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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

Well, in your case in particular, I'd suggest writing you about something you posted on the forum. The general principle is: try to connect with the woman as a thinking human being (as opposed to a fetish object), using as a springboard her most recently published thoughts.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

That's a new one on Me, unless all you are doing is sending an email asking if you can ask a question. Then again, I'm a smart ass. When people write and say "May I ask you a question," I tell them that they just did so they used their question up.

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ORIGINAL: Subano

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ORIGINAL: MadamAsianDom
]ensuring that if you ask her questions, you're not asking something that is already plainly stated on her profile.

I have not been all that successful approaching Mistresses online, but one thing more than a few have told me is that I am not allowed to ask them a question.

It's hard to carry on a conversation without asking a question - so how should we properly handle that?

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I was at a couple of parties once and approached two women there.

At the first, I noticed a woman sitting by herself quietly on a couch, where most around her were couples. I walked over and introduced myself and stated that I hadn't noticed her before at the Scarlet Moons parties (held regularly) and she gave me her name (Sofia) and replied that it was her first time at them. I then introduced her to the others sitting close by. Once I found that she was new to the community, I started telling her of other venues in the area. I also found that she was fifth generation Coloradoan, descended from Spaniards, but was not up to letting me practice my Spanish on her. Once I found out she was Dominant, I suggested that, if she wanted to play at the party, I could suggest some male bottoms for her. Another male Dom joined the conversation and told her of his experience in the local scene. Had I been a male sub, I would have asked her to play, and I figure my chances of her saying yes would have been above 50%. Afterward, I sent her a message on Fet (she has no cm account), saying that I had enjoyed talking with her, and she replied similarly.

At the second, I noticed a woman standing by herself and walked over and said hello. I forget all the topics of conversation, but it touched on Greek mythology and the movie Black Orpheus and the book The Centaur by John Updike, both of which moved a Greek myth into an everyday setting. After about fifteen minutes of conversation, I asked her if she felt underspanked (this was a spanking party). Ten minutes later, she was over my lap.

Juts walk over and say hello to someone, male or female. If it's a potential play partner, keep assessing: Do I like how she talks? Could I see this developing into a play scene? Etc. Whether it's a potential or not, make sure that both of you enjoy the conversation.

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ORIGINAL: ServiceBoy89

I like to tempt interesting dominant woman with my perversion test.It is interesting to see her reaction.Normally I put a joke or somethging when write but it seems some don't understand the joke.It depends on her personality.I'm abandoned in my untouchable BDSM country.

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ORIGINAL: seekingOwnertoo

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ORIGINAL: ServiceBoy89

I like to tempt interesting dominant woman with my perversion test.It is interesting to see her reaction.Normally I put a joke or somethging when write but it seems some don't understand the joke.It depends on her personality.I'm abandoned in my untouchable BDSM country.

So like ... how is your "perversion test" working for you?

Oh, I see ... "but it seems some don't understand the joke"

Nice really Nice!

Keep that up and there will be FAR MORE DOMMES for me to meet!

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ORIGINAL: ladyevermore

Good afternoon,
I prefer to be approached online, grammar and spelling also go a very long way in impressing any Dominant. Since it is the first encounter be polite, sincere, and above all honest. In either a online or in person setting remember that you are essentially selling yourself to the Dominant, it is very similar to an interview.
Show Me why I would want you to serve Me, what skills do you have that I may find useful?
Are you skilled at boot blacking?
Do you play a musical instrument?
Do you speak multiple languages?
Are you the kind of slave who tributes well but infrequently, or do you tribute many little things over the course of time?
All of these things are important for any Dominant to know and go a long way in helping Me determine if you could be of use.

Regards,
Lady Evermore

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ORIGINAL: ladyevermore
Are you the kind of slave who tributes well but infrequently, or do you tribute many little things over the course of time?
All of these things are important for any Dominant to know and go a long way in helping Me determine if you could be of use.

Regards,
Lady Evermore

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ORIGINAL: LeatherBentOne51
Nothing makes me hit the "delete message" faster than "hello Ma'am," and nothing else. Same goes for "how are You?"

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ORIGINAL: RumpusParable
It irritates the hell out of me when they never ask any questions ever, even and especially after you tell them to ask questions.

A conversation can occur without them... but only to an extent... and I find those that don't start asking some form of question almost immediately are those that are not in touch with reality at all. If no questions appear after a while, then no longer do I.