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kuriouswitch -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/2/2009 4:57:08 PM)
Master tends to get creative when he wants too but I don't get in trouble often (thankfully) most of the time i get a lecture/spanking combo. I'm used to having to count spanks but he takes it to a new level where he'll lecture me as he spanks me and ask me questions to make sure i understand and won't repeat the behaviour. I hate it when he does that lol. not being allowed to sleep in his bed with him. This is one that I found horrible and I didn't sleep all night cause I was too busy sobbing so he saves that one for the major things. corner time, i have an inner ear imbalance so i have a special chair i sit in the corner in restrictions of stuff like books or no internet time or no phone time with Master. things like that i've had to write essays (i enjoy writting but i don't like writting essays ugh) extra chores which mean less time with him there's a reward system as well which i like. it progresses the more pleased he is with me.

Venatrix -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/2/2009 5:06:47 PM)
FR - I'm surprised so many people are into punishment. I have better things to do with my time. The most I'd do is make someone do the job over. If that happened often, I'd show him the door. And as you asked, PforH, for me there is a very clear distinction when it comes to "funishment." The latter is playtime. The former involves sheer bloody-mindedness on the part of the sub, and is not something I'd tolerate for very long. Edited to add that I can't help wondering why people drag up such old threads. It really just does go to show that there ain't nothin' new on the boards.

Venatrix -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/2/2009 5:13:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster You're Clare Asquith?! You've been causing quite a stir in academic circles, young lady. Who'd have guessed Clare Asquith is on Collarme... I'm kind of stunned that you'd be so open about your identity, but you must know what you're doing. quote: ORIGINAL: ClareAsquith I have a very extensive library, if the slave in question is in error they get to take all 5000 books down, dust them, dust the shelves and put them back in order. Nah, it's a put-on. Take a look at "her" profile. It's full of errors.

PeonForHer -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/2/2009 6:17:01 PM)
And as you asked, PforH, for me there is a very clear distinction when it comes to "funishment." The latter is playtime. The former involves sheer bloody-mindedness on the part of the sub, and is not something I'd tolerate for very long. Before cracking off a Geneva fountain, I must pause to commend you for your stern and disciplined attitude towards that distinction, V.

LadyPact -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/2/2009 6:57:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Venatrix Edited to add that I can't help wondering why people drag up such old threads. It really just does go to show that there ain't nothin' new on the boards. I have to agree here. I completely get that some topics come up again and again. Can't people at least be original enough to start a new thread?

PeonForHer -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/2/2009 8:07:28 PM)
It's struck me that this sort of thing could be the downside of people doing their research, LP after the oft-heard exhortation not to start new threads on tired old subjects. Once 'historical researchers' have seen something on an old thread that gets them thinking, they might well want to add to that thread, I'd imagine.

LadyLou -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/3/2009 8:10:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer ...after the oft-heard exhortation not to start new threads on tired old subjects. Once 'historical researchers' have seen something on an old thread that gets them thinking, they might well want to add to that thread, I'd imagine. Agreed. Not much point telling people to use the search function, (as is the standard advice given to newbies) when they wish to chat about, what is to regulars, tired old subjects; then expecting them to start a whole new thread once they've done their research with the search function. We were all new to this once. We all wanted to discuss this once upon a time with the fervent enthusiasm of self discovery. What is old hat to us, is not to someone else. It's the constant influx of new people that keep sites like these going. Don't forget, for every person that adds to a thread, there will be considerably more lurking and learning from it. I for one, am glad to see the search function being used, and perhaps think it's better to have someone adding to an old thread if they haven't got a new slant on the subject matter. Heck, it was about the time this thread was started that I joined the site, so I find it quite interesting to see these old threads from around that time.

beeble -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/3/2009 11:12:47 AM)
quote: PeonForHer wrote: It's struck me that this sort of thing could be the downside of people doing their research, LP after the oft-heard exhortation not to start new threads on tired old subjects. There's no contradiction here. The exhortation is to avoid asking questions that have been asked before ad nauseam. However, if the question still stands, even after reading old replies, there's no reason not to ask it again, albeit with clarification. quote: Once 'historical researchers' have seen something on an old thread that gets them thinking, they might well want to add to that thread, I'd imagine. It depends on the nature of the thread. In this case, the person who started the thread was looking for advice, nearly three years ago and I'm not sure there's much point in resurrecting the thread to add to it, especially as the OP doesn't even have a profile here any more. On the other hand, I think it's a good idea to resurrect discussion-type threads if somebody has something genuinely new and interesting to say. I suppose that, since the question that started the thread was so generic, one could say that this is a discussion thread rather than an advice thread. beeble.

