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The New Guy - 6/1/2004 12:20:05 PM

hardnoisses

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Since I'm new here just thought I'd introduce my self to the message boards. I'm a young 22yr old Black American male, from South Carolina, USA I'm new to this type of life style. I've never tried anything like this before, but I am a freak and am ready and willing to try "ANYTHING" I'm interested in the slave/submissive type life style, but I don't mind being dominant at times either. Anyway, I'm looking for anyone who would like to teach me the ropes of this life style. I'm a bit nervous, but I suppose that is natural. I guess I just need to be broken into the life style.

How did you guys feel when you started this type of life style? how did you get broken into it? Did you always want to live this way or did you learn to love it and want it? Talk to me here........

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RE: The New Guy - 6/1/2004 1:44:36 PM

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Hi and welcome to the message board hardnoisses. For your viewing pleasure, How to approach a Domme may give you some insight. The feedback to Mistress Didi's post and link seems to be very favorable, and it may help to provide you general knowledge regarding seeking a Domme. There are numerous posts on the board regarding attending local groups, munches, etc where you may other lifestylers and perhaps a Domme near your location. If you haven't placed a personal's listing on the main site at www.collarme.com, it will help and has search by area and other functions to help you in your search.

Best of luck.

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RE: The New Guy - 6/1/2004 3:42:24 PM

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How did you guys feel when you started this type of life style? how did you get broken into it? Did you always want to live this way or did you learn to love it and want it? Talk to me here........

Welcome to the boards hardnoisses. I was 52 and married when i met a dom online and he got me interested in bdsm. He trained me online and showed me what i had missing all those years. I was with him for almost 2 yrs until i met another dom online that lived near me and was looking for a sub. My online dom understood that i needed real life experiences, so he released me. I stayed with my new dom for 6 months until hubby found out about it. After much explaining and discussion with hubby he agreed to learn to be my Master. How i felt--finally understood why i always felt something was missing but didn't know what, and now feel much more satisfied and happier. We don't live it 24/7, it's more role playing for us, but i do tend to His needs 24/7 and enjoy it much more now than i used to, but He doesn't control me 24/7, i have a lot of independence. Hope that is helpful.

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RE: The New Guy - 6/1/2004 5:16:03 PM

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Greetings HN,

There's a lot of worthwhile information on this, and many other, boards and site (and in hardcopy). I'd encourage to you read a LOT (but don't forget to think for yourself while you're reading). Go out to munches, demos, workshops and the like (if you've a mind to meet people realtime) and just generally start slow. Take plenty of time to be choosey about who you do play with and don't be quick to jump into a 'relationship' until you've had a chance to test the waters a bit here and there, try some new things and get a good sense of what you are interested in. Taking this time in the early stages could save you a lot of grief in the long run with mis-matched playmates. Barring happenstance, one foundational key (in my opinion) to having a quality 'scene' life is by finding the people you most resonate to/with. If you don't know what you want it's difficult to find the right match.

You'll inevitably be doing the people you end up with a favor by saving them the grief of a mismatch you never intended. An example would be someone who says they 'yearn' to 'be a 24/7 slave' only to find that the reality of 24/7 slavery is not at all the vision they've been masturbating to for XX years. Save yourself that head trip.

Don't do anything you don't want to do until you've agreed with someone to assume that role. Don't let anyone tell you that you have to adopt this or that behavior because you identify as this or that. Not until you've agreed with that person that is where you both want to go.

Come to the scene whole, participate whole, contribute whole, take whole things away from it. It'll mean more in the long run.

Questions are a goooood thing. Do lots of that. <smile>

Welcome to the boards.

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RE: The New Guy - 6/1/2004 6:36:57 PM

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quote:

Come to the scene whole, participate whole, contribute whole, take whole things away from it. It'll mean more in the long run.

On a related note, it is my opinion that what an individual takes away from something is directly proportional to what they put into it.

If a person is a dilettante then odds are fairly good they will only scratch the surface of a subject.

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RE: The New Guy - 6/1/2004 10:08:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: hardnoisses
I've never tried anything like this before, but I am a freak and am ready and willing to try "ANYTHING" I'm interested in the slave/submissive type life style, but I don't mind being dominant at times either. Anyway, I'm looking for anyone who would like to teach me the ropes of this life style.

Welcome fellow freak!

Nice pun, by the way!

Have fun, keep your wallet closed, and be safe!

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RE: The New Guy - 6/2/2004 8:34:08 AM

MistressDREAD

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Welcome hardnoisses
interesting name
youll have to tell Me
its meaning to you if any.

click My links below for a start
and if you have any questions
or need to talk My names on
both sides of collarme or post
any questions here for the diverse
group of Lifestylers to give you
Our varied views of the Lifestyle
which is quite diverse. And since
y0u relate to both sides of the spectrum
We call this type of role a Switch
which you could say you are as you learn
about you as you study on what peeks
your interest here with Us Freaks.
I was born into this lifestyle so I have
always felt it a natural way of living and
its the Vanilla Society thats Weird. I love
My Lifestyle and wouldent give it up for the
world. Im a BBBW Alpha Sadist Poly Dominant.