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SlaveJefe -> Searching for a mistress (8/13/2017 7:30:44 PM)
Greetings all, I am in search of a mistress and wanted to know the best way to search for one. I have used collarspace to no avail, any suggestions would be appreciated thanks.

MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/13/2017 7:40:55 PM)
Adjust your Search criteria, look for people in your area, check out profiles, and reach out to people. Attend local munches. You have been on CollarSpace less than two months. Don't expect immediate gratification. It takes time to find and get to know someone. Good luck.

angelikaJ -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/13/2017 8:01:03 PM)
These may help you: Profile Help: How to Attract a Dominant Woman and CMail Help: How to Contact a Dominant Woman

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/14/2017 7:46:54 AM)
quote: wanted to know the best way to search for one By scent. Buy a good bloodhound and you'll be swimming in misstresses.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/14/2017 8:27:10 AM)
I've written this post several times over the years, in various itterations, for various people, towards various situations. I really don't feel like writing it again, so I'm just going to copy the last version I did, and you'll have to use your imagination to make it apply. It does apply. Every word of it. You just need to change 'female slave' for 'Domme', 'Dom' for 'male slave', and vice versa. ____________________________________________________ Well... So... you want a slave girl... good... nearly every male Dom on this site wants the same, join the club. The thing that leaves me wondering on if you're going to find her though is this: why? Why would a girl want to be your slave? What do you have to offer her? What makes you different than every other male Dom looking for the same thing as you are? Why YOU and not the next guy? You give no information whatsoever on what SHE is getting out of this, other than that she'll have the privilege of being your slave. If that's all a girl needed to beg a collar from a man then ANY man would do... Seriously, it's not because you're looking for a slave that suddenly it becomes ALL about you. Really... it doesn't become ALL about you until AFTER you've got that collar around her neck. Prior to that, you are still courting a... WOMAN. Not a slave, but a woman. You are still trying to convince HER that you are the right guy for her. That you're better than the next guy. That you're different than the next guy. That YOU are going to make HER feel special. If you can't do that, then sorry dude, she IS going to move on to the next guy who CAN make her feel special... So if you're the guy that has one of those none descript profiles... or one of those profiles that is all about what YOU want, and about what she has to offer to you... you might wanna think about that a little and make some adjustments to your profile... Because that magical "perfect" woman for you you're describing here... she exists. She really does exist. But not only does she exist... she also has the luxury that EVERY guy like you wants her... And because of that... it's HER and not you, that can afford to be VERY selective and picky about her future D/M/partner. And sorry dude... unlike some of the other men out there... you just don't show that you've got her anything at all to offer... So no matter how much you want her... she'll never want you... Unless you clean up your act, and put forward some semblance of realism in your desires.

SlaveJefe -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/14/2017 10:18:52 PM)
Thank you all for the help and appreciate you taking the time out of your day to respond.

spideycool69 -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/25/2017 9:15:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SlaveJefe Greetings all, I am in search of a mistress and wanted to know the best way to search for one. I have used collarspace to no avail, any suggestions would be appreciated thanks. You won't find any mistresses here dude. 99% of them here are pretenders and wannabes. A well established mistress will have multiple accounts on different sites mostly findoms and niteflirt. She will have a twitter account with more than 100 followers. And, she may have her own website. Here, you won't find any real Mistresses. Here you can just interact with people like you do in any other forum. The people you interact with might be real or fake. So, don't take their word for it.

LadyPact -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/25/2017 1:39:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: spideycool69 You won't find any mistresses here dude. 99% of them here are pretenders and wannabes. A well established mistress will have multiple accounts on different sites mostly findoms and niteflirt. She will have a twitter account with more than 100 followers. And, she may have her own website. Here, you won't find any real Mistresses. Here you can just interact with people like you do in any other forum. The people you interact with might be real or fake. So, don't take their word for it. Ya hear that, folks! Twitter is a requirement to be a Dominant. Same goes for NiteFlirt. Plus, you have to be the kind of person who has multiple accounts (aka sock puppets) to be <cough> well established <cough>. Excuse me while I go laugh my ass off.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/25/2017 3:26:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: spideycool69 You won't find any mistresses here dude. 99% of them here are pretenders and wannabes. A well established mistress will have multiple accounts on different sites mostly findoms and niteflirt. She will have a twitter account with more than 100 followers. And, she may have her own website. Here, you won't find any real Mistresses. Here you can just interact with people like you do in any other forum. The people you interact with might be real or fake. So, don't take their word for it. Ya hear that, folks! Twitter is a requirement to be a Dominant. Same goes for NiteFlirt. Plus, you have to be the kind of person who has multiple accounts (aka sock puppets) to be <cough> well established <cough>. Excuse me while I go laugh my ass off. I guess I somewhat qualify, since I got 2 Twitter accounts with several thousands following, only problem is both are strictly vanilla, one is a business account (and that is a vanilla business) the other one is a private one... Oh dear, I have been doing that wrong for so many years, mea culpa

seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/25/2017 5:22:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: spideycool69 You won't find any mistresses here dude. 99% of them here are pretenders and wannabes. A well established mistress will have multiple accounts on different sites mostly findoms and niteflirt. She will have a twitter account with more than 100 followers. And, she may have her own website. Here, you won't find any real Mistresses. Here you can just interact with people like you do in any other forum. The people you interact with might be real or fake. So, don't take their word for it. Ya hear that, folks! Twitter is a requirement to be a Dominant. Same goes for NiteFlirt. Plus, you have to be the kind of person who has multiple accounts (aka sock puppets) to be <cough> well established <cough>. Excuse me while I go laugh my ass off. I guess I somewhat qualify, since I got 2 Twitter accounts with several thousands following, only problem is both are strictly vanilla, one is a business account (and that is a vanilla business) the other one is a private one... Oh dear, I have been doing that wrong for so many years, mea culpa Heaven forbid! [;)] MORE FAKE NEWS! Whodda thunk there are REAL DOMMES, here! [:D][:D]

