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LisaSadistic -> RE: Dommes (3/11/2017 1:47:14 PM)
Even if you're seeking something casual, there's a right way and a wrong way to go about it. Start with speaking to someone like a normal person. "Hi, my name is xx. How are you? I found your profile interesting because xyz." If they respond well then tell them that you're seeking a casual play partner, and if they're potentially interested in that, arrange a coffee meeting or something. I mean how hard is it to just be civilized instead of acting like a porn crazed weirdo who doesn't know how to converse with another human being. "Hello Mistress want to serve you Mistress want to eat your poosy right now Mistress, gimme poosy gimme poosy." Christ on a bike. WTH is wrong with people.

LadyPact -> RE: Dommes (3/11/2017 2:18:14 PM)
<FR> Does anybody want to show me even on thread from the past ten years from a man complaining about the hundreds (thousands) of emails they get from women annoying the sh^t out of them because they are constantly bombarded by women wanting a relationship? Just one link will do. Thanks.

LisaSadistic -> RE: Dommes (3/11/2017 2:31:28 PM)
I hardly ever send messages, but the few times that I have, it wasn't, "Hey slave! I want to own you! I have a permanent collar for you! Come over and meet my parents, right now, tonight!"

respectmen -> RE: Dommes (3/11/2017 3:34:09 PM)
Lisa quote: Even if you're seeking something casual, there's a right way and a wrong way to go about it. Start with speaking to someone like a normal person. "Hi, my name is xx. How are you? I found your profile interesting because xyz." If they respond well then tell them that you're seeking a casual play partner, and if they're potentially interested in that, arrange a coffee meeting or something. I mean how hard is it to just be civilized instead of acting like a porn crazed weirdo who doesn't know how to converse with another human being. "Hello Mistress want to serve you Mistress want to eat your poosy right now Mistress, gimme poosy gimme poosy." Christ on a bike. WTH is wrong with people. Not all guys who only want casual approach women like that. As you accused me off in another thread, cherry picking, that's exactly what you are doing. That's what most women do around these sites. Whenever the topic about guys only wanting casual comes up, it's always all about these bad guys and not the guys that do nothing bloody wrong. LP quote: Does anybody want to show me even on thread from the past ten years from a man complaining about the hundreds (thousands) of emails they get from women annoying the sh^t out of them because they are constantly bombarded by women wanting a relationship? Just one link will do. Thanks. Men generally don't get hundreds or thousands of emails because men generally aren't fucking lazy and lousy like women when it comes to courting the opposite sex. Men are actually willing to put in effort to make things happen. Men aren't like women who expect the opposite gender to do most or all the work while they sit on their lazy fat asses and wonder why they aren't getting the result they want. As Lisa mentioned,... "I hardly ever send messages... Just like many women on here, she's yet another self entitled little chauvinist brat who thinks women are above of doing any work. Anyway, if men did happen to complain about getting attention from unwanted women, they would get laughed at and told to stop whining. Then not long after the conversation would be hijacked to how bad women have it with unwanted attention.

LadyPact -> RE: Dommes (3/11/2017 3:54:18 PM)
Most men would f^ck a watermelon if they got half a chance. n

respectmen -> RE: Dommes (3/11/2017 4:00:29 PM)
quote: Most men would f^ck a watermelon if they got half a chance. The problem with this perception on men is that people expect men to accept any offer of sex or else we are deserving of ridicule. Remember that thread I made about that women inviting me over? Me as a male is expected to accept any approach and any woman. If I disagree with that and complain, I'm a loser who is missing out. If we treated women like that, OMG misogyny.

cloverodella -> RE: Dommes (3/11/2017 6:54:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: respectmen ... people expect men to accept any offer of sex or else we are deserving of ridicule... Me as a male is expected to accept any approach and any woman. If I disagree with that and complain, I'm a loser who is missing out. Said no woman, ever. Your life sounds exhausting, rm. There are so many rules set by the straw feminists for you to live by, that I don't know how you can get through the day living by all of them.

respectmen -> RE: Dommes (3/11/2017 7:00:42 PM)
Clover quote: Said no woman, ever. Grab some pop corn and feel free to read through this thread http://www.collarchat.com/m_4996550/tm.htm Women and men pretty much backed up the woman in the said situation.

LadyPact -> RE: Dommes (3/11/2017 10:13:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: respectmen quote: Most men would f^ck a watermelon if they got half a chance. The problem with this perception on men is that people expect men to accept any offer of sex or else we are deserving of ridicule. Remember that thread I made about that women inviting me over? Me as a male is expected to accept any approach and any woman. If I disagree with that and complain, I'm a loser who is missing out. If we treated women like that, OMG misogyny. OK. Since the joke went completely over your head... I was pretty specific on the other thread. I thought that other person's approach was weird, though I agree with the theory. Where I come from, you just don't spend a lot of time under another person's roof without contributing in some way. Don't like the approach? Don't engage. Simple.

