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That Time - 9/20/2005 10:06:56 AM

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I am a fairly new subbie and I would dearly like to ask a question of all the Dom(mes) out there. In general how do you treat your girls when they are on their menses? I'm not sure how I am hoping to be treated but I am hoping that if I get some idea of what some Masters think and how they deal with it I might have some ideas of what to expect and what to hop to find in a Master. Your guidance is greatly appreciated Sirs/ Ma'ams.

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RE: That Time - 9/20/2005 10:46:48 AM

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PMS and the Submissive

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How do you like your dom/master treating you on your period?

Serious question about PMS

I think for the majority of females in the world, if any adjustments need to be made, they can be made unobtrusively, taking a few pills, taking a longer shower, exercising a bit more, etc and require absolutely no change in day-to-day workings. It might be helpful to make your partner aware of your cycle so they can at least understand any crimps that come up, but I don't think it should be cause for any disruption or special accommodations.

For the FEW percentage who experience actual crippling emotional/physical effects from it, obviously it should be handled as any illness or dysfunction should.

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RE: Hello - 9/20/2005 12:10:32 PM

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My Dom handels me whit grate care as he know that the wrong word might make me have an anger fit and smakk him submissive or no. (ok not exactly true but close enough

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RE: That Time - 9/20/2005 1:58:18 PM

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They have a new pill out..forget the name. Is a birth control & "monthly" control all in one. Only have "that time" 4 times a year. My dr actually said with the exception of WANTING to be pregnant you don't HAVE to have one more than 1-2 times a year if you don't want..she did however warn that the one or two is NOT any fun. Please feel free to list the name if you remember before I do.

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RE: That Time - 9/20/2005 2:14:20 PM

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There is this taoist exersise, it is called the dear exersise, it is said to stop the menstral sycel, and then use all that nice energy for somthing else, like slowing down aging.

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RE: That Time - 9/20/2005 2:59:56 PM

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My little lady doesn't exactly have a period anymore, but as a Master, I would treat this time period with great care. Incidentally, I personally feel that it would make a good "moment of pause", where perhaps there is more nilla time, and time to reconnect on a decreased level of power exchange, so that any issues can be discussed in a more equal forum.

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RE: That Time - 9/20/2005 3:32:00 PM

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My little lady doesn't exactly have a period anymore, but as a Master, I would treat this time period with great care. Incidentally, I personally feel that it would make a good "moment of pause", where perhaps there is more nilla time, and time to reconnect on a decreased level of power exchange, so that any issues can be discussed in a more equal forum.

This is a totally foreign thing for me, the "more nilla time" and "decreased power exchange" and "more equal forum" but I think it's because the basis of my relationship is the power transfer. That IS the relationship and the idea that it would be stopped or lessened or somehow needing a more equal footing to "be myself" is just weird for me.

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RE: That Time - 9/20/2005 3:37:24 PM

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It sounds rather strange to me to, i can not stop being a sub when i have comunists in my plessure guarden.

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RE: That Time - 9/20/2005 3:44:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

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ORIGINAL: anopheles

My little lady doesn't exactly have a period anymore, but as a Master, I would treat this time period with great care. Incidentally, I personally feel that it would make a good "moment of pause", where perhaps there is more nilla time, and time to reconnect on a decreased level of power exchange, so that any issues can be discussed in a more equal forum.

This is a totally foreign thing for me, the "more nilla time" and "decreased power exchange" and "more equal forum" but I think it's because the basis of my relationship is the power transfer. That IS the relationship and the idea that it would be stopped or lessened or somehow needing a more equal footing to "be myself" is just weird for me.

It works for us, as the basis of our relationship didn't start as power exchange, and we have over a decade together as a couple on "equal footing", so to speak. We both still need some time not in our respective "spaces". Who knows, that may change down the line, but we're both happy and not in any rush. In addition, our power exchange would be considered "soft" by most at any rate, because most of the true practice of our power exchange is very subtle. If you spent a day with us, then there's a good chance that you wouldn't notice (but we would know), but it works well this way for us because we have young little ones around, and any overt, or strong-handedness might be misunderstood by them, and it just suits us better this way. BUUTTTTT, on the other hand, when the bedroom door locks...... :)

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RE: That Time - 9/20/2005 8:44:13 PM

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quote:

I am a fairly new subbie and I would dearly like to ask a question of all the Dom(mes) out there. In general how do you treat your girls when they are on their menses? I'm not sure how I am hoping to be treated but I am hoping that if I get some idea of what some Masters think and how they deal with it I might have some ideas of what to expect and what to hop to find in a Master. Your guidance is greatly appreciated Sirs/ Ma'ams.

