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What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 4:55:55 PM

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I didn't want to hijack the "reward for her slave" thread but I am curious about this.

Every now and again I think I might take the path of so many of my female friends, that of becoming dominant. Of course I know that isn't going to happen but it is a random thought because I really don't want to spend all my time alone. I have seen many of my submissive female friends go from topping to dominance. I know that for some of them it is a logical path. Not for me though.

Still... lol I do think of it. But then I see where so many male minds head, oral service, being queened, spending hours at the Y and well.. ICK. I really don't enjoy having a tongue down where I would rather feel a cock. I don't want to cuckhold anyone, I like sex, hard penetrative sex. It just seems odd to me that if I had a partner already, why would I want to make him sexless while I had to go out and find another for that delicious penetration I love.

So, I am directing this question to subs, male subs in particular. Why do you enjoy oral service? Would you still enjoy it knowing that the women under your tongue was not getting what she needed from it?

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 5:02:23 PM

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Why do you enjoy oral service?
Would you still enjoy it knowing that the women under your tongue was not getting what she needed from it?

Assuming the latter untrue, the whole point of oral service, for me, is to be sexually close to a woman so as to gain sexual pleasure while giving her immense sexual pleasure.

If I had known about the latter - the former no longer applies.

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 5:07:55 PM

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To me, oral service is whatever YOU want. If that means face sitting, that's what it means.
If it means fucking until YOU are happy, that's what it means.
If it means licking your toes, that's what it means.

It's whatever YOU want.

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 5:08:06 PM

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Would you still enjoy it knowing that the women under your tongue was not getting what she needed from it?

No I would not. It is actually quite tiring, you know? I do need noises of appreciation. I've got to know that she *feels* like she's being worshipped and is enjoying it as a result. Otherwise, I'd rather be doing something else entirely. Jesus, I don't want to be where I'm not wanted.

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 5:10:39 PM

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Methinks you're toying with the idea of being a switch.

There are advantages, you know.

You can be a sub to those who want one and you can be a Top for those who want that.

Twice the choices - all the fun.

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 5:13:00 PM

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Methinks you're toying with the idea of being a switch.

Twice the choices - all the fun.

Or, cross over to the other side.

All the choices and all the fun!

LOL

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 5:13:19 PM

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To me, oral service is whatever YOU want. If that means face sitting, that's what it means.
If it means fucking until YOU are happy, that's what it means.
If it means licking your toes, that's what it means.

It's whatever YOU want.

What if it's none of those? Just housework, etc?

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 5:14:16 PM

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Nah, I have topped but I am not a switch by any means. I top on command, I don't have the heart to dominate. But it is something that comes up particularly on Fet where I get more than a few guys weekly telling me if I don't enjoy oral it is only because they haven't been there yet.

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 5:28:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: subinsilicon

To me, oral service is whatever YOU want. If that means face sitting, that's what it means.
If it means fucking until YOU are happy, that's what it means.
If it means licking your toes, that's what it means.

It's whatever YOU want.

What if it's none of those? Just housework, etc?

This. It's too fuckin hard to find a male submissive who will pull his head out of his ass and stop nagging me about sex and/or his fantasies.

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 5:34:02 PM

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The weird thing is that I got the BEST quickie ever when I was walked in on by my dom while I was ironing his shirt after sewing the button hole. LOL ya never know what works

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 5:38:06 PM

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Also, Missokyst...you could always top for a few sessions without being a Domme. Seems like that would be a good option.

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 5:49:04 PM

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I think it is just an assumption that women would like oral sex like the assumption that a man would be up for a random unreciprocated bj or sex whenever just reversed that a (dominant) woman would also naturally like oral sex whenever it was available to her.

I don't get the denial or chastity line of thinking but there are a lot of dominant women who don't have sex with or respect male subs. I was asked a few times a similar question by women about how they should dominate a man or what does a man want when he is submissive or wants to be dominated.

