LadyConstanze
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It made me blog, I won't put the link here as I used copies (no names though) of the messages that really disturbed me, but also my usual soap box rant about protecting your identity online (been careless once and paid dearly for it) So please: Do NOT give out any email addy that is connected with your social networks, make a new one that you use only for kink boards and interactions, don't even THINK of using your professional email addy (think about the fun the guys in the IT department might have with that, and if they fire you, this is NOT something you want to come up in a law suit if you appeal) Do not post facial pictures, especially not ones you use on other networks (FB etc) as well, there are tons of facial recognition programs out there. Shadows work marvellously well and add a bit of mystique If you are on a message board and there is a poster or a posse of posters who will follow a person who upset them around to have pops at them, be VERY VERY CAREFUL, people aren't that different online than they are in real life (fell for that one myself and regretted it), they don't even need to address the person, they will try to comment in the same thread, throw snide remarks, it's a very very good indicator! Chances are they have been warned by the mods and are "playing the game" but they can't stop their stalkerish tendencies Get a Google number or get a cheap phone, if you're in the US a burner phone is great Use common sense, don't expect that everybody into BDSM is a friend, a hell lot of different people are into BDSM Watch the language of somebody, if they claim to adore women but always use terms like "chicks" and such, it's a bad sign Pretending to be super submissive or super macho - RED FLAG Sexual slurs like "seem to be gay" and all that stuff, quite a few of them are homophobes (and I expect closet queers) Seriously, if somebody gives you the creeps, trust your gut feeling End of soap box rant, stay well and look after yourselves!
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There are 10 kinds of people who understand binary Those who do and those who don't! http://exdomme.blogspot.com/2012/07/public-service-announcement.html
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