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]Why do you think that men are any different? I mean, actual men, and not moronic children who live to watch morons who run up and down an astroturf field or wood floor?
We aren't. We want security, attention, being held, being told we are good people, all that stuff. I gather you are going through a rough time, but how much of that is because you don't know how to listen? Perhaps your soon-to-be ex is a flaming asshole. Perhaps not. But relationships don't arise in a vacuum, and they don't flame out spontaneously.
Booze doesn't help. I learned that the hard way. And the people you are posting to here are, IMO, the last people you want to go to for advice. Truly, if you want to know how to beat a DWI wherein the drunken driver nearly kills someone, talk to Term. He's PROUD of getting away with shit. Real role model there. Don't get me wrong; I like certain aspects of Term. But other aspects of him are truly despicable. There are a couple women here who hack at themselves with knives and razor blades. Yet there are others who nod their heads sagely at the sane and sensible advice the self-mutilators give. And, of course, the enablers tell the self-hackers that there is nothing wrong with their behavior; it's a rational response to the insanity of modern civilization. Right.
I'm trying to heal some serious physical wounds, so I come here and occasionally post. I primarily post in Politics and Religion, because I have an interest in Politics. I have posted here occasionally because there is another person, whom I have met in person, who posts here, and I don't have an easily accessable profile elsewhere. So this is as good a place as any to communicate. And occasionally there is a true cry for empathy/sympathy, such as Grinner's recent loss. Now, I don't know the guy, so I feel that any expression of sympathy from me would be false, and I refuse to jump on the false sympathy bandwagon.
Likewise, I refuse to jump on the false Internet friendship bandwagon. I have revealed certain things about myself previously, because I got sucked into the fake intimacy of the net. I don't know any of you, except for one whom I have actually met. But the medium seems to engender a false sense of personal knowledge and friendship. And it is quite interesting when one observes that the people, few they may be, that one actually, in real life, knows, hold their imaginary friendships in higher esteem that those that are real.
That, in fact, is the reality of this thread. One sees page after page of people proclaiming their affection for one another, whom they actually have never even met, while those they have met become invisible.
"I admit that I am so overwhelmed by the online persona written by some person whi says they are in London that I have to put a towel under my cunt." One doesn't even know of there is actually a human being writing this pap.
Maybe, Ghita, you are getting confused reading the crap here that passes for wisdom, but which is actually complete and total horseshit. There is not a single person here whom I would turn to for advice on anything other than simple technical stuff. I mean, I might not be the world's sharpest guy, but I know the difference between the real world and some douchebag on the internet babbling about fluoride.
Have another drink.
Whoa there hippiekinkster--
Seriously--I read Ghita's post, and it was not really any different from any of the other random postings that get posted here. This thread is in the random stupidity section. Not advice or pearls of wisdom. This thread morphed into a thread about positivity and support. People post whatever is going through their heads....and get a little bit of positivity back. Sometimes it's silly....sometimes it's stupid...sometimes it is deeply painful and personal stuff. Regardless, the unspoken "rule" on this thread, which is one of the longest running threads as far as I can tell--has been "be supportive...be positive...or be off with you!"
There are LOADS of other threads if you want to flame, vent or bash. Personally, I find the Politics & Religion thread to be one of the most offensive and viciously ignorant at times, so I don't bother to read it anyone, and I certainly don't post there.
So now I look at your post. The original poster was not directing her comments at you. They were not even really questions at all. We post our "admits" to put them out in the open, not to get answers from muses. I'm no psychotherapist--but it sure seems like you took this random post to heart, and responded from a very hurt place. The OP never mentioned drunk driving or beating a DUI. (or am I missing something? the post said she was drinking some whiskey) Your response was WAY out of proportion to the actual post.
You assume that those of us on here don't know each other outside the forum. Some talk on the phone a bit....and a bunch live near one another, and regularly see each other socially and at munches. I've met several people from CollarMe and do consider them my friends. You've been on this forum for 4 years--it's really a shame that you haven't met anyone on CollarMe that you would trust to come to for advice. I've met a few--and there are some who come to me for advice.
The reality of this thread is that you can come on this thread and get some positive warm fuzzies from total strangers. Or, you can go on another thread and get hostility and nastiness from total strangers. Choice is yours. Personally, I like this thread because we just keep it light and stupid most of the time. It's not a debate forum. If you want to throw poop, you have plenty of other places to do it.
So assuming you've managed to read this far without throwing something at your screen, I will go back to the spirit of this thread and I will leave you with only a positive thought.
I admit that it sounds like Hippiekinkster is having a rough time, and hope he's in a better place emotionally soon.
edited to fix the quote
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