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RE: The Great Domme Migration - 6/1/2007 7:08:28 AM

MsSonnetMarwood

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

i would like to continue the discussion either way depending on Your wishes to do so or not.

You actually answered all I really wanted to know, thanks.

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RE: The Great Domme Migration - 6/1/2007 7:15:47 AM

chiaThePet

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

i would like to continue the discussion either way depending on Your wishes to do so or not.

You actually answered all I really wanted to know, thanks.

Dearest MsSonnetMarwood,

my pleasure, Thank You Mamm for giving me the opportunity to do so.

Have a pleasant and pleasing day,

Born to serve, chia* (the pet)

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RE: The Great Domme Migration - 6/1/2007 7:53:47 AM

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References can be very tricky for some...

I remember a few years back this fledgeling Dom went around observing local demos and asking questions of everyone. He observed a fireplay scene (not even a demo) at My home one night. A week or two later he decided to perform fireplay, saying "Trust Me, Lady Kathryn taught me". The girl knew Me and trusted Me so she started to go forward. As it happens, this was at a play party in MY home. I had two dungeons set up and I was DM in one, and a trusted friend was DM in the other one. She ran in, and said I was needed in the other room. I walked in on the "Dom" about to pour alcohol onto the sub and light her on fire - scary thing was, she was covered in paraffin from wax play immediately beforehand! I freaked.

The girl said, but I trusted that if you trained him, it was safe. I told her I did NOT train him and that in the future she'd better check with Me if I was ever used as a reference again. WOW!

References are something I take seriously. I will ask and check references. I will also offer My references and then check later with those people to see if the sub checked up on Me.

I have no use for someone who does not take responsibility for their own safety.... Don't even get Me started on safecalls.... LOL

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RE: The Great Domme Migration - 6/1/2007 5:00:37 PM

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I think the interesting thing about references - for me, anyway - is that a person's response to being asked is probably more telling than what the references actually say.

An honest response (i.e. things ended badly in the last relationship, or they've only gone to a couple local scene things that they can give the names of so don't think they'd really be "known", etc) is fine - it's when the BS starts (oh she moved to another country never to be heard from again and no one ever knew we were seeing each other here and aliens have erased my hard drive) that the red flags go up.

In my mind, honesty is always the best policy! I can't tell a lie anyway, without it showing on my face. How can one possibly establish a relationship between Domme and sub where trust is essential if honesty is not part of it right from the start? As for references, the last thing a woman would want to do, is ask my former Mistress/spouse for one regarding me! LOL! I've no doubt she'd either hang up the phone or give you an earful of things you wouldn't want to hear. I'm equally confident what she'd say wouldn't be reliable for you to believe or take at face value in regard to me. It's sad it had to end that way, but that's the painful truth.

I was expressly forbidden by her to become involved in any of the many lifestyle organizations that exist in this area. I'm just now reaching the point where I'm about to make that leap; having waited for reasons related only to custody/visitation disputes with my unmentionables. I'm very anxious to become involved and establish friendships with like-minded people in the community with which I'll have something in common to share (unlike my former neighbors, who only cared what labels I wore on my clothing).

Being isolated by your Mistress can be a very lonely existence. It's been such a pleasure over the last year and a half to begin to spread my wings again! I feel this incrediblly strong thirst for more connections with others and am very anxious to continue the journey that awaits!

- pixel

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RE: The Great Domme Migration - 6/1/2007 7:30:37 PM

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pinksissy

ROFLMAO too funny or too true.....perhaps both!

LOL

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa ya big sissy,

Did ya think i left the building or somethin?

Tell ya what ya big sissy,

While your down there rolling on the floor laughing your assth off,

reach on over and kiss mine.

Born to serve, chia* "will oblige if ya ask for it" (the pet)

edited to add the word "it", hmmm how apropos

chia Leave me out of your homosexual fantasies. i am totally straight and disgusted by your pathetic pleading for attention

ROFLMAO chia is a true queen. Sorry for you but as i said i am totally uninterested, furthermore males revolt me and closet gays make me hurl. you are dismissed chia! you may whine and cry all you want like the closet queen, all here know you are but i am totally revolted by you and you are rejected.

GOODBYE

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RE: The Great Domme Migration - 6/1/2007 7:52:52 PM

chiaThePet

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pinksissssssssy

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ROFLMAO chia is a true queen. Sorry for you but as i said i am totally uninterested, furthermore males revolt me and closet gays make me hurl. you are dismissed chia! you may whine and cry all you want like the closet queen, all here know you are but i am totally revolted by you and you are rejected.

GOODBYE
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aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa ya big sissy

Here let me translate sissy speak for the crowd:

ROTFLMAO=

Rolling On The floor Leaving Makeup All Over

So is this what we lovingly call a "sissy revolt?"

Gonna wear pumps that don't match your outfit? Oh the humanity!

The only thing i see hurling out of the closet is your big sissy wardrobe

as you throw a big sissy, hissy fit ya big sissy.

Last time i checked, it was the "queen" that did the dismissing ya big sissy.

Does this mean it's over ya big sissy?

Fine! Just when i was getting used to that five o'clock eye shadow.

ch ch ch chia* (the pet)

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RE: The Great Domme Migration - 6/2/2007 10:50:38 AM

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I feel odd about references.

I feel good about what might be said about me by a reference. Yet I would feel odd if asked for one, and would feel odd asking for one. I see a BDSM relationship to be a social relationship, which affects how I feel about references. I would feel odd asking a gal I was dating if she could give me names of previous guys she has dated, or vice versa.

On the other hand, I am fine to provide or seek references for work related issues. So it seems my feelings about a reference are affected by what I consider culturally appropriate. Within the BDSM culture, references are culturally acceptable. Perhaps I need to realign my perspective there.

I would like to add that I think references are one data point to be considered amongst others--a person who does not deserve a good reference could get one, while a person could get an undeserved bad reference. If I did hear something questionable about a person, I would bear that in mind and rely more upon whatever information my direct interactions and observations bring to me.

Incidentally, I think online behavior acts as another data point in this mix.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: The Great Domme Migration - 6/2/2007 11:41:48 AM

MsKatHouston

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While I don't really ask for references in such a manner as in give me a listing and contact info for all previous dominants, I will ask pointed questions. If a sub says he is very active in the local scene but I've never heard of him, I will ask who he knows, what party he attended last, etc. From there, if I know the people he knows and have a friendship with them, I might do some casual inquiries. My BS radar is pretty good but if I have questions, I do have ways to verify if needed.

I agree with you Sea about data points. Sometimes a person looks great on paper but when interacting it all gets a bit fishy. It's the sum of everything that makes me comfortable with them.

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RE: The Great Domme Migration - 6/2/2007 2:22:19 PM

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RE: The Great Domme Migration - 6/4/2007 6:43:54 PM

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It would never occur to me to talk about a previous mistress in the 'getting to know you' stages of a relationship. I guess if I were asked, I'd discuss it. It just makes me terribly sad that there is so much dishonesty out there.*

Having said that, my last mistress moved cross country....after I told her that she didn't have to go home, but she couldn't stay with me. Male submissives aren't the only ones full of crap sometimes :(

* actually it doesn't. I hope all sub males are lying douchebags, that way I can have my choice of all the Dommes on the planet and my plans for world domination will be complete!

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RE: The Great Domme Migration - 6/4/2007 8:57:35 PM

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Hello Mistress Domme Smartass, my problem is trying to find A Mistress to allow me the priviledge to be used for her amusement and pleasure only.

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