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'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 5:18:28 AM

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I keep getting emails like this. The most recent was someone asking if I knew how to take blood pressure and if I owned a BP cuff. I said yes, no, and why do you ask and all I got was 'I'll explain when we talk'. I expect my questions to be answered just as validly as I answer his, or yours, or theirs. My questions are just as important to me, and I wouldn't ask if I didn't want to know. It irritates me that some guys think they can just write me off like that for a 'later date'.

I have a feeling this guy wants to 'back me into a corner' so to speak by getting my yahoo information so he has more personal info on me. It's been my experience that this is what guys are aiming to do when they approach me like this. After I give them my yahoo info, they start demanding things and I just ignore them.

So how would you deal with this? It's irritating, and I want to tell the jerk that it's irritating, but it'd probably fall on deaf ears. Would you just block people like this? Send a 'polite' response? Rip em a new one? And how can I avoid this kind of thing in the future?

RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 5:20:27 AM

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Block him....you totally dont want to know what he wants to do with that cuff, btw

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 5:22:56 AM

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Block him....you totally dont want to know what he wants to do with that cuff, btw

My imagination told me something like use it as a cock ring or wrap it around his neck for self strangulation but he needed someone to stand by to make sure he didn't kill himself. Anything around MY neck just makes me feel sick lol

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 5:23:43 AM

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Fortunately, I haven't recieved any rude, impolite or annoying emails.

I would say block, don't waste your time on someone you already suspect has alterior motives.

You can try adding on your profile (Maybe in the beginning) that you are not here for games. Any and all emails that are rude or anything will result in them being deleted and the user blocked.

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 5:49:04 AM

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Hmmm. I sure wouldn't block him before i found what he wanted it for. Just to bloody nosey to pass that one up

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 5:54:19 AM

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I'd reply "we're talking now" but then again I'm not quick to give out my yahoo information to anyone. I see no problem with communicating through CM emails until I'm actually interested in the person.

But if you are having a problem with people getting your YIM and then not leaving you alone I'd recommend making a new yahoo account to talk to people on CM and use the web/java/email browser for it, then give them your 'real' YIM once you know them well enough to know they aren't a creep.

Really I think it's kind of pathetic for a guy to ask about a toy/implement first, rather than getting to know the person, then say they'll explain when they talk...it's too obvious they're just looking for a casual scene type thing and they're pathetic for not being upfront about it.

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 5:59:19 AM

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Hi ordinary:)

I had a cmail like that awhile ago. I never replied and blocked him. My thinking is i would not make a good nurse, and i don't come equipped with medical tools. blocking really is my friend, as well as deleting:)

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 6:36:34 AM

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I might send a note back explaining that one of the reasons women won't talk to him is because he isn't answering questions when they are asked. And that beyond that, approaching someone to fulfill his sexual fantasy as this must be, is a good way never to get it fulfilled. That nobody likes being approached by a stranger as a nonperson for the sole purpose of getting himself off while ignoring the other person's needs and indeed the fact that the other person is a person.

When I've done this however, I usually include a bit of how their mother would be ashamed of them for acting like such a jerk and I know she taught them better, and I've suggested strongly they tell her what they wrote to me and see what she thinks of it. I have never gotten a response after doing this, never had to block them, they just slink away with their tails between their legs.

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 7:04:27 AM

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I've heard from this guy. I responded by telling him that in an inbox of silly messages, his took the cake.

The way you deal with people like this is get better at spotting them. Assuming he sent the same message to you as to me:

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Hello. How are you? Do you have Yahoo/Skype/Paltalk? Do you happen to know how to check blood pressure? Do you own a BP cuff by chance? Let's talk

I'm not sure what about this message made you think this guy would be a productive conversational partner. I doubt he's looking to harvest personal information. (Wouldn't he use a less unusual lure?). He probably is just looking for someone to do something with that BP cuff and is taking the "drop a million lines into the sea" approach to finding someone. It's ok to nibble on the lines, but it's unwise to expect much conversation in response,

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 7:08:27 AM

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This sounds like a topic that's usually reserved for after a relationship is formed. I rarely speak of kink before the first few meetings, as there surely must be something there other than kink.(unless it's a pro basis)

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 7:14:05 AM

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 7:28:30 AM

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I got email from the same guy who wanted to know if I had a blood pressure cuff and knew how to use it long ago. So he's been doing this for some time and been relatively unsuccessful by the looks of things. As Dr. Phil says..."How's that working for you?" I'd say Mr. BP Cuff's approach isn't working too well and I'd wager a guess that the guys who also want to explain when they talk to you are just wankers looking for wank fodder or fetish enthusiasts seeking to have a fetish fulfilled. If they were interested in YOU they'd ask questions, try to get a conversation going, etc ...not rush you off to a private chat site.

