LadyPact
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ORIGINAL: AAkasha Do you care if your submissive is physically attracted to you or not? Does your opinion of him change if you discover he'd submit to someone else that he did not find attractive? Does it impact your opinion if you find he will submit to anyone regardless of "race, age or physically appearance?" There's a big difference between being "overly selective" and a submissive who will submit to anyone, as long as she is female. Personally, I find myself much less attracted to a man who openly admits he is ready and willing to submit to anyone. I also have been guilty in the past of developing opinions about men who I see pursuing anyone he can; when he gets 'round to me, I will close the door on him, regardless of whether or not something sparks my interest. I am guilty of judging a submissive about other women he courts because I will not just be another one in a line. I had the same attitude in close social circles where word gets around who is dating whom; with submissive men, it seems a lot more prevalent. I find that it's really critical to chemistry for me that a man submits to me out of attraction and desire on a variety of levels -- not that he was looking for anyone to fill the role. So many submissives take the "find femdom first; figure out chemistry later" approach. That approach lessens their chances with me to a large degree, and I can't see many other femdoms taking kindly to it. But maybe I am wrong? Akasha Yes, it matters to Me a lot whether or not My submissive is attracted to Me. It's just something that has to be in place. My opinion doesn't change if he's previously submitted to someone he hasn't found attractive, but it wouldn't work in My case. How selective he is also matters to Me, because of My personal opinion of feeling that serving without a connection being made on some level somehow cheapens it. At times, I will get random emails from submissives and if I find I have interest on My end, at some point during the getting to know process, I will ask them two questions before I will have even the slightest hint of taking them seriously. The first is why do you want to serve. The second is, why do you want to serve Me (the emphasis there is on the fact that it is Me). The first question is always easier for them to figure out than the second. Very few can come up with a decent answer for the latter. (Oh, and I won't give away the second answer here, because I honestly do want them to figure it out for themselves.) Like you, AAkasha, I don't want someone who will submit to just anyone.
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