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ORIGINAL: David92506 I wonder if those sadists, who derive pleasure from sexually abusing people, are more common in the BDSM realm. That seems like a righteous question but, I gotta' get your definition of "abuse" and "BDSM realm". Does "abuse" mean "consensual torture?" Like I was abusing the hell out her tits with those nipple clamps and she loved it. If torture exceeds the realm of sexual sadism, or consent, then it isn't BDSM. So I will presume consensual torture is your meaning. Does "BDSM realm" mean it falls under the realm of "BDSM practices" or "the leather community?" If your question is "I wonder if those sadists, who derive pleasure from consensual sexually torture, are more common in the Leather Community than the vanilla community?" I think the answer is a simple yes. If sadomasochism (sexual sadism & masochism) is your interest, it would be hard to overlook the Leather Community and you would think, birds of feather flock together. About 10% of the vanilla community say they experience BDSM. The vast majority of the leather community experience BDSM in one form or another. If your question is "I wonder if those sadists, who derive pleasure from consensual sexually torture, more commonly use BDSM practices?" I would think the answer is a mandatory yes. I can see where a vanilla sexual sadist might think they don't practice BDSM per se if they don't use the typical BDSM regalia. There are a million ways to inflict pain without BDSM regalia. However practicing bondage, discipline and/or sadomasochism is still BDSM even if the practitioner doesn't know what it is called or identify with it. You just can't practice sexual sadism without participating in the sadomasochism aspect of the BDSM acronym. Many vanillas bite nipples, scratch and inflict pain for sexual stimulation . . . but that is more like primal rough sex and stimulation, not sexual tortures. Their endorphin levels make them perceive what would normally be painful as sexual stimulation, not raw pain. Bite their nipple out of context and you will get a painful and unpleasant reaction. Bite my masochistic slave on the nipple out of context and she will get turned on and have a sexual reaction. So the same acts, depending on the participants, can be BDSM or not. As is often said, "BDSM is what we do. Leather lifestyle is who we are". You can indulge BDSM acts and sadomasochistic desires without being part of the Leather Lifestyle. You can inflict rough sexual stimulation, parallel to a BDSM style act like nipple biting, but not be practicing BDSM or sexual sadism. Forgive me for rephrasing your question and please correct me if I was wrong. I hope this explains my perspectives on the topic.
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