I usually just don't answer this type of email or I block them but if it really bothers me I've been known to fire off an email before blocking them to tell them that they're idiots. Unfortunately, any 'help' you try to give these clueless people will indeed fall on deaf ears. It seems as though people who have a fetish that they are trying to fulfill or an appt with their hand are not interested in dealing with a whole person - we are just temporary vehicles for their fulfillment. Therefore they just try to get to the fetish or wanking asap by explaining when they talk to you what they want and seeing if you'll do it or not. You yourself don't matter, your willingness to use a BP cuff or do naked camming does.

You can't avoid it. Mr BP Cuff seems to have been around forever, there are a couple of others that make the rounds on a continual basis and wankers are here to stay. Block, send a polite response, or rip em a new one - do whatever makes you happy because they're here to stay and it's just part of being on the internet.

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 7:41:52 AM

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definaty block the person. it seems as if he only wants to fulfill his desires not anyone elses.

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 7:55:11 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ordinary

So how would you deal with this? It's irritating, and I want to tell the jerk that it's irritating, but it'd probably fall on deaf ears. Would you just block people like this? Send a 'polite' response? Rip em a new one? And how can I avoid this kind of thing in the future?

I don't give out my messenger handles to anyone who doesn't answer my questions in full. I also only give out a Skype name that I've set up not to use my real name at all. Most people don't seem to have Skype so they have to download it to bug me. :-)

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 7:57:30 AM

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I don't do well with someone wasting my time with such crap and just block and delete and move on

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 8:05:34 AM

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Well I was tastefully rude just to satisfy my irritation and then blocked. Thanks for the advice and it's kind of creepy that more than one person knows who I'm talking about.

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 8:28:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: ordinary

I keep getting emails like this. The most recent was someone asking if I knew how to take blood pressure and if I owned a BP cuff. I said yes, no, and why do you ask and all I got was 'I'll explain when we talk'. I expect my questions to be answered just as validly as I answer his, or yours, or theirs. My questions are just as important to me, and I wouldn't ask if I didn't want to know. It irritates me that some guys think they can just write me off like that for a 'later date'.

I have a feeling this guy wants to 'back me into a corner' so to speak by getting my yahoo information so he has more personal info on me. It's been my experience that this is what guys are aiming to do when they approach me like this. After I give them my yahoo info, they start demanding things and I just ignore them.

So how would you deal with this? It's irritating, and I want to tell the jerk that it's irritating, but it'd probably fall on deaf ears. Would you just block people like this? Send a 'polite' response? Rip em a new one? And how can I avoid this kind of thing in the future?

I would just be as firm and resolute are you are in your post. Tell the guy that the BP cuff appears to be a medical issue and you want "full disclosure" before enlisting or talking any further with him. Be firm and polite. If they ignore your request for full disclosure or are obnoxious, then do what you feel comfortable--either ignore them or block them, etc.

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 9:38:52 AM

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You can't avoid it. Mr BP Cuff seems to have been around forever, there are a couple of others that make the rounds on a continual basis and wankers are here to stay. Block, send a polite response, or rip em a new one - do whatever makes you happy because they're here to stay and it's just part of being on the internet.

Isn't there any way to fix them up with the slave girls who, and I quote:

"want good master bcos i am tired of fakes and will serve my master for long life and am from london but now in nigeria bcos my master died of blood disease and now want to serve new master will do anything for good master but not time waster master will suck and fuck any man who is good master please come to me master ready to relocate for good master..."

I think they would be quite happy with each other.

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 9:40:33 AM

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Block and delete, OP. You were talking.

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RE: 'I'll explain when we talk' - 12/5/2009 9:44:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: lizi
You can't avoid it. Mr BP Cuff seems to have been around forever, there are a couple of others that make the rounds on a continual basis and wankers are here to stay. Block, send a polite response, or rip em a new one - do whatever makes you happy because they're here to stay and it's just part of being on the internet.

Isn't there any way to fix them up with the slave girls who, and I quote:

"want good master bcos i am tired of fakes and will serve my master for long life and am from london but now in nigeria bcos my master died of blood disease and now want to serve new master will do anything for good master but not time waster master will suck and fuck any man who is good master please come to me master ready to relocate for good master..."

I think they would be quite happy with each other.

Heeeyyyyyy, i didnt give you permission to cut and paste my profile here!!!

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