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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 4:25:41 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Okay, EVERYBODY:  you are now officially ON NOTICE that you are not allowed to have any serious illnesses EVER AGAIN.  Yeah, my dad's latest test results are in the "okayish" range, but my next door neighbor found out that what she thought was a scoliosis issue was actually a lymphoma tumour at the base of her spine.  Another friend is having his cancer recur in yet a new area of his body!  Up north friend fell through a dock and smashed her knee.   ET CETERA.  These are only the stories of the LAST TWO DAYS.

So take care of yourselves and be nice to your loved ones!  That whole thing about you might never see them again... WELL, you might not!  It's a universe of danger!

HEALING BEAMAGE GOES OUT TO EVERYONE!!

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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 4:33:26 PM   
sappatoti


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Status: offline 		Well LadyH, you might just have to beat me then until the serious illness thing is understood by the powers that be residing in my space. I couldn't make it down to the Beach due to being on call for a trip to either the Northeast or Texas due to a critical illness in the family. This person is starting to claw back out of a coma one slow breath at a time which is finally good news after the last 10 or so days.

While I would hate getting beat (I don't like pain; I'm a wuss like that) I would understand the need for you to enforce your "no more serious illness" mandate. I would take it like a man... just please wait until this latest run of TIAs passes through my system.

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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 4:34:40 PM   
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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 4:36:16 PM   
sappatoti


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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 4:49:22 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 6:12:11 PM   
sappatoti


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Status: offline 		I hate that I can't actually feel any of the beating being meted out.



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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 7:31:50 PM   
trappedinamuseum


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Status: offline 		I hate it when my mother calls me and tells me that my sister (who has Downs) was attacked by another girl (who also has Downs) at the group home she lives in, and broke my sister's collarbone.

My parents are not willing to press charges.  I understand that this girl is mentally disabled, but my sister is as well, and didn't deserve to be assaulted.  This girl is a danger to herself and others.  She knocked my sister to the ground, and could have done much worse damage.  She could have been killed.  And yet, she gets away scot free because she is mentally disabled.  How am I supposed to feel about this?


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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 8:21:44 PM   
Daddysredhead


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Status: offline 		*hugs trapped because I don't seem to have words right now to let you know how sorry I am for your family & what you are going through*

*prayers for your sister*

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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 8:23:46 PM   
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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 8:26:02 PM   
trappedinamuseum


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Status: offline 		Thanks DRH and DC!

I am just so upset for her.  She doesn't understand why she hurts and it just won't go away.  Yet, she chose to go back to the house tonight, and has already forgiven the girl who hurt her.  I am having a much harder time.  Apparently, I can take a lesson from her.

Thank you for the prayers.  she could use some healing ones.


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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 8:29:16 PM   
dcnovice


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quote:

I am having a much harder time. 


I think it's often harder to forgive a wrong to a loved one than to oneself.

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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 8:31:08 PM   
lronitulstahp


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Status: offline 		i hate that this happened to her. *hugs trapped tightly*

You are allowed to be angry, get pissed, feel genuine dislike for the girl that assaulted your sister. Own your feelings, and support your sister in this time. Then try to forgive and realize that a person with limited cognizance may not always behave appropriately. They often exhibit the frustration of their disability in negative ways...be angry, but remember she can't be measured with the same ruler as you or i, should we hurt someone.

That being said, i would advise your parents to follow up on a plan of action along with the group home management that will help to lesson the chances of another attack. Ask questions like:

" Is a behavior plan put in place to discourage this from happening again?"

"Will there be any changes in proximity requirements between sis and the attacker?"

"Do they share a room, and if so how soon until they change roommates?"

"Is the staff aware of any pre-cursors to violent behaviors for the attacker, and if so, were they displayed prior to this incident? "

Have the management write up in-services for the staff with any and all information pertinent to the attack; along with a behavioral "plan of action" that ensures that staff is trained on the particular incident in order to be alert and aware should the attacker exhibit similar behaviors and attempts at aggression towards your sister. It may enable them to know sooner how to re-direct the attacker, or de-escalate the situation PRIOR to her maladaptive behaviors becoming violent. Savvy staff and managers can do wonders to prevent such attacks. And having a paper trail makes them responsible...and less likely to let down their guards.

Prayers for your sis, and family....and you, oh cute one!!!



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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 8:33:21 PM   
Daddysredhead


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Status: offline 		DC... you are so very right. 
Forgiveness is an action we choose to extend to those who have done wrong.  It helps to remember that extending that forgiveness will help us move forward with less baggage.

*love and prayers for a speedy recovery to your sister, trapped*

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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 8:44:12 PM   
Kalista07


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Status: offline 		Aw, Trapped, i am sooo very sorry you are going through this right now. i really seriously hate that you live so very far away... i would give you some big ass hugs... You are right...It's not fair... It's not right...And it is absolutely okay to feel whatever it is you are feeling.
Kali


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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 8:58:52 PM   
trappedinamuseum


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Status: offline 		Thanks DC, Tulip, DRH, and Kali.

I can always count on you guys to calm me down.  My only problem is this is not the first incident...this was just the worst.  What comes next?  When she pushes my sister downa nd she breaks her neck?

When is too far too far?


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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 10:36:38 PM   
girlygurl


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Status: offline 		Trapped, I'm sorry this has happened to your sister.  It must be very frustrating for you (it would be for me).  I know if this would have happened to my niece, who also has downs, I'd want action taken. It's my opinion that the individual that attacked your sister be held accountable.  Yes, I realize she too is special needs, but there has to rules enforced and if those rules can't be adhered too then maybe she should look at another opition for housing. 
My heart goes out to you and your sister.  Poor thing not understanding why she hurts!  ARGH!  Makes me want to reach out and comfort her. 
Sending you lots of warm hugs and comforting thoughts.
Hugs
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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 10:52:22 PM   
girlygurl


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Status: offline 		I hate that I continue to place expectations on my friendships.  I hate that I can't let go and except that some friendships are just not meant to be.  I suppose communication would be key at this point, but there comes a point when putting ones self out in a vulnerable state becomes too scary.
Letting go is difficult but I guess it's better than getting feelings hurt over and over again.

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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 10:53:46 PM   
sappatoti


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< Message edited by sappatoti -- 7/13/2009 11:07:21 PM >

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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 11:14:41 PM   
GreedyTop


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Sappa.. I looked at it but couldnt find a report button :( 

I hate that I cant get my messenger things to work again....


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RE: I hate it when........ - 7/13/2009 11:19:19 PM   
sappatoti


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Sappa.. I looked at it but couldnt find a report button :( 


When you pull up the full profile page, look for and click on the "Back to List" button somewhere near the top left in the profile part of the page. That should take you back to the "mini" or "compressed" view (or, you could just do a search on that ID, "GODDESS4ALL," from the main page). Underneath the combined profile/journal boxes should be a "Report..." button.

Trolls and wankers are one thing. Publishing that kind of crap goes over the line, IMO.

Thanks for trying Greedy.

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

< Message edited by sappatoti -- 7/13/2009 11:22:51 PM >

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