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Password safety - 5/15/2007 12:45:42 PM   
GiselleBiCD


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Status: offline 		Hey Everybody,

I was recently beginning a Dom/sub relationship that was progressing towards ownership. We had only exchanged a few emails, but shortly into the life of the correspondence he asked me to give him my password to this site. I want to hear from everyone out there as to their opinion if this is a good idea or not.

I know how I feel, I need/want to hear from YOU!

Thanks for your time and attention!
Giselle
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RE: Password safety - 5/15/2007 12:47:14 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		No. I do not think giving your pw to someone you've hardly had more than a few emails with your password.

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RE: Password safety - 5/15/2007 12:54:26 PM   
minnetar


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Status: offline 		my first thought on this is based on trust or lack of.  Obviously i think he is trying to monitor you.  Are you okay with him not trusting you especially after only knowing the person a short while.  If you do give it to him, make sure it isn't the password for all your other sites or email systems.

minnetar

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RE: Password safety - 5/15/2007 1:01:53 PM   
gentlethistle


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Status: offline 		It's only a good idea if you feel comfortable with the fact that he could:

(a) read and/or delete any message you send or receive.
(b) change your profile and make/edit journal entries in your user name
(c) upload pictures to your profile
(d) chat and message people and make forum postings in your user name
(e) hide or delete your profile or close your account
(f) change your password so that you can never access your account again.

If you are happy with him having this degree of access to your account, or alternatively you trust him so much that you are confident he wouldn't take any of the above steps that you might object to...
....then go ahead and give him your password.

Laura

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RE: Password safety - 5/15/2007 1:32:21 PM   
windchymes


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GiselleBiCD

Hey Everybody,

I was recently beginning a Dom/sub relationship that was progressing towards ownership. We had only exchanged a few emails, but shortly into the life of the correspondence he asked me to give him my password to this site. I want to hear from everyone out there as to their opinion if this is a good idea or not.

I know how I feel, I need/want to hear from YOU!

Thanks for your time and attention!
Giselle


NOT.

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RE: Password safety - 5/15/2007 2:13:18 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Just make sure they also have your credit cardi nfo and bank account logins.

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RE: Password safety - 5/15/2007 2:18:10 PM   
temptressofsouls


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"I was recently beginning a Dom/sub relationship that was progressing towards ownership. We had only exchanged a few emails"

Big red flag right there, IMHO.

I'd ask why he wanted the info...If he cant trust me, what am i doing with His collar on my neck?

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RE: Password safety - 5/15/2007 2:23:44 PM   
swtnsparkling


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Status: offline 		No freakin way!

Begining a Dom/sub relationship with just a few emails?
oh good greif

< Message edited by swtnsparkling -- 5/15/2007 2:24:50 PM >

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RE: Password safety - 5/15/2007 3:25:14 PM   
DommeChains


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Status: offline 		It is one thing to ask someone in a training or potential status to send you all of their emails as a show of honesty but I would never dream of asking even a collared sub to share their passwords with me. Especially that early into a potential connection.  You are basically still strangers until there has been real time meetings and much discussion of goals and roles. (Borrowed that from a friend....thanks DD) 

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RE: Password safety - 5/15/2007 4:03:33 PM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		I gave someone my passwords to this site and to my gmail when he asked me for them.
I trusted him enough to be alone and bound with him, so it was not an issue for me to give him the passwords. 
He never abused it and I never worried about it.
He was quite amused at the emails that I would get here.

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RE: Password safety - 5/15/2007 4:07:58 PM   
RWAble


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RE: Password safety - 5/15/2007 5:05:07 PM   
minnetar


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

I gave someone my passwords to this site and to my gmail when he asked me for them.
I trusted him enough to be alone and bound with him, so it was not an issue for me to give him the passwords. 
He never abused it and I never worried about it.
He was quite amused at the emails that I would get here.



