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RE: Weight and Master/Dom control - 11/30/2010 5:05:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: barelynangel

The concept most don't get is the weight issues of America is NOT a majority of people NOT being able to lose weight. I think people are using medical ISSUES and other ISSUES as EXCUSES. I am NOT saying the ISSUES aren't there, what i am saying is people use the issues as a crutch and MOST people know it.

Sadly I would disagree with this point, but not the truth behind the fact that it isn't a medical issue. The fact of the matter is that everything from our media to our parents have constantly been enforcing an unhealthy lifestyle, coddling people to be blind to their own health issue, and supporting blaming anyone/thing except yourself for your problems. So while objectively you can sit back and see that 400lbs+ person living off McDonalds as being to blame, that person does not see it that way. The reach for the Big Mac as a reflex, they supersize out of habit. They were raised all their life on it, told it was fine, and they are told they are not to blame.

Does this mean they have no accountability? No, but they have blinded themselves to it. And weight is not the only place this happens either, but it's the topic.

There are other issues as well. Some have a VERY narrow and absolute opinion on what healthy is. The will look at someone with a few extra pounds who is perfectly healthy and active the exact same way as someone who is 100lbs overweight. You also have those who prefer to ridicule and ostracize overweight people instead of try and help them to do better. People in this position will often wind up depressed and that just leads them even further into an unhealthy lifestyle, or at least makes it even harder to get out of it.

Some of the above absolutely has relevance to being a good Master, as I think anyone who wants to fill that role needs to hold themselves personally accountable. If I could no longer fit out of my door, I would have no one to blame but myself for how I got there, I would not blame McDonalds or cable TV for it. Unfortunately that does not hold true for a good number of people, and I'm sure there are several Masters/Mistresses out there who are otherwise fine people with their acts together who have still fallen for this trap subconsciously.

But there is certainly a narrow line you need to toe in excluding people, where do you draw it? Is there a weight you cut off at? a BMI index? Do you appraise their lifestyle? Do you simply judge them by how fit they look to you? If you have a naturally slower metabolism, you are far more prone to gaining and keeping weight. So if you're raised on something like rich southern cooking, you may be very active but still a fairly large person. Others gifted with a high metabolism may do nothing at all and eat crap all day long and still look fit. Are they a more worthy Master simply because they were lucky to be born with a high metabolic rate?

(in reply to barelynangel)