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LadyHugs -> RE: collar of protection (5/29/2007 7:53:36 AM)
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Dear alovelyone, Ladies and Gentlemen;
In my mind's eyes I see, from years past and years more recent; the "Collar of Consideration" was much like the "Promise Ring" in the days when that had a meaning, which was prior to an official engaugement. A Collar of Consideration was for the purpose of exploring an relationship with that person (Master or slave) the next step was to become a training collar and then strive to earn the slave collar.
With the introduction of the Internet, what was the Collar of Consideration was often confused and skewed intentions to where it became a "Collar of Protection."
That said, I can understand why submissive types and slaves wish to have protection from others. Some people are wolves in sheep's clothing in the lifestyle and prey on those who know no better. However, iscolation is the biggest enemy and or threat to enlightenment, knowledge, independence, skills and choice.
One needs no "collar of protection" to gain protection from and or by the community at large. I have rarely found any Dominant regardless, to stand silent and do nothing when a slave was in need of help, need of an advocate and or in need of advice.
Consider all collars as a binding agreement and or contract. Much like a business contract, a collar represents or acts as a symbol to which acts as a 'hands off' approach.
As for those offering "Collar of Protections" -- I be very cautious as to their intentions. Even those promising a collar; I would be cautious. It is really not my intention to frighten you from ever gaining one in the future however, from what your post implies--this particular double speak on what the collar implies, as to protect you and then requires slavery is raising my yellow onto red flags, as well as having no say when it comes to your happiness--while free, choose freedom and empower yourself first, with knowledge, skills and experience that is first hand and not just all talk or promises. Act as your own representative and be an advocate for your own business--personal and or in service.
In my experiences years past--slaves choose the Master. The Master can only accept or decline. Masters who pounce on slave or submissive canidates do not give patience and freedom of choice a chance. Instead, its false obligation, assumptions and wishful thinking.
I would use the same caution as it applies to mentoring. It is the spirit of intent of the other that sways me to agree or disagree to the behavior and attitude towards protection, consideration or mentoring.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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