Aileen,
in some ways i believe it is based on trust.  If you have known someone awhile that is more about protection than a lack of trust but i only believe that comes with time.

minnetar

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RE: Password safety - 5/15/2007 6:17:18 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		LOL wow send someone ELSE all of MY emails?  Why would anyone want to put themselves through that torture unless they could read and type twice as fast as I can?

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RE: Password safety - 5/15/2007 7:10:33 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		This sends red flags to me. Once a relationship has been established I wouldn't have a problem with it.

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RE: Password safety - 5/15/2007 9:55:09 PM   
adoracat


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Status: offline 		i tell Sir about the emails i get, also about the IM's i get.  he doesnt ask for my passwords.

the only thing he's ever asked for was my cellphone number, which i was only too happy to give.

kitten, who is very content

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RE: Password safety - 5/16/2007 12:51:23 AM   
Craftsman


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GiselleBiCD

Hey Everybody,

I was recently beginning a Dom/sub relationship that was progressing towards ownership. We had only exchanged a few emails, but shortly into the life of the correspondence he asked me to give him my password to this site. I want to hear from everyone out there as to their opinion if this is a good idea or not.

I know how I feel, I need/want to hear from YOU!

Thanks for your time and attention!
Giselle

Ab-so-fuckin'-toot-lee NOT!!

A few e-mails is not enough.  Being in the lifestyle is not enough.  That is something that even after 7 years of being the Dominant in a relationship I never asked.  Then again, that's me, and your situation is probably considerably different.

As people have said, it give another person the ablility to not only read your e-mails, it gives them your identity.  To use or abuse as they see fit, and by changing the password, you won't even be able to defend yourself against any wrongs committed in your name.

Take care of Giselle.  You are the only you out there, and no one has the right to screw up Giselle. 

If you 'have to ' give the info, make the password you give unique to the identity you are giving access to.  Make damn sure you don't give any passwords that can access your credit cards, bank accounts, or any other legal or financial identity info.

Better yet, tell the supposed Dom who wants the info to go away.  You don't need that kinda crap.

That's my couple-a coppers worth,
C/

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RE: Password safety - 5/16/2007 2:25:32 AM   
gentlethistle


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68
I trusted him enough to be alone and bound with him, so it was not an issue for me to give him the passwords. 
He never abused it and I never worried about it.


Aileen

I think that was the point I was trying to make.  You *had* established that trust and, as you say, you had already expressed that trust in a way that was more important to you than a few bytes and pixels here and there going astray...
....and your choice to trust was obviously absolutely spot on.  Not just in that he never took advantage of the passwords in a way that caused you any grief, but also in the fact that it never caused you any worry or concern either.
We all make 'trust' decisions every day about individuals and institutions...who we invest our money with, tradespeople we let into our homes, giving our personal details to employers etc etc.... not all of them go wrong.  We take a calculated risk based on our own decisions and the knowledge we have about the people we choose to trust.  It's just that online it is very easy for people to appear 'plausible' for the short time we are in contact with them.  If they can make that 'trustworthiness' stack up over the longer term and in conjunction with other forms of contact and corroborating factors....then it isn't wrong to offer trust.  I just think that people should be aware of the possible negative consequences.  Much as I should be aware that if I invest all of my money on the stock market the value of those shares may go up or down.

Laura

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RE: Password safety - 5/16/2007 2:35:46 AM   
farieanne


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Status: offline 		i gave someone i trusted my passwords once and when He got mad at me He was able to get into my account faster than i even thought about it and took my accounts hostage.  It was a stupid mistake i learned a HUGE leson from. my Master now knows all my passwords as i know His. However i am owned, collared, and married.

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RE: Password safety - 5/16/2007 6:54:02 AM   
leftofcenter


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Status: offline 		Even if you decide it's ok to let him have the password....for your own safety...make sure it's not the same password that you use for ANYTHING else...if it is...change all the others.

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RE: Password safety - 5/16/2007 8:11:35 AM   
PrincessEllie


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Status: offline 		I'd have to go with a big resounding NO until you know him better. 

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