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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 9:16:57 AM

RCdc

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This kind of thing just strikes me as yet another attempt to make bdsm seem so much more Special than it is to me. All those things that work in dating in the nilla world hold true here, and if you use your head in one area, you'll do just fine using it anywhere.

Thus was said at the end of the post, and if all women (or even men) would do just that, this post or others like it would never be written...

Good point.

But you don't have to write an article, you just have to say - like IrishMist said...

"If you are asked to behave in a way that you would NOT normally behave, if you are asked to do something that you would NOT normally do, then DON'T DO IT. BDSM relationships, despite claims to the contrary, are no different than that of ANY OTHER RELATIONSHIP and should follow the same instincts that you have within those relationships. "

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 9:17:59 AM

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GREAT post RCdc! Okay I was talking about the one two above me and the other one was pretty good too! lol

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 9:18:07 AM

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Oh and the occasional train wrecks.

They can be entertaining

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 9:20:38 AM

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*brings LadyLockit a hot cup of coffee*

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 9:26:31 AM

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*brings LadyLockit a hot cup of coffee*

Thank you! lol I just don't do my mornings well! lol Just downed half a cup of some thick mud... remembered what I forgot and will try to get through to half awake here!

You are the sweetest!

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 10:00:53 AM

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I just made a profile here, and as soon as I did I saw this thread scrolling on the side so I thought I'd give it a read...

I don't doubt the OP's intentions were good, but being on the asexual scale of things I find it hard to believe I'm good in bed. I'm just gonna be honest here, my last sub told me I was the best person she has been with when it came to dominating her and when it came to cuddling her. She never talked about the actual sex though. I guess I'm not dominant... this profile was a waste :p

Meeting people from a kink sight in a public place does not seem inherently more dangerous that meeting any other person in public. I've only been attacked once in my life, and that was by a drunk guy trying to stumble home.

So as much as I believe the guide was written with good intentions, I believe the one liner pieces of advice are much easier to digest and in turn more useful (and sound a little less "father knows best").

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 11:35:21 AM

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Actually, no. A couple of emails, about 5 phone calls.

You did better than me. I talked to a Mistress in Memphis on aol chat twice before I met her at a hotel there and then went off to see my very first dungeon. Didn't actually talk to her on the phone until after we had met at the hotel restaurant and I made up my mind to actually show up at the party. Yea it was stupid, but I trust my instincts and they very rarely fail me.

So in both cases you spoke on the phone and/or met in a vanilla location before going at it...which is exactly what I'd recommend. Point made, I think...

Pretty sure I said I went directly to the house, where we played, and I spent the night. This is a 'vanilla location' (or situation) in what way?

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