spideycool69 -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/26/2017 7:40:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: spideycool69 You won't find any mistresses here dude. 99% of them here are pretenders and wannabes. A well established mistress will have multiple accounts on different sites mostly findoms and niteflirt. She will have a twitter account with more than 100 followers. And, she may have her own website. Here, you won't find any real Mistresses. Here you can just interact with people like you do in any other forum. The people you interact with might be real or fake. So, don't take their word for it. Ya hear that, folks! Twitter is a requirement to be a Dominant. Same goes for NiteFlirt. Plus, you have to be the kind of person who has multiple accounts (aka sock puppets) to be <cough> well established <cough>. Excuse me while I go laugh my ass off. And, here folks is a domme wannabe. It seems i triggered this poor little cat.

LadyPact -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/26/2017 8:18:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: spideycool69 quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: spideycool69 You won't find any mistresses here dude. 99% of them here are pretenders and wannabes. A well established mistress will have multiple accounts on different sites mostly findoms and niteflirt. She will have a twitter account with more than 100 followers. And, she may have her own website. Here, you won't find any real Mistresses. Here you can just interact with people like you do in any other forum. The people you interact with might be real or fake. So, don't take their word for it. Ya hear that, folks! Twitter is a requirement to be a Dominant. Same goes for NiteFlirt. Plus, you have to be the kind of person who has multiple accounts (aka sock puppets) to be <cough> well established <cough>. Excuse me while I go laugh my ass off. And, here folks is a domme wannabe. It seems i triggered this poor little cat. Nah. Problem is, I was in kink before the inception of twitter, was engaging before I even had a personal computer, and ridiculous crud like a social media presence determines whether or not people actually do this stuff. You'll have to pardon me for not being a millennial who believes that BDSM that comes via a screen. I've been swinging leather since before you had pubes, so you'll have to forgive me when I don't put a lot of merit into somebody who gets their kinks via electronic means. These "real" Mistresses that you speak of? When was the last time you sat in the same living room with them? Or, are you so busy keeping score about their electronic media that you're more concerned with how many facebook followers they have, rather than how they participate in the real world? While I'm out with my s-type this afternoon, exactly what will you be doing? Will you be sitting behind your computer, telling folks how "real" you are, while being completely ridiculous? There's a difference between a realist and a fantasist. Those of us who actually engage in these things type with two hands.

DesFIP -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/26/2017 8:30:14 AM)
Mr Online only lives in a country where a woman who did this in real life would be stoned to death. Talking on niteflirt is as close as he'll ever come to it. However, how he has read anything here without realizing that most of us are in countries where wiitwd is perfectly normal intimate behavior escapes me. Takes a hell of a lot of work to keep that closed a mind.

MsLadySue -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/26/2017 8:59:16 AM)
His profile is very interesting. So much detail about him as a person, his interests, etc. /sarcasm. But he knows we're all fakes because no one wants to deal with him as an online anything without him having to pay for it. [sm=fiddle_smiley.gif][sm=Groaner.gif]

TNDommeK -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/27/2017 6:36:59 PM)
That's usually how they sound when they are pissy about finding one they like and she turns out to be financial.... Ya know, cause you know he didnt bother reading the profile

verbatimguy -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/28/2017 11:44:39 PM)
Consider this thread the OP's calling card elevator pitch.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/28/2017 11:51:04 PM)
quote: And, here folks is a domme wannabe. Yeah she's all sorts of shitty, but Domme wannabe isn't one of them.

Hillwilliam -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/29/2017 4:28:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: spideycool69 A well established mistress will have multiple accounts on different sites mostly findoms and niteflirt. She will have a twitter account with more than 100 followers. And, she may have her own website. That is quite possibly one of the stupidest things I have seen written here. Have you considered for a second what people did before social media existed? They went OUT and MET people. At least it's good to know that the term "Entitled Millenials" doesn't just apply to Americans.[8\|]

Delilya -> RE: Searching for a mistress (8/30/2017 9:21:08 PM)
I'll let my subs know that I am a fake and a charlatan right away.

DarkSteven -> RE: Searching for a mistress (9/17/2017 4:40:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SlaveJefe Greetings all, I am in search of a mistress and wanted to know the best way to search for one. I have used collarspace to no avail, any suggestions would be appreciated thanks. No. You haven't really used CS. You've been on three months, with one journal entry and two posts, a profile that says nothing about you, and a pic that shows that you like to be tied up. So your 'use" consists of sending unsolicited messages to Dommes. There are several ways to go. 1. Collarspace. Fill out your profile. Take several additional pictures. If you don't want to show your face. Use pics that tell about you; for example, a wooded clearing shows you like the outdoors. Fill out your rofile text. Not with fetishes, but discussion of your favorite vanilla activities, your ambitions, why you picked your career, etc. Then get active on the forums. If you can get the Dommes here to have a good opinion of you... Well, Lady Pact has contacts in places she has lived, such as Georgia, Alaska, and California. Ishtarr lives in Colorado now, but previously lived in Iowa. Anf they know people. You get the idea. You won't get to know them just on the forums, though. Send them private messages and agree or disagree respectfully with their posts. Never mention sex. 2. Fetlife. Same as above, except you have more discussiom groups open to you. 3. Fetlife and events. Once you're on Fetlife, you can easily find local events and attend them. Note that all options require you to talk with people, some of who will be Dommes. Start vanilla, open conversations with them, and genuinely enjoy the conversations. You'll stand out like a jewel in a puddle of mud.

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