Atropos19
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I'll reiterate someone else's sentiment from upstream... oh goody, a fat thread! :) I'm a heavyset guy, myself, so needless to say I've struggled with this issue. For me, the biggest obstacle I face is that it really *does* take a LOT of work to lose a significant amount of weight. I mean, for someone like me (and I won't lie, I'm in the 3-400lb range), I would basically have to start eating salads all the time and working out several hours a week. As lazy as I can be, I really do think that I could handle the exercise... it would be a chore, but I could get into the groove eventually. For me, it's the "watching what I eat" part that poses the most difficulty. I mean, not to put too fine a point on it, but when you're a big guy... not that many people want to be friends with you, and certainly women don't want to give you the time of day. And there's a certain amount of low self-esteem and depression that goes along with that, any which way you slice it. Sad as it is, eating tends to be one of the few things that gives you any pleasure. And now everyone's telling you you're supposed to GIVE UP one of the few things that makes you happy, for the sake of (theoretically) being happier down the line? That's a tough sell, emotionally speaking. For me, just relationship-wise in general... I get that the weight is a HUGE strike against me in terms of attracting a mate. What I do wish, however, is that it would at least be taken into consideration alongside other things, rather than used as an excuse to reject me out of hand. If a girl adds up my positive and my negative qualities and decides I'm not worth the effort, fine. She could very justifiably do that. But most women don't do that. They never take the time to get to know anything else about me. I'm fat, and that's all they need to know. THAT is what I find the most offensive, hurtful, and disheartening. Just want to say that I know this isn't the sentiment the lady who started the thread wanted to express, by the way. Just thought I would put my two cents in on the "weight" issue in general. Thanks for listening!
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