ResidentSadist -> RE: Dommes (3/11/2017 10:47:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: johnsk . . . so many dommes here are condescending, narcissistic, and ego maniacs. . . . I feel so under appreciated. Doms can be condescending, narcissistic, ego maniacs too!

respectmen -> RE: Dommes (3/11/2017 11:02:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist quote: ORIGINAL: johnsk . . . so many dommes here are condescending, narcissistic, and ego maniacs. . . . I feel so under appreciated. Doms can be condescending, narcissistic, ego maniacs too! The difference..women receive more support to the matter aka faviourtism and empathy gap.

LadyPact -> RE: Dommes (3/11/2017 11:55:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: respectmen The difference..women receive more support to the matter aka faviourtism and empathy gap. Well, DAMN! Help me figure this out. I'm supposed to feel sorry for every wanker that wants me to pay attention to them? Nope. Don't have empathy for every dude with a hard on. Must be a character flaw. I can assure you, rm. I am one of the women that the OP contacted via email, which I deleted unread. There is absolutely no benefit to me to listen to every person's random spanking (or other dick-centric) fetish. I don't caaaarrreee what gets his dick hard.

PantyhosedDomina -> RE: Dommes (3/12/2017 12:30:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: longwayhome quote: ORIGINAL: johnsk Sorry to say, but so many dommes here are condescending, narcissistic, and ego maniacs. They must believe they are world's sexiest women and can treat others like s*** with impunity, Even fin dommes, which at least I do get the concept, they give nothing and expect only to take from others. The people who hook up long term with these dommes must have extremely low self esteem to allow themselves to be treated this way. But it seems quite common i.n the culture here. Sometimes it takes a while to separate the wheat from the chaff. Apologies to any decent dommes out there who are not fitting my description above. But many do! Some Dommes are shit, some subs are shit, some lawyers are shit, some nurses are shit, some men are shit, women are shit............ Some people who use kink websites are shit. Some aren't. Who knew? Hiya longwayhome. This place never ceases to provide something negative that one rarely encounters in the real world. I agree with what you say and typical you, you are spot on and succinct with it too. I'll add to what you have stated. I'm sure you know that in modern Britain it is rare to find someone that is a complete racists i.e hating / prejudging other races of people of what ever ethnicity etc from a day old baby to the 90 year old harmless elder just cos they exist. Or someone not liking children and "hating" i/e disliking being around all children or disliking all animals etc. It amazes me that in this place, people that are supposedly mentally sound, consider it appropriate and balanced? to pre-judge an entire category of people simply because they are. I agree with you that people should be taken on their merit. I think anyone that is nice and is seeking something real in this place is going to receive messages and obscenity from sickos and weirdo types. As you said there are freaks and nasties in all categories here and there are also some nice people here with particular kink preferences and personality types whether dom/domme, sub, switch, not applicable etc . Just cos some one has a particular personality type does not mean they are bad or good. Someone with a wicked / mean/ spiteful personality can present as submissive / passive / dominant . In psychology/psychiatry it is known that the personality is formed by age 11 and after that characteristics presented are basically learnt behaviour which is why someone that presents as submissive can have a mean / spiteful / aggressive personality even though they present as submissive. A dominant personality type person can have a happy and nurturing personality and present as dominant and ebullient and still be very nurturing. A dominant personality type person can also present as quiet and calm and so on and so on. Any person with a certain personality can also be either mentally sound, balanced and sensible or mentally unsound even to the point of having a psychopathic mental state which may be untreatable and in the UK, there are many people with that condition and free and at liberty in the community. I'm sure some of them are in this place. IMO there are nasties and wierdos , psychos and sickos here that come here to hide behind a computer screen and send out messages and statements in a way that if they did such things in public in the real world, they would have been arrested and charged for sexual harassment and public obscenity at least in the UK as I know from the career that I am in as we deal with such matters. I don't think blanket pre-judging all people that are a certain type as being bad is constructive or fair. It's actually quite discriminatory and illogical and cuts the person doing the discrimination from possible good opportunities and Lord knows we don't get enough good opportunities. The best thing is just to delete unread the messages from nasties and sickos etc. It is possible to hover over a message and read the first few lines and if it is unpleasant simply delete it without opening it and block the person. I recently learnt that trick on here. Similarly, if someone does not like how an interface is going with someone here, simply end it . Discriminating and prejudging a class / category of people is not a solution for individual negative interface and experiences and adds negativity to the atmosphere in this environment. Have a great day :)

