Rochsub2009
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Qlita, Perhaps I can shine a new light on your question. I have served several Dommes who were significantly younger than me. But my motivation was quite different from what has been voiced in this thread so far. For me, it definitely wasn't about sex, nor did I treat my younger Domme with disrespect simply because of her age. I think it's fair to say that most 40-somethings don't have much in common with the average woman in her early 20's. They're simply at 2 different point in their lives. But that's not always the case. I dated one 21 year old Domme in particular who was extremely mature. We could talk about anything....and we did. Moreover, she wasn't attracted to men (boys) her age. She felt that guys her age were immature, lacked direction, and spent too much time playing video games. She exclusively dated older men. I have stated on this board on many occasions that this was the best D/s relationship that I've ever been in. Not only did we "click" on a personal level, but I must admit that the age difference did add spice and energy to the relationship. I admit that submitting to someone who was young enough to be my daughter was......hot! Not only was she younger than me, but she was less experienced, less educated, made less money, was smaller, weaker, and should have been beneath me by just about any societal standard. Yet, when she told me what to do, I obeyed. And there was something doubly sexy about saying "Yes Ma'am" to someone so young. I loved it. More importantly, it wasn't feigned obedience. I think it may be analogous to how a petite woman feels when dominating a 6'5", 235 pound muscular guy. Bossing around a man that big and strong is hot. The contrast between your relative sizes just makes things hotter. Something about the contrast is......sexy. That's how our age difference felt. IMO, power exchange is more potent when the actual power differential is greater. So a younger woman dominating an older, more powerful man is sexy. Imagine what it would be like having the CEO of a Fortune 500 company as your slave, despite the fact that you're still in college. In my case, I loved knowing that despite all of the societal expectations, SHE was in charge. And she took just as much joy in bossing around someone who could have been her dad. She loved dominating older men. But despite the joy that we both got out of the age difference, we never had overt age play. It just wasn't a part of our lives. She just loved dominating me, and I loved serving her. She loved the fact that I had more life experience than her and could teach her new things, yet I never flaunted that fact. Rather, all of my knowledge and wisdom was at her disposal. She loved that I had more money than guys her age. She got to go anywhere, or do anything, that she wanted and price was never an obstacle. If she said she wanted to go on vacation, we went. When she said that she wanted to go to a concert, we went. When she said she wanted to try a new restaurant, we did. She was ALWAYS in charge. Sex was completely her choice. We had sex when she wanted, where she wanted, and how she wanted. Only she was allowed to initiate sex, and she controlled all aspects of our sex life. She also maintained the freedom to have outside lovers (while I had to be exclusively dedicated to her). So I don't think she felt that I was only in it for the sex. Frankly, the sex was far more important to her than it was to me. Don't get me wrong. You will get approached by "dirty old men" who simply want sex with a young hottie. But not all will fall into that category. Age is nothing but a number. Each person should be judged as an individual. There may be an older guy who is the perfect sub for you. You have to decide if dominating older men is something that you enjoy. If so, then go for it. But if not, then don't do it. Either way, it's your decision. As the Domme, you get to decide how much sex is involved. You can decide that there will be no sex. So I don't think you need to worry about whether they're only after sex. I hope this has been a helpful perspective for you. Good luck in your search. -Roch
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