Sinergy -> RE: Removing a collar as punishment.... (5/13/2006 5:18:22 PM)
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Hello A/all, Interesting thread. I like the juxtaposition between D/s collaring and marraige structures in our society. I would never remove my submissive's collar to punish her. I would consider that to be a serious sundering of the bond between us, and a twisted form of emotional blackmail a la "do what I say and I will put it back on." I dont believe I have to rely on emotional cruelty to keep my submissive in line. On a more general note, a close friend of mine (marraige counselor) once told me that the only way to make a marraige work was to "accept having the fly shit in the pepper." Works for me. People contain multitudes. People are variable in their moods. And I dont really want a Stepford Sub who has a completely bland personality with no warts. We can work it out without my resorting to what I consider emotional abuse to do so. The only reason I have ever removed a collar from a submissive was to indicate to her that we were through. It took her several months to overcome my general passivity and rose colored glasses and tendency to ignore behaviors I dont want repeated, but sadly (for her) she was successful in her endeavors. She learned that I say goodbye like a cat. I make a big show of being with you when we are together, but when I say goodbye I simply walk off without looking back. Just me, could be wrong, but there ya go. Sinergy
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