GreySaber
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So, if you can expound on how understanding the process is going to help me somehow, I'm all ears.. or, um, eyes as this is a written venue rather than a verbal one. I'll jump on your bandwagon to better orgasms if you can explain why I'm jumping.
Well Celeste, You might consider a biology text book to be the owners manual to the human body. Now, this information might not prove to have too much direct application in your life, as clearly seem to be an advanced user. ;) The real question is this, where do you want to go with your orgasm? Do you want to learn to ejaculate? Do you want to have a solid understanding of what is actually going on? Would understanding the reason Kegals are good help you motivate yourself to do them?
Now, I don't really know where you want to go, if anywhere. but let's imagine you are just starting out, and want to try everything. I expect many girls on here are either at that point, or at the very least remember being there.
Now, you have all sorts of misinformation going around that is based on experinces being interpreted to the best of someone's ability without really understanding what's going on. This is a problem for many people, since experinces of sensation are very subjective. How do you know what's what in a subjective world?
This often leads them to the following problem.
They come to look at the so-called 'various kinds of orgasm' as being completely separate, when they aren't, rather then the same actual action with completely separate flavors of sensation. To continue with the flavor analogy, consider eating. Let’s say, Pie vs. salad. The experience seems very different, one is sweet and hot, the other crisp and cold, but the actions are the same. Chewing, and then swallowing. If you know how to chew and swallow, you know how to eat anything that looks good and can try the entire buffet. Without that knowledge, many people try to learn to chew and swallow all over again when they don't need to. They ask: "How do I have a G-spot orgasm?" when what they need to ask is: "How can I stimulate an orgasm using my g-spot? I wonder what that will feel like?" This may seem like the same thing, but it’s really a very different way of looking at the same goal, and in the end a simpler one because they understand the biological processes involved. Also, understanding what goes on clears up misconceptions, and that’s always a good thing.
If you look at the orgasm as the act of chewing and swallowing, and the sensation that you use to stimulate it as the 'flavor' (flavor being the distinct sensations that reach your brain) of the orgasm, you can better approach the whole thing. That is where it is useful for the advanced student if you will. That plus the fact that understanding why strong muscles help them orgasm.
That said, the place I have seen it have the most direct application is for those poor inexperienced girls who have never had an orgasm of any kind. Or who ‘don’t know’ if they have had one. (You’d be surprised how many there are.) Consider this question. If you had never had an orgasm, and started experimenting, how would you know if you had 'an orgasm' or just a spike of sensation that felt really good? This troubles some women very deeply, knowing they had a good time, but not knowing if it was an orgasm?
But when you have a complete understanding of the biological process, you can help them tremendously. You look at it as a biological process and explain it that way. “When you have an orgasm, this action will take place in your muscles, and it will happen automatically, much like the way your muscles move automatically when you sneeze.” (Everyone has sneezed, but not everyone has had an orgasm.) This is frequently very comforting to those poor things, as you have given them very solid information on how to recognize an orgasm when it comes.
Also, if you touch yourself all the time but can't have one, and you find out about the importance of the PC muscles, you can start working them until they are toned, then playing with yourself with much greater success at reaching orgasm. Obviously a good thing to know if you are in that terrible situation! But then, getting these muscles stronger is important for everyone, and knowing why they are doing Kegals motivates your to do them. Stronger muscles tighten up the vagina, they are healthier, less subject to fatigue, spasm with greater force, AND most importantly, If they are too weak to spasm, it can prevent orgasm.
Two last reasons why it is good to have an understanding the processes involved is this. One, It’s ALWAYS good to understand something you do, Two, Once you understand that the vaginal/clitoral orgasm debate started by Freud is actually just a tube full muscle spasm verses a tube empty muscle spasm, the confusion, and perhaps more importantly the “Am I having the correct ‘mature’ orgasm?” issue goes away. You don’t hear that complaint much anymore, but at one time it gave some women fits, thinking they were only having immature orgasms. (Freud labeled the clitoral orgasm as immature, and the vaginal one as mature, due to the nature of the interviews and a lack of understanding the actual process.) In reality neither are more mature, as they are actually just very different experiences of the exact same biological process.
OK, that was long. But does it help you understand why it's a good thing?
Quick edit: Another reason. It facilitates communcation. Once everyone understands what an orgasm is, they have a much better basis from which to communicate their experiences. Less misconceptions spread, and the end result is that trying something you heard about becomes much easier due to a common baseline from which to explain..
< Message edited by GreySaber -- 5/3/2006 1:56:06 AM >
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