Nel

Sir is happy that I can bite my tongue and not be a complete bitch during my period. He's sensitive to the fact that sometimes my cramps are so bad that they send me to bed. Because he owns me, he wants me to be the best that I can, and if I'm ill, he makes an extra effort to take care of me.

One would hope that in your search, you would seek out a Dom/me that would be a caring person first. I don't know where people get the idea that Dom has to mean complete bitch or bastard all the time. Why would you want to be with someone who consistantly treated you badly? I've never understood this.

If Sir was totally insensitive to my physical needs during my time of the month, and added to my discomfort or degraded me or something else of that nature, I doubt that I would be inclined to stay with him.

As a side note, I really hate the term 'subbie'. I find it offensive in real life and offensive on-line. We don't call them "Dommies". I am a woman who is submissive; subbie sounds completely degrading to me.

A D/s relationship can only function when there are 2 willing partners. If you put up with treatment that makes you feel bad, then you'll feel bad most of the time. And who wants that?

Lily

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RE: That Time - 9/21/2005 2:49:15 AM

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They have a new pill out..forget the name. Is a birth control & "monthly" control all in one. Only have "that time" 4 times a year. My dr actually said with the exception of WANTING to be pregnant you don't HAVE to have one more than 1-2 times a year if you don't want..she did however warn that the one or two is NOT any fun. Please feel free to list the name if you remember before I do.

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RE: That Time - 9/21/2005 4:25:33 AM

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it doesn't seem to be a problem with Master ....He just rides with it so to speak. =)

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RE: That Time - 9/21/2005 5:41:05 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: nelbot

I am a fairly new subbie and I would dearly like to ask a question of all the Dom(mes) out there. In general how do you treat your girls when they are on their menses? I'm not sure how I am hoping to be treated but I am hoping that if I get some idea of what some Masters think and how they deal with it I might have some ideas of what to expect and what to hop to find in a Master. Your guidance is greatly appreciated Sirs/ Ma'ams.

Nel

We have discovered here that shoving a lot of chocolate into my system works wonders. :)

sudja

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RE: That Time - 9/21/2005 5:43:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: anopheles

My little lady doesn't exactly have a period anymore, but as a Master, I would treat this time period with great care. Incidentally, I personally feel that it would make a good "moment of pause", where perhaps there is more nilla time, and time to reconnect on a decreased level of power exchange, so that any issues can be discussed in a more equal forum.

Interesting, probably worthy of its own thread (probably have been zillions).

My relationship with my Mistress is never "vanilla." Our relative dynamic exists 24/7. That doesn't mean I am not Her equal, and that we cannot discuss things on an "equal basis." It just means, amongst other things, when push comes to shove She's the deciding vote where and if we do not agree about something to be done, bought, etc.

sudja

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RE: That Time - 9/22/2005 1:11:59 AM

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Wow... the only thing that changes is O/our relatioship is sex is in the shower... I am expected to control myself and have any outbursts in private. I am a big girl and I need to behave like one. If my behaviour towards Master is unpleasing, He tells me and I am dealt with as needed.

That said, yes, I do take to bed for at least a day, and my doctor gives me lovely pills that put me in orbit for as long as I want. So, this helps me have my outbursts in private, since I can't manage stairs when i am that intoxicated.

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RE: That Time - 9/22/2005 4:38:52 AM

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My wife doesn't have that problem anymore as she has the implant pill on her arm.... However I have never had any problems with any iof the women who have shared my home and bed etc. As long as I have their cycle loged in my diary I can make what small adjustments that are needed. If I can make this time easier for them, it makes all our lives easier and is appreciated.

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RE: That Time - 9/22/2005 5:37:12 AM

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

My wife doesn't have that problem anymore as she has the implant pill on her arm.... However I have never had any problems with any iof the women who have shared my home and bed etc. As long as I have their cycle loged in my diary I can make what small adjustments that are needed. If I can make this time easier for them, it makes all our lives easier and is appreciated.

Now there is a wonderful Dom...LOL....keep track of it in the Diary ...what a novel idea...

**To others I don't have my cycles anymore (menopause yah know) but I still tend to get cranky etc....along with the hot flashes

and night sweats (ewww)

its a bitch....so to speak...LOL

my 2 cents
Pamela

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RE: That Time - 9/22/2005 6:08:04 AM

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**To others I don't have my cycles anymore (menopause yah know) but I still tend to get cranky etc....along with the hot flashes and night sweats (ewww) its a bitch....so to speak...LOL

my 2 cents
Pamela

I just have to point out how highly ironic that is given your screen name.

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RE: That Time - 9/22/2005 6:46:46 AM

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I like your posts in this thread. I can see your truly love your wife...

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RE: That Time - 9/22/2005 7:01:47 AM

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The Pill is call seasonal

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