mnottertail
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I am a rather gross fellow, my speech is usually filled with fucks and shits and goddammits, so if I offend you with what I am about to say, please; it is not intended to do so, I ask tolerance ahead of time. All references are het with man dom, thats the flesh I deal in, but it applies to other fleshpeddlers I hope.
This is basic and I would like to post it in some forum to be read by all these on-liners and new or wannabe Doms:
A resultant problem from online born slavers is the artificial formalities associated with the capitalization or lowercasing of letters, as well as the inanely formal third party speech patterns that flourish hereabouts. I call 'em the O/oooooooohs and A/aaaaaaahs crowd.
The problem I got with this is that if I tell my slave to call me Master, (with a capital M) and all the time she is calling me master (with a small m) then she is getting by with something and I am losing respect...LOL. This is entirely unenforceable and misses the entire point of interpersonal relationships in this lifestyle. Now, if you really are trying to jack a round in the chamber, calling me Master will assist in that endeavor, along with other forms of begging and groveling.
In fact, my slave can say to me "Hey, you fuckin' asshole, I told you to take out the garbage two days ago..." (I have to take it out, cause how you gonna be naked, in collar and cuffs and go to the trashcan in 40 below zero weather?) The requirement is as long as it is done with awe and respect... So according to the hardcores I am not a real kinkster 'cause I allow those things to occur. Hopefully you will not think less of me because of it... (LOL)
The overriding principle here though is to lead the ordinary life in a non-ordinary fashion. Also, a formality and a basic outfit of manners for those who are not intimate friends seem to me to be in order... Oft times hard enough to glean someone's true intent from non-intoned and expressionless words and this featureless screen. So at first, one should be rather courtly, until all parties are comfortable and desire descent into the next ring of familiarity.
I think that many people in the goofers and gamers crowd need some guidance, and a wary tolerance. Especially in the case of inexperienced Doms. You will find the site copious and lascivious with profiles of women who state, “I have absolutely no experience at this but must have a Dom who has vast experience.” This leads the Doms to puffery, over claiming actual accomplishment. (further rant continued in the stupid chicken dance) However; like all young kids they feel they know it all (at least the greater part of them IMHO). And will have to make their own mistakes. But in truth, if you now need a license to run a gun, a car, or many other things that require some social responsibility, I am nearing the opinion that at least those who claim dominance should have to have a certificate to activate on this site (and maybe some sub/slaves, as well) perhaps a series of fundamental questions that if the majority are answered correctly... i.e.
1. Do you have a picture of your dick?
A. yes
B. no
2. How long should you converse online with a sub/slave before you say "on your knees, bitch, start sucking.”?
A. first thing
B. one year
C. never
And so on...
The Stupid Chicken Dance.
Look, fellas. There is no difference in BDSM, D/s, S/m, lifestyle, the craft or whatever you wanna call this, and real life. Women (and I am talking about Het, because that's the flesh I deal in, but this holds for ALL types of relationships) are gonna put up their profile here, sit and wait for you to approach them, impress them and excite their imagination. In the world so far as I am knowledgeable; only in humans is the female the decorated species; colorful clothes (plumage), colorful face (via makeup, again plumage) and pendulous breasts far exceeding the basic animalistic need. Maybe this is what messes some of you up.
Therefore; I call this the Stupid Chicken Dance. So think of a grouse or a pheasant or some other animal; the male will strut and puff and make noises to impress the female. NOWHERE does he ever show his dick in the courtship! (In fact there is many a hen that has never caught a glimpse of one, but are pinned for duty frequently.) Furthermore; women routinely drop 10 + pound babies with just a few hours practice and a great many desire fisting. Vagina-- (latin) anachronistic but accurate definition: rubber band....think about that, you got time... Your little 4 ouncer ain’t scaring NOBODY! So put that thing away! You ain't scarin' no little girls with it. Now at some point, if she decides she wants you for a chauffer and asks you to park the caddillac in the garage....then it would be an excellent opportunity for you to do your legendary thing.
Nowhere does he intimidate or threaten any female in any manner during this courtship. THIS IS YOUR BIGGEST TEST and a test it is.
Having done this ancient ritual courting dance, successfully......the female will then do the stupid chicken dance for you.
What does that entail at this point? You can pretty much do what you want...maul her, humiliate her, do extremely depraved things...nearly anything you want, and she will enjoy it and increase the intensity of it in a wondrous way.
Take a lesson from life. Now in the end result, the female only does these things by agreement, you ain't always smarter, bigger, better-looking or any number of things...but acceptable. Now, many women on this site are perhaps over-sensitive and take umbrage too quickly. However; it is incumbent upon you to have some basic manners and social skills, while you need to approach them in the main and you are at the risk of rejection, these women have got to fend off dozens of uncouth advances every single second. Show some empathy and toleration, this is the first step of communication. I am now accepting the inevitable community flames.....LOL
< Message edited by mnottertail -- 5/8/2005 8:07:37 AM >
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