PeonForHer -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/3/2009 11:30:57 AM)
I suppose that, since the question that started the thread was so generic, one could say that this is a discussion thread rather than an advice thread. Agreed: pointless to resurrect a thread if that thread was started in order to focus on a specific question of narrow-ish interest - but maybe useful if it was a good 'discussion' sort of thread. Well, it was useful for me to see this particular thread, anyway. I've finally figured out a few things with regard to 'punishment' versus 'funishment'.

TexasMaam -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/5/2009 3:53:58 AM)
Generic reply for a generic post: If it's a lighthearted punishment for something you want him to remember for several weeks, shave his armpits. For a serious infraction, I have yet to find a sub who enjoys having the soles of his feet whipped with a dressage whip. When all else fails, shunning him generally brings him around. TexasMaam

thishereboi -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/5/2009 4:41:15 AM)
I think having you sit in a quiet room and think about what you have done as a good start. Maybe not let you go to an event you were looking forward to. As far as whipping you, naw I might do that if your good, but not if your bad.

frankieboy52 -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/5/2009 5:47:07 AM)
in any walk of life..there is nothing more humiliating than the silent treatment.don't pay anyattention to me for a week or more and i would be begging to at least talk about the problem...i thrive on contact,communication and such.take away what i crave....i am nothing.

kINKSandMetal -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/5/2009 9:02:13 AM)
MsKatHouston......I just need to say...The Barney Marathon comment made me laugh so hard i started choking....

KoolnSassy -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/6/2009 11:59:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zzzstinky Hello all.... Just wondering if any Dommes would be kind enough to share idea's on what some real punishments might be to teach or train a slave. What I mean is of course a whipping may be a punishment but I may equally enjoy it. What I seek is some ideas to offer to a Domme in which it's clear that I won't just enjoy it, or laugh it off. For instance foul language "which I avoid" could be mouth soaping. Not cleaning the dishes right mean doing them "all" again.. What sort of punishment do you think offer powerful behavior lessons? Thanks in advance... Oh - heh heh - I like to find out all I can about what a sub doesn't like. Those are the things I use for punishment. And believe me I can tell when he's yanking my chain.

PeonForHer -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/6/2009 12:04:15 PM)
" . . . . he's yanking my chain" I thought it was supposed to be the other way around in D/s

DavanKael -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/6/2009 6:54:08 PM)
Ignoring a person can be intense punishment. Davan

RoyalBitch -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/7/2009 3:48:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston nose in the corner holding up a dime kneeling on rice, kitty litter, etc. holding heavy books in both hands anything utterly boring reports on something including references, etc. (if he did not do the dishes...a history of dishes and its evolution) repetitive "I will not disobey Mistress" handwritten and proofed for neatness scrubbing the floor with a toothbrush in one inch blocks removing fetish, play, contact, etc for a period of time or allowing service without the more fun parts of it hot sauce, salt, etc on the tongue without letting them swallow diapers and no bathroom breaks (though not effective if they have that as a fetish) only allowing cold showers Barney marathon Now that is extreme

BalletBob -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/7/2009 5:09:30 PM)
I know, I am not a Mistress, but I can tell you this. MADAM made me stand in the corner once as a punishment, and it worked ! I hated it so much, I never done the thing again, I was being punished for. As you say, subs like whippings and such, so where is the punishment there? Find some things your sub HATES to do. Hope it helps, sub BalletBob

daisymae03 -> RE: Punishments that "are" punishments... (5/7/2009 11:42:04 PM)
Hmmm, well as a sub, I think there's a difference in punishment and discipline, and funishment is another topic altogether! I haven't been punished yet, per sei but then I don't willfully disobey, I've been disciplined, (which so far is only a lecture) but that's for accidents. As for punishments, while ignoring may be effective, I find for me it would do more harm than good, under the belief that punishment and discipline are suppose to be in the long term helpful and make one better and as such the relationship better, and to be ignored for me, would make me throw up defensive walls and be less trustful. Has this happened with any of you that have used this as a discipline/punishment?

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