was vanilla would never do it. He would hand me a towel and go into the bathroom to clean himself off.

You would think it would be the other way around.

*shrugs*

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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 8:41:39 AM   
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My thoughts are that you should let it dry on her face and make he wear it shopping. Not because you were "lowering yourself" by wiping it prior, but because she is under the impression that you are less than a dominant if you clean it from her. And then, if it were me, I would talk to her about not seeing each other again. She seems to have some bias about what is acceptable for a role, and not seeing you as the person in charge who does what he wants.

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 I have in the past had a couple subs that I would use sexually be it oral or vaginal while they were tied up. When I cum for instance on her face I have left her tied and wiped my "deposit" off. She has told me she does not need me to do this and that I should just allow it to stay in place till I am ready to release her which may not be right away. She says I, as a Dom should not lower myself to do this..What are your thoughts


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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 8:43:26 AM   
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Sir cleans it off of me, I don't ask but He does it anyway.

And this makes me lasugh inside because my last bf who was vanilla would never do it. He would hand me a towel and go into the bathroom to clean himself off.

You would think it would be the other way around.

*shrugs*



cleaning or not to clean..I think it is a person thingy...not a lifestyle/vanilla thingy.
Propably some D's are also discusted of their cum and will not clean it.

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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 8:47:28 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Justme696


quote:

ORIGINAL: Elizabeth666

Sir cleans it off of me, I don't ask but He does it anyway.

And this makes me lasugh inside because my last bf who was vanilla would never do it. He would hand me a towel and go into the bathroom to clean himself off.

You would think it would be the other way around.

*shrugs*



cleaning or not to clean..I think it is a person thingy...not a lifestyle/vanilla thingy.
Propably some D's are also discusted of their cum and will not clean it.



Oh yes, no doubt that's true. :)

I just thought it was a little funny how the ex would never try to dominate me in any way, shape or form and never even try to clean it off. Even if he did it on my back, which makes it really hard to reach. Maybe the ex had a problem with it *shrugs*

Whereas Sir always does it. I know He has no problem with His cum.



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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 8:59:22 AM   
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I would get another girl to lick it off her face, or wipe it with your cock, and have her lick you clean, or rub it off with her hair, stuff like that.

You need to watch more porn. Its a good source of practical cum-cleaning tips.

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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 9:02:15 AM   
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Personally...I would lick it off and spit it in her mouth...

tsk tsk

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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 9:28:20 AM   
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TC!! *hugs*

OP:  do what makes you happy.


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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 9:39:00 AM   
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She says I, as a Dom should not lower myself to do this.


If you are the Dom and you want to do it, you're not "lowering" yourself. So the question is, do you want to do it?

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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 11:10:29 AM   
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 I have in the past had a couple subs that I would use sexually be it oral or vaginal while they were tied up. When I cum for instance on her face I have left her tied and wiped my "deposit" off. She has told me she does not need me to do this and that I should just allow it to stay in place till I am ready to release her which may not be right away. She says I, as a Dom should not lower myself to do this..What are your thoughts


My thought is that you aren't quite getting the hang of this Dom thing.

Perhaps when you get out of sub school...

Honestly. Take control.

She'll be happier too.

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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 12:03:03 PM   
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Who's domming who, OP?


You could either instruct or allow her to beg for it to be left there. But then the choice is still yours. Be comfy with your choices, even if you choose to be her service dom.

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RE: Cleaning my cum - 12/4/2009 12:05:08 PM   
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. She says I, as a Dom should not lower myself to do this..What are your thoughts

 
Flog her ass for saying such..
YOU Are boss..or are you??
 
Do as you please..leave it in her hair for a day...IF YOU WANT..
 
A sub once said to me..
 
" DOMMES should not suck cock or be fukked from the back..it is not DOMINANT ....YOUR place is  on top"

HE soon found His place ...with the door banging his ass as he left.
 
 
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