VaguelyCurious
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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer This is the first time I've seen you entertain the idea that I should have done anything other than just ignore that woman. OK. I didn't do any of that. I should have done, at the very least. I didn't say it because I thought it was obvious-c'mon, Peon, that's the *mantra* of this place! quote:
Actually, that's my default position, too. In fact, it's been my only position outside of this case. Maybe you should ask yourself why, in this case, I took a different view. I'm sorry, Peon, but I don't buy the 'this one was different' argument. If you have an electronic sensor that suddenly reacts differently to a single event out of thousands you don't believe the sensor-you assume the wiring's faulty unless you can prove otherwise. quote:
It's 'reaching' to assume that she'd think that the person who sent her the message was anyone other than the person who was depicted in the profile attached to that message. Are you being serious? Are you really that naive? Do you *know* how many fake pictures are up on this site? Take a look around, Peon, and then see if you can repeat that statement with a straight face. quote:
My photos hardly look as though they were all pulled off the net. I hate to tell you this, but they sort of do. I know they aren't because I've met you, but up until I *did* meet you I wasn't absolutely positive that I was going to get what was on the box. quote:
Yes, I do get that you think what I did was 'unpleasant'. I will say, again, that you wouldn't be saying that if you'd seen the profile. My concern wasn't, and isn't, about my 'unpleasantness' or otherwise. It's about hers. For the record, I find it unpleasant of you that you can't get beyond seeing 'me' towards what I've said I saw in her. But as you said, you don't trust my judgement, now. That's one reason why this discussion is ultimately going to be fruitless. I don't doubt that you found what you saw in her profile unpleasant. But I don't see that that justifies continued boasting about how glad you are at the thought that you could have upset her in return. There is all sorts of unpleasantness on the internet. Normally I would say to someone saying what you are saying that if you can't cope then you should get off your computer, but in this case I don't *want* to say that because you're a valued part of my life, which you wouldn't have been if you'd followed that advice at the time. quote:
Hmm. OK, this does seem a bit like reaching again. But, that aside, my profile showed my true age at the time. I would have been some twenty five years away from retirement. That was an example. But I know plenty of ex-teachers younger than you who have left teaching for greener pastures. quote:
Yes . . . once again, I do understand that you now feel me to be malicious, nasty, etc, etc. I didn't say that. You're still you, but I find this *action* to be malicious, nasty etc. There is a difference. quote:
Once again, I think you need to assume that this person may not have reacted the way you did with your bona fide teacher. She certainly didn't read like the sort who'd scare easily. She did the scaring, not vice versa. And you know this how? You didn't know her, you didn't know anything about what she was like other than her idea of what might be attractive to men on a kink site. quote:
One person's 'Who elected you to be the policeman here?' is another person's 'Why were you so lazy and apathetic that you stood by and said nothing?' Actually, if anything, I erred on the side of the latter. Oh, for goodness' sake. So you sent her an email to scare her because the alternative was 'standing by saying nothing'? You make yourself sound so noble. What did you acheive, Peon? Did you stop her hurting anyone? Did you get her profile taken down? Did you cause her to think about the way she presented herself? Did you even make her aware of your concerns? No-you just made a petty, potentially hurtful remark out of the blue that did no good to anyone.
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