First you have to decide what you would like, not what the man likes or what you think he likes, and go for that on your terms. Yes that can include housework but be clear about what you want first then go for it. If you like hard sex there are a lot of non subs who would accommodate you probably on your terms. As to a submissive, I think one scenario would be to tie him down or another would be to have the reigns and give him commands on what you want and make him keep going until you are done with him maybe with a riding crop to spur him on.

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 5:50:25 PM

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I have topped quite a bit. I do it very well because as it happens I am also a sadist. But, it was ultimately unsatisfying as I saw people crave that bit of me more and more. I enjoy hurting people but it doesn't turn me on. It just satisfies the inner demon for a moment.

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 5:55:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Nah, I have topped but I am not a switch by any means. I top on command, I don't have the heart to dominate. But it is something that comes up particularly on Fet where I get more than a few guys weekly telling me if I don't enjoy oral it is only because they haven't been there yet.

Oh my god this.

I do not like oral- I do not like it at all.

Doesn't stop every fucktard from thinking HE is somehow going to be different.

Thankfully C respects my distaste for M->F oral.

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 5:56:58 PM

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Do you like green eggs and ham? (couldn't resist the rhyme)

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 5:58:48 PM

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Nah, I have topped but I am not a switch by any means. I top on command, I don't have the heart to dominate. But it is something that comes up particularly on Fet where I get more than a few guys weekly telling me if I don't enjoy oral it is only because they haven't been there yet.

Have you ever had any guy admit that he isn't any good at oral sex? At the same time, how many women have you heard say that they didn't enjoy it much or their partner wasn't that good at it.

Like the line from "When Harry Met Sally" goes, you do the math.

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 6:05:46 PM

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Have you ever had any guy admit that he isn't any good at oral sex? At the same time, how many women have you heard say that they didn't enjoy it much or their partner wasn't that good at it.

How many times do I hear that men think that what worked with one woman will work with another but yet I don't see the posts on how a dominant woman is going to put in the time to teach a man what she wants and then enforce it.

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 6:09:12 PM

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Do you like green eggs and ham? (couldn't resist the rhyme)

Do not lick me here or there,
Do not lick me anywhere

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 6:33:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Nah, I have topped but I am not a switch by any means. I top on command, I don't have the heart to dominate. But it is something that comes up particularly on Fet where I get more than a few guys weekly telling me if I don't enjoy oral it is only because they haven't been there yet.

Oh my god this.

I do not like oral- I do not like it at all.

Doesn't stop every fucktard from thinking HE is somehow going to be different.

Thankfully C respects my distaste for M->F oral.

I'm not sure what it is that makes men think that women are the same as men, and that we're all crazy for oral. It's not my favorite thing. You see it all over in profiles though, guys advertise all over the place that they're the kings of pleasing a woman orally- which actually makes me cringe. It's like they think it's best bait ever.

I was chatting with a guy once who started hinting that he was something special in the oral sex dept and I was making my rather abrupt way out of the chat when he popped up quickly to tell me not to go, that he was something special! That he'd "lap for hours like a thirsty camel." I about gagged and left him hanging there, I couldn't get out fast enough after that visual. I'm not a freaking watering hole. Bleah.

I dont know, if a guy doesn't think he's got the magic tongue then he thinks he's got the magic penis. I'm not sure why none of them have figured out that just because it's all magic to them it doesn't mean that it's anything special to anyone else. Heck we've got appliances that twirl and do dances, I"m not sure how or why humans are supposed to match that....

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RE: What a girl/woman wants - 2/19/2013 6:45:48 PM

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I have always found that on these sites men never truly bother to read your profile. I don't like oral, I don't care for anal, and I don't like crossdressing . Doesn't stop a full 70% of the emails coming from crossdressers, or guys wanting to perform oral and receive anal :)

I think they have decided to do it like a net casting approach just throw out an email to every single female they see asking for the things they desire, regardless of what she is interested in and wait and see if anyone gets reeled in lol

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