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slavekal -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/24/2010 4:21:44 PM)
The femdom parties we have hosted have been biological dominant woman and sub men only. Nothing against anyone else, but we were trying to create a specific environment. Nobody needed to wonder what a particular person's orientation or biology was. One thing about the dommes in my area is that they are not very proactive. If the guys don't get a party organized, the ladies aren't going to. Why a few of them don''t get on the phone and plan little get togethers, I cannot say.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/24/2010 7:09:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavekal The femdom parties we have hosted have been biological dominant woman and sub men only. Nothing against anyone else, but we were trying to create a specific environment. Nobody needed to wonder what a particular person's orientation or biology was. One thing about the dommes in my area is that they are not very proactive. If the guys don't get a party organized, the ladies aren't going to. Why a few of them don''t get on the phone and plan little get togethers, I cannot say. We do, I think.... but I have to say that we know a different set of dominant women! And I never had a problem filling a club fem party, when I had the club. One thing about my version of club fem is that I allowed anyone to attend according to the gender they LIVED as, because that is how the Detroit Leatherwomyn's Dinner was run. The only confusion, oddly, was a crossdresser who REALLY spiffed himself up...

Andalusite -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/24/2010 7:12:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Madame4a I am glad to hear this... and in truth, my boy would LOVE to go to a tea party and serve.. she'd be in heaven... I always swore I'd do a tea at my place some day.. maybe I will when we move in together. This specific group does have female servers for some events, but most have only male servers. I know they allow transgendered women who live as women to attend, so I'm not sure how they would handle that for your boy. If she wasn't allowed to serve, she would at least be allowed to attend - all women are welcome regardless of D/s orientation, as long as they seem congenial. [:D] They have lots of resources available for teas, if you want to put one on at some point. I've thought about attending the tea server class along with my submissive playpartner, or possibly a more vanilla Japanese Tea Ceremony kind of class. My Master isn't particularly into high protocol, but he enjoys it when I do service in a more ritualistic fashion. My submissive and I have also engaged in that with each other to some extent (with her serving me). I just think that it really can be powerful, and emphasise the grace of the one conducting it, and expressing the history of it.

slavekal -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/26/2010 7:54:08 AM)
The guys I know have no issue with men who "live" as women, but we have no desire to serve or be trampled by them. When we have parties, we really want to know that any woman we are dealing with is a real woman. No surprises. Lady Hibiscus, I only wish Ms. Mlicious and some of the other ladies in this area were as proactive as you are.

toyboyslaveandy -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/27/2010 2:31:53 PM)
Hi there, I've been keeping up with this thread and think that it has been realy interesting. How would you find out about these sort of events and get involved with them?

undergroundsea -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/27/2010 3:17:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: toyboyslaveandy Hi there, I've been keeping up with this thread and think that it has been realy interesting. How would you find out about these sort of events and get involved with them? See clubfem.com for a list of chapters across the country. If there is no chapter nearby, there are femdom groups outside of Club FEM. If there are none, how about reaching to others in your community and starting one? Cheers, Sea

toyboyslaveandy -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/28/2010 7:30:23 AM)
quote: quote: ORIGINAL: toyboyslaveandy Hi there, I've been keeping up with this thread and think that it has been realy interesting. How would you find out about these sort of events and get involved with them? See clubfem.com for a list of chapters across the country. If there is no chapter nearby, there are femdom groups outside of Club FEM. If there are none, how about reaching to others in your community and starting one? Cheers, Sea Thanks very much I'll have a look into it

subs4u -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/30/2010 7:34:07 AM)
As an experienced submissive male, i have served Fem Dommes as individuals or perhaps a pair at the most but never a group. The idea seems terrific and i woud be content to massage feet or even sit in a corner under a proper toilet seat and serve in that manner, though i am not sure that these parties ever have toilet slaves available.

Baldbalzs -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/30/2010 9:11:50 AM)
My part time Mistress usually demands that I wear a tight cockring under my clothes. and leaving it on when I am naked to show off my shaved and trimmed body, do subs at these parties exhibit erections or are they required to be in erection or is a soft hanging one perfered

slavekal -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/30/2010 9:42:28 AM)
The best way to get involved is to get involved. Go to fetish events, munches, parties, shows, etc. Make a few friends. Once you know people, you will be invited to private parties sometime. If you get lucky and hook up with a Mistress who actually organizes things, you are definitely in. Some ladies love the idea of a human toilet. Some don't. It all depends on which ladies you talk to.

BoiJen -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/30/2010 12:21:33 PM)
The majority of advertised parties like this are FemDom/male s-type. With a few exceptions (slaveKal being one of them) most of the guys I've met looking to go to one of these parties treat the situation as a fetish buffet and go about objectifying the Women there under the guise of "serving". It becomes about how many Women they can get to x, y, and z to them....not so much about what those Women really want to do. Obviously, there are some exceptions. My experience with the large majority of individuals who attend those parties, when asking, is that certain community protocols that I'm used to don't seem to be observed or expected and maybe that's why I see the things I see in those types of parties. I'd really like to see a FemDom (Female Dominant...butch, fem, whatever) and SOAG (s-types of any gender) party in this area. Unfortunately, like most areas, south Florida has a distinct lack of FemDoms interested in this type of party. Club FEM has a huge following down here and they seem to be more structured than some other F/m parties I've heard about. The Woman who runs them is very active in the Leather community down here and I think that helps (or at least helps bridge the "gap"). Just my musings around the topic. boi slaveKal if you and MsM visit anytime when we can plan something (maybe a lunch) we'll try to set up for you to meet the organizer for the group. They have a social event once a month as well...that and with everything else, I'm sure we could keep you entertained lol...heal well.