respectmen -> RE: Dommes (3/12/2017 10:48:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: respectmen The difference..women receive more support to the matter aka faviourtism and empathy gap. Well, DAMN! Help me figure this out. I'm supposed to feel sorry for every wanker that wants me to pay attention to them? Nope. Don't have empathy for every dude with a hard on. Must be a character flaw. I can assure you, rm. I am one of the women that the OP contacted via email, which I deleted unread. There is absolutely no benefit to me to listen to every person's random spanking (or other dick-centric) fetish. I don't caaaarrreee what gets his dick hard. No offense but you're just the average fatass. Yet nearly all average fatass dommes treat all men who aren't special like crap. If a male isn't above average here, hardly any woman will want to talk to him. Uber privileged women on the other hand, you can be super fat unemployed and all and still have a string of people wanting you.

MaryMaryProDom -> RE: Dommes (3/12/2017 1:05:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: johnsk Sorry to say, but so many dommes here are condescending, narcissistic, and ego maniacs. They must believe they are world's sexiest women and can treat others like s*** with impunity, Even fin dommes, which at least I do get the concept, they give nothing and expect only to take from others. The people who hook up long term with these dommes must have extremely low self esteem to allow themselves to be treated this way. But it seems quite common i.n the culture here. Sometimes it takes a while to separate the wheat from the chaff. Apologies to any decent dommes out there who are not fitting my description above. But many do! So what? If male submissives want to give their money to someone they will never meet, so what? It's their kink. I'm happy to oblige. When I'm active on this site, I meet about one man a month who sends me money.

respectmen -> RE: Dommes (3/12/2017 1:30:03 PM)
Women who seek financial slaves are no better than the men on this site that pose as doms to get easy sexual intercourse while not having a genuine interest in bdsm.

BeMyPinkPet -> RE: Dommes (3/12/2017 1:59:43 PM)
That is complete BS. I have always been Dominant over my guys, before I even knew what Dom is or about BDSM. I'm just someone who like, you think only guys can be, who has a high sex drive and likes to get off and have my way with someone. I know what I want done and how I like it done, and if they don't do it for me, I show them the door. I have shown plenty the door, but I must say many guys, even from a quite young age, I have found totally into doing what I like having done, the way I like it. This has resulted in my having many orgasms from my male (and female) partners starting from even my first boyfriends as a teenager. Later I met people into this and realized that adding things like B and D , and toys made it more intense and a turn on. I had one guy I was attracted to show up at my door, and say He would do anything I want. II was turned on by this good looking sexy young man and I used him - over and over again. That was the beginning of my first D/S BDSM relationship. We both tried many things for the fist time. It felt quite natural to me, and to him.

tamaka -> RE: Dommes (3/12/2017 3:31:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BeMyPinkPet That is complete BS. I have always been Dominant over my guys, before I even knew what Dom is or about BDSM. I'm just someone who like, you think only guys can be, who has a high sex drive and likes to get off and have my way with someone. I know what I want done and how I like it done, and if they don't do it for me, I show them the door. I have shown plenty the door, but I must say many guys, even from a quite young age, I have found totally into doing what I like having done, the way I like it. This has resulted in my having many orgasms from my male (and female) partners starting from even my first boyfriends as a teenager. Later I met people into this and realized that adding things like B and D , and toys made it more intense and a turn on. I had one guy I was attracted to show up at my door, and say He would do anything I want. II was turned on by this good looking sexy young man and I used him - over and over again. That was the beginning of my first D/S BDSM relationship. We both tried many things for the fist time. It felt quite natural to me, and to him. Believe it or not, there are people in the world who don't base our lives, self-image, or relationships, around our orgasms.

BeMyPinkPet -> RE: Dommes (3/12/2017 8:05:48 PM)
OK, so I'm a woman who knows how it is to be satisfied and learned this at an early age? It's important to me and I like it no matter the partner, male/ female, vanilla/D/S B/D, LTR or casual. I have a healthy sex drive and needs. Nothing wrong with that. What, you don't like it BC it doesn't fit some gender roll you got brainwashed into believing about?

tamaka -> RE: Dommes (3/12/2017 8:11:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BeMyPinkPet OK, so I'm a woman who knows how it is to be satisfied and learned this at an early age? It's important to me and I like it no matter the partner, male/ female, vanilla/D/S B/D, LTR or casual. I have a healthy sex drive and needs. Nothing wrong with that. What, you don't like it BC it doesn't fit some gender roll you got brainwashed into believing about? I don't believe that a female can self-actualize as a dominant. I understand that for strong women it can be difficult to find their alpha-male. I understand that perhaps enjoyment can be had from playing domme to a lesser man, but as a female, she will never really be fulfilled.

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