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ORIGINAL: BonesFromAsh

"I've got a fancy house in __________ (insert wealthy/upper class town name), I drive a _________ (insert ridiculously expensive car brand) and work as a successful _________ (insert high-powered/prestigious career). I think we should talk."

Instantly I had THIS song playing in my mind.

Ladies, when being approached by a "potential"....what impresses you?

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I don't understand how Arpig exists w/o working.

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Ladies, when being approached by a "potential"....what impresses you?

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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

You know, just as an aside...this thread brought up an interesting fact about the dynamic I currently live in.  I have made 6-figures in the past, and I could have a 6-figure job now.

Instead I own a small business that opens at 11, closes at 5, makes me very little money.  I consult on the side to make ends meet.

Now that doesn't sound very impressive...however...

This is a sort of way of living that affords me a LOT of time to be immersed in my relationship to my Lady.  I get up with her in the morning and care for her and see her out the door.  I have time to work on our home, our lives, dinner, the dog and cat...I connect with her regularly during the day...we have mostly uninterrupted evenings...

If I had that 6-figure job, I would have to leave at the same time she did in the morning, or earlier.  I would be chained to a desk, and likely a travel schedule, totally distracted for 10+ hours a day - frankly, I think our relationship would suffer and eventually die.

They don't pay six figures for 9-5 that you can "leave at the office".  The golden wallet also comes with a treadmill and a LOT of expectations of access to you - day or night, planes on Sunday evening, fly back Friday night - presentation at 10 tomorrow you get at 10 the previous night - can you fly to bumfuck for a meeting with X tomorrow?  Here is your blackberry so people can start texting you at 5 a.m. every day and at 10 every night and on weekends...it never really stops...I have lived it.

I have had the fancy house and the ability to buy just about anything I wanted.  I was miserable, traveling out of state 3+ days a week, more than 40 weeks a year.  I had a house I rarely saw, a car I seldom drove, a marriage that had very little attention paid to it.  It died.

Depending on the dynamic you seek, having a lot of money (unless you are independently wealthy, and let's face it - rare rare rare) comes with a price that is taken out of your life - in time.  You trade money for time - the more money they give you, the more time you give them.

To my mind, maintaining a D/s relationship requires time and attention - a lot of it - especially from the person kneeling.

What "impresses", perhaps should be examined for its actual value to the type of relationship people ultimately want to have. 

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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

You know, just as an aside...this thread brought up an interesting fact about the dynamic I currently live in.  I have made 6-figures in the past, and I could have a 6-figure job now.

Instead I own a small business that opens at 11, closes at 5, makes me very little money.  I consult on the side to make ends meet.

Now that doesn't sound very impressive...however...

This is a sort of way of living that affords me a LOT of time to be immersed in my relationship to my Lady.  I get up with her in the morning and care for her and see her out the door.  I have time to work on our home, our lives, dinner, the dog and cat...I connect with her regularly during the day...we have mostly uninterrupted evenings...

If I had that 6-figure job, I would have to leave at the same time she did in the morning, or earlier.  I would be chained to a desk, and likely a travel schedule, totally distracted for 10+ hours a day - frankly, I think our relationship would suffer and eventually die.

They don't pay six figures for 9-5 that you can "leave at the office".  The golden wallet also comes with a treadmill and a LOT of expectations of access to you - day or night, planes on Sunday evening, fly back Friday night - presentation at 10 tomorrow you get at 10 the previous night - can you fly to bumfuck for a meeting with X tomorrow?  Here is your blackberry so people can start texting you at 5 a.m. every day and at 10 every night and on weekends...it never really stops...I have lived it.

I have had the fancy house and the ability to buy just about anything I wanted.  I was miserable, traveling out of state 3+ days a week, more than 40 weeks a year.  I had a house I rarely saw, a car I seldom drove, a marriage that had very little attention paid to it.  It died.

Depending on the dynamic you seek, having a lot of money (unless you are independently wealthy, and let's face it - rare rare rare) comes with a price that is taken out of your life - in time.  You trade money for time - the more money they give you, the more time you give them.

To my mind, maintaining a D/s relationship requires time and attention - a lot of it - especially from the person kneeling.

What "impresses", perhaps should be examined for its actual value to the type of relationship people ultimately want to have. 

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

an appreciation for the Oxford comma are all good.

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ORIGINAL: BonesFromAsh
Ladies, when being approached by a "potential"....what impresses you?