rob425 -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/30/2010 9:02:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BoiJen The majority of advertised parties like this are FemDom/male s-type. With a few exceptions (slaveKal being one of them) most of the guys I've met looking to go to one of these parties treat the situation as a fetish buffet and go about objectifying the Women there under the guise of "serving". It becomes about how many Women they can get to x, y, and z to them....not so much about what those Women really want to do. Exactly the reason I haven't gone to a play party yet I don't want to be label into that group of men cause I personally not like that. Its these males which keep me from contacting people from fear of being lumped into that group of men. If I were to go to a play party I think it would be much easier if I went with someone than to go as a single male. How are play parties attending as a single male who maintains proper party etiquette? Luckily for me I finally started developing a friendship of a Domme who would like to go to party's with me as we we have felt each other out more. So I am hoping to go to my first play party soon, maybe my impressions from what I read aren't true.

BoiJen -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/30/2010 9:24:13 PM)
Well, honestly, many of the parties limit single male attendance for this very reason and over look that many already attached men still act this way. It's no different than the guy that goes to the bar to see how many numbers he can get. This same guy is going to do this same behavior whether he's attached or not. The other thing is that the only difference between the behavior described here and that of a respectable s-type being used by various FemDoms for their pleasure is a mindset of entitlement or self focus. The exact same behaviors could be happening...it just all depends on the attitude around it. Just to follow up my comment. boi

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/31/2010 10:46:26 AM)
The Michigan Mistresses group is having one of thos naked waiter teas this Spring... Because I am Shallow, I am pushing for little aprons on the guys, and only good looking ones near Me. Because I don't want someone's junk hanging near my cake. ;)

BoiJen -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/31/2010 11:06:25 AM)
***WARNING: Rant* I am personally distinctly opposed to serving naked or being served (if a guest in someone's home) by a naked anybody when it comes to food or drinks. It's simply inappropriate to put anyone's sexually based fantasies near anybody else's food unless otherwise previously arranged and consented to. And no matter what anyone else may think, FORMAL service includes clothing, no gag, no butt plug, no wigs...none of it. Formal service is done in formal attire with formal manners and in formal settings. Having been a formal server professionally...this is beyond pet peeve when individuals insist on calling fetish oriented service "formal". And I refuse to be open minded about it. Thankfully, there's several FemDoms in this area who happen to agree with me on this aspect and only a few who are clouded by what turns them on. End Rant** boi

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/31/2010 11:46:13 AM)
Thank you, Boijen, personally I agree with you COMPLETELY. But, there is a group who is interested in having the event, so what can I tell ya? The very IDEA of wally's protruding tummy and hairy junk ANYWHERE NEAR MY FOOD puts me off!! EW EW EW. Did I say EW? Don't bother me when I'm eating!! AFTER dinner, the mens can strip down and entertain me with their mad skillz.

AlexandraLynch -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/31/2010 12:13:29 PM)
We have a local group that focuses on sub males and "those who love and enjoy them". We have brought a female sub to these before purely as a service sub to take care of her male dominant...who was looking forward to helping his dominant wife with a "forced bi" scene with her sub boy. The only restrictions are that female-identified submissives dress in non-fetish-wear and restrict themselves to domestic service, and not make use of the dungeon. There are plenty of other parties where the focus is on beating the girls; they've never had anyone have any problems with this being a special time to just beat the boys. And bois. (grin)

Madame4a -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/31/2010 12:52:55 PM)
and one out of the area that agrees completely with you... and ultimately, I don't wany anyone's junk falling in my tea cup quote: ORIGINAL: BoiJen ***WARNING: Rant* I am personally distinctly opposed to serving naked or being served (if a guest in someone's home) by a naked anybody when it comes to food or drinks. It's simply inappropriate to put anyone's sexually based fantasies near anybody else's food unless otherwise previously arranged and consented to. And no matter what anyone else may think, FORMAL service includes clothing, no gag, no butt plug, no wigs...none of it. Formal service is done in formal attire with formal manners and in formal settings. Having been a formal server professionally...this is beyond pet peeve when individuals insist on calling fetish oriented service "formal". And I refuse to be open minded about it. Thankfully, there's several FemDoms in this area who happen to agree with me on this aspect and only a few who are clouded by what turns them on. End Rant** boi

Smutmonger -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (3/31/2010 12:54:35 PM)
Anytime you start dragging fetish into a situation-it goes from "Service" to "kink." Service is it's own reward-completely seperate from any sexual gratification.

BoiJen -> RE: Femdom Mistress Parties (4/1/2010 6:09:15 AM)
Lady H, I wasn't gonna name names this time but thank you for providing a great example of why nudity and food only go together for scenes not service. As a side note...what happens before or after the food involvement isn't as much of a concern for me. Get naked do what you want....just keep your bits away from the ingestables. boi

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