Focus50
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Joined: 12/28/2004 From: Newcastle, Australia Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: stef quote:
ORIGINAL: Focus50 Not positions but perceptions...! Me being one of those doms cursed with principles, well there'll be none of that malarky about ordering my submissive to top me etc. Now you can believe I'm stuck in denial or trapped by my own insecurities blah blah but the simplest truth of all is that I, and doubtless many other doms, simply aren't interested in being the "doee". That sounds somewhat more like hang-ups than principles. Taking your pleasure in whatever way you wish seems a lot more "domly" to me than eschewing an act because of how you think others will view it. Seems a bit silly to me, really. I think that's a fair comment. And, although it's not the same, I've had similar conversations about the fact that despite identifying as dominant I really do enjoy going down on a chick once in a blue. When I do, it's because I want to do it - and I don't feel at all as if my dominance is threatened by wanting to do so. But past playmates have regarded it as a pretty "sub" thing to want to do. Receiving anal should absolutely follow the same logic... if I want something up my ass, then I'd have no problem telling a sub to put something up my ass. But I wouldn't. Because the idea of being pegged does absolutely nothing for me. Now that could very well because I have a hang-up about it (and yeah... a part of me does think that it's a little bit ghey) but yanno... I have a hang up about doing the paperwork for my tax return, but I can live with both those hang-ups without losing too much sleep. You've been at CM a long time, too, so you orta know that on these discussion boards, you have no entitlement to that which you're not interested in. That's how they define a hangup, here, rather than it being something that actually interferes with your life's functionality. eg, I (apparently) have a hangup about gambling and horses etc cos there's nothing more boring to me than horse racing. But it really must be a hangup now, because I *mentioned* it publically - see how that works? To para-phrase from CM discussion history, all doms are really submissives at heart (male doms) just as all men need to get in touch with their feminine side. Submissives have all the power and just because you and I have no interest in getting poked up the shit-um shute-um, never mind actually ordering your sub to do it, we're both clearly homo-phobes, too. How do you get through your day with all the hangups surging through your mind? & Focus.
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Never underestimate the persuasive power of stupid people in large groups. <unknown> Your food is for eating, not torturing. <my mum> (Errm, when I was a kid)
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