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female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 9:46:07 AM

ricken

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I have been thinking about the concept of a forced orgasm for my sub...Seen some ideas on porn and thought it looked good, so I would try it.
She does have orgasms and often pretty intense I love watching her.
This weekend, I thought it would be cool to try...I started out slowly teasing her and makeing sure she was really horny. Then I stoped and made her do a few things...make me a drink, change her outfit to do some modeling for me, I told her to put on a porn DVD she likes, then I bound her (standing) and put the vibrator to her. I was talking to her and playing with her tits, and a couple of times she seemed like she was close. But never orgasmed, even she wanted too.
When I realized it wasn't working, I backed off, let her calm down and re-started in a less agressive way. At the point she told me her pussy was too numb from the vibrator, I actually used the low setting.
I am wondering if this is common, are vibrators too much for some women? Or do I need to change the way I'm doing things? I wasn't even useing one of those Hitachi (sp?) Any insight would be great, thanks

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 11:16:53 AM

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Sometimes, when introducing new things into play, reaching orgasm can be hard, even if it is fun and she is enjoying herself. There is still an expectation for her, and at first, she may have a problem with it.
However, I have found that consistency is key. Keep working with her; as she gets more used to it, she'll relax and you'll get the result you want.

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 12:58:02 PM

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Does she normally orgasm standing?

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 1:25:30 PM

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Thanks for the word about consistancy, there is truth in that....I'm kind of new and think maybe I have been intoducing too many new ideas too soon.

As far as a standing orgasm, she said she did once....I didn't ask the details of when or how, but (to me) that was kind of the "forced" part of the orgasm, makeing her stand while orgasm. I think for the next few weeks I will concentrate on a standing orgasm and see how that works.

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 2:08:42 PM

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quote:

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At the point she told me her pussy was too numb from the vibrator, I actually used the low setting.
I am wondering if this is common, are vibrators too much for some women? Or do I need to change the way I'm doing things? I wasn't even useing one of those Hitachi (sp?) Any insight would be great, thanks

I've never had non-orgasm issues with a vibe, but have friends who've complained about the numbness thing. However, to date, I've never been able to orgasm while standing.

Keeping at it sounds like a really good plan though.

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 2:43:48 PM

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I find most of those little buzzy vibrators kind of annoying, and I probably wouldn't come in a standing position with one of them, either. Now that I think about it, it's hard to come lying down with one of those little fuckers buzzing away. Yuk.

Are you just holding it against her in one spot? That will numb her. Move it around some. More at first, and then more slowly as she gets more aroused and closer to coming. You might try letting her "drive" it herself to find out what works for her, and then tell & show you how to do it the same way.

Personally, I recommend the Hitachi. She'll come. Go to 'kink.com' and check out some of their sites like Wired Pussy and Device Bondage and watch how they use the Hitachi on the models. You can watch the 30 sec. trailer videos for free and get the idea.

Just re-read your original post......about the low setting? If she's not coming, kick it up! It's sounding like you're being a little cautious, which is nice, but it's maybe too cautious....is she gets close and then gets numb, then she needs more juice when she gets close to send her over the top. Kick the speed up, move it in quick little circles, press harder with it. The deeper pressure when I'm getting close is what works for me.

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 2:56:45 PM

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. . . Or do I need to change the way I'm doing things? I wasn't even useing one of those Hitachi (sp?) Any insight would be great, thanks

Yes, get a Hitachi.

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 3:08:33 PM

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Hitachi is the only way to go. In my experience, it's 100% foolproof (on the low setting--the high setting can cause numbness, but even then, I still cum

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 3:09:49 PM

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hitachi or hitachi compatibles do seem to get 'er done.

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 3:12:41 PM

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OP. Yeah, less new things at once. Spread them out over time.... get more mileage out of your kinky ideas.
And agreed about the hitachi magic wand. $70 or so but worth it. Lasts forever, plugs into the wall so you never have battery issues, powerful. I agree that the lower setting seems better for most girls, but they also like the high setting sometimes just for a little extra intensity and "omg help meeeeeeeeeeeeeee" factor. ;)

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 4:36:17 PM

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As a few others have eluded to, I've never cum while standing, yet...

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 4:36:24 PM

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Thanks, I actually did change the settings and play and move it around....I can do it if she's on her back and tied down. I just wanted to push her into something different. I just thought the Hitachi might be too powerfull and cause more numbness.
Thinking back on it, I do tend to keep the vibe setting low, I move it around, but tend to keep it low, guess I need to step it up.
Guess I'll just have to clean out the couch and car seats for coins untill I save up enough. Still sticking to the idea of making her do the standing orgasm even with out the Hitachi. In the meantime I am useing recahrgable batteries in the vibes

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 4:38:32 PM

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...and if she never orgasms while standing it wont be for lack of me trying

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 4:43:38 PM

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two thumbs down on the hitachi, Master likes to torture me with it, but I'll never come from that thing, its way too intense.

Regarding the original question, it depends on the type of orgasm. Every woman is wired differently. I can have a G spot orgasm in just about any position, on command. to have a clit orgasm, it's a do it myself thing, or not at all. Anal orgasm only happens with clit stimulation at the same time. All three at once is like operating a helicopter, complicated, but exhilarating when it all works right!!!

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 5:20:07 PM

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I have orgasmed standing once. And that's over years of him trying pole bondage on me. The difference there is I had my legs spread, tied to separate uprights on the deck. If my legs are together, I feel like I'm going to fall.

The same vibrator that makes me squirt lying down does nothing when I'm standing.

Next time try it with her lying down first.

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 5:37:45 PM

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shit, I am running out to buy a hitachi or or anything that sounds like hitachi!

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 8:05:11 PM

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quote:

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shit, I am running out to buy a hitachi or or anything that sounds like hitachi!

HMMM.....Hibachi

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 8:11:36 PM

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Hmm is it more difficult for women to have an orgasm standing? It didnt occur to me that it would be. I am a bit surprised to hear it.

I had a wee braun and it was a joy, I havent tried the Hitachi. wrrwrrwrrrwrrrwrrwrr : P

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 8:15:54 PM

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quote:

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quote:

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shit, I am running out to buy a hitachi or or anything that sounds like hitachi!

HMMM.....Hibachi

hibachi sounds good too, I am hungry!!

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RE: female forced orgasm - 2/15/2010 11:27:59 PM

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Hmm is it more difficult for women to have an orgasm standing? It didnt occur to me that it would be. I am a bit surprised to hear it.

I have only done it once or twice. It has something to do with the tension in the legs (you have to get the tension off your feet). I know alot of guys that cannot orgasm standing up either, or their legs give out immediately afterwards.

I personally prefer the Homedics double-headed back massager over the hitachi. Covers more area, surrounds the clit, and has graduated speed.

OP, I would suggest that you do NOT try to combine delayed orgasm with forced orgasm, or she may lose the ability to orgasm AT ALL for a while. Pick one or the other, not both. Right now it sounds more like you are playing with delayed orgasm, and, as can happen, you went too far and she couldn't cum at all.

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