lally2
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i havent read that thread, i saw it, i just passed. i figured thered be plenty of people responding to the OP about honesty being an important part of any relationship worth a damn. the thing is its a typical newbie question - based i fear, entirely on the fact that newbies get hammered by asshats - i love QSM's posts, always, i love his honesty, integrity and upfrontness, always - but there is a danger in putting everyone into the same collective when there are so many gradations from wannabes to actual, real life, genuine people who know exactly how it goes down. being tarred by the same brush as some of those asshat wannabes is a bit harsh - the folks who walk the walk have been walking it for long enough to know how it all works. there is a huge amount of misonception that runs along parrallel lines with what Ds and Ms actually is and how it actually works. those misonceptions become skewed. prime example: ive just been chatting to my bloke and asking him again for the umpteenth time why my surrender is so powerful to Him when it has been me giving my surrender to Him rather than Him taking it. for a long while it has been the Dom taking my submission because that is how the general concept came across. in point of fact theres nothing wrong with that, so far as it goes. but this is where the parrallel lines get misconstrued. the overall message is right but the approach is entirely different. a sub surrenders herself to a Dominant who will then take her surrender as His, that is where the power lies and the power exchange begins. its a subtle difference when written down but it has hugely different ramifications for the two people involved. i believe these subtleties get lost in the translations and everyones translation is always a little different, so we have a sort of chinese whispers thing going on.
< Message edited by lally2 -- 6/28/2010 4:50:32 PM >
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So all I have to do in order to serve him, is to work out exactly how improbable he is, feed that figure into the finite improbability generator, give him a fresh cup of really hot tea ... and turn him on!
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