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ORIGINAL: imtempting

Because most women who are very pretty and and under 40 expect men to pay for their so called valued time.
Put your search limits on people who are slightly over weight for the height your looking for and you will find more women who are not expecting money to just send them a message.

I know my post will have some women up in flames but in not the skinniest person out there either(don't bother looking at my profile, I've been here nearly ten years so I changed it a lot due to boredom) but my comments stand tall.

Look for girls under 25 who are skinny, majority of them are wanting tributes. Now look same age group at girls slightly to massively overweight and and you will be few and far between.

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ORIGINAL: MAINEiacMISTRESS

I've seen a lot of findomme ads placed by women who were quite full figured and "pillowy"...so there goes your "statistics" claim.

I do see a correlation between those spewing abusive "pay Me pig, pay My rent, I want to rape your wallet" type language, and their level of income...often it IS the younger, just entered adulthood and can't make ends meet type...it's blatantly obvious that some of them are desperate for a man's money to survive, especially when they post right in their profile that they are going to be kicked out of their apartment if some pay pig doesn't cough up some dough. You don't hear it quite so much from the mature-aged, economically well-established Women.

Yea, I call them 'princess profiles" and some of them are outright scary.

A good finDomme is in CHARGE of Her submissive's spending, controls where and how he spends it (for submissives with spending or gambling problems this is actually a BENEFIT), instead of robbing him blind to pay for drugs, frivolous things, or a roof over Her head. This is the difference between Financial DOMINATION and financial DESPERATION. Anyway, we've all had this discussion at length in a past thread, so anyone wanting to revisit this topic can read that.

We have a few of these also and while I can understand the confusion between the two it only takes a few conversations to tell which is which.

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ORIGINAL: pleasemsbliss

I wonder though, how hard it would be for collarme to create a category that separated those who "require tribute" from the ones that don't. That would solve a lot of problems. As least we'd be able to separate between those looking for someone to "date" and those looking for "cash". I feel for the subs having to weed through what seems like is about 90% of all the profiles here.

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ORIGINAL: mybabyboy

There is no such thing as "pay pigs". Or "fin-dommes".

It was phrase someone coined in their profile, and like a viral idea, others thought... hey, I can set up scam profiles and get masochistic suckers to fork over money to me to. Like a viral idea, it was copied, and copied, and copied in an exploding tree like fashion. I have no doubt there are 250,000+ self proclaimed fin-dommes on Collarme, and not a single actual... "pay pig". There are a few fake pay pig profiles, but nothing more.

And you know this for a fact because you have met every last one? Right? But you might be right about the word originating from one person and spreading from there. Kinda like most new words are started. So what was your point?

And if there were a real "pay pig", and a "fin-domme" hooked up with them, in real life... it wouldn't last, because said fin-domme would find such a person so pathetic and disgusting and irksome... they wouldn't want to be around them... and would soon grow tired of even dealing with them, to take their money. It wouldn't be worth the trouble. And I would even question, if the domme was even dominant, if they needed to "take" money from other people. Dependency on external sources of money sounds like a pretty submissive role to me. Even more so when its dependency on pathetic individuals.

They are out there and from what I have seen in the last 15 years they are doing just fine in their relationships. But perhaps this is where your hatred is coming from. Tell us, did you belong to someone who decided you were so pathetic they kicked you to the curb? It's ok, you can be honest.

I also really question the label of "pro-domme". Pro meaning... professional. Really. What makes you think you are a "professional"? Are you right up there with other professionals, who went to college for 6 years and earned a medical degree, or can program in 10 different programming languages? I suppose if you mean Pro as in Profession.... it would be a fitting moniker... but then, they say... prosititution is the oldest Profession... too.

This one is too easy. You do know what professional means, right? Doing something and making money for it. But then again reading your little rant, I will have to assume you don't. So why don't you trot off and look that word up. Then you will understand how silly that paragraph really is.

My best advice is to avoid all profiles that self style themselves as fin-dommes or pro-dommes. There is an ocean of attempted grafting going on here, on a commons that can support very little. I visualize it as a thousand hungry people fighting over a slice of bread someone found on the ground, and not one taking the time to actually bake a loaf for themselves....

Your mileage may vary... I just call it like I see it.

Yes you do call it just like you see it. Interestingly enough, that is the same thing the people who claim anyone who does AB play is a secret pedophile say. In fact I would guess that there are just as many of them as there are folks like you claiming femdommes and pros are fakes. Something to think about the next time you feel like slamming someone elses kink.