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Calandra -> Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 11:45:00 AM)

I am very much a "teaching Dom/me". Regardless of the intelligence, education or wisdom level of those who serve Me, I require that they always have some means of expanding their minds and keeping their brains sharp. Anyone who serves Me must enjoy the process of learning as much as I do.
 
That said, I have given written assignments for years. Journaling is great, but I will also ask them to read articles or books, or I will give them a task and then require that they give a written report on it. I've found that this is great whether the sub/slave is in your home, part time but local, and even long distance through online training.
 
Does anyone else do this? If so, what topics or assignments have been most useful/revealing/humorous, etc? Do you have any resources that you swear by?
 
Inquiring minds want to know....



LadyEllen -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 11:48:41 AM)

And I thought I was creatively sadistic.

E



earthycouple -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 12:13:52 PM)

I love this idea and utilize it as well.  My topics depend on what's relevant in the moment.  I have made people research the difference between my styles and gor.  I have made some research a particular type of play, things about life in general, and well, most recently...I took a statistics class.  I am a very good student until someone asks me to use numbers.  I then fall apart.  Robert went right to work learning terms and applications specifically for statistics and used this information to help me understand my projects.  It worked and I received an A in the class.  He didn't do my work, he simply learned it so he could teach me.



ladyleopard945 -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 12:24:36 PM)

Yes I have in the past expecially with LDR. 

It is a good test to see if they are for real....lol.

Topics:
Past experiences,  play scenes,  work, if you had three days you were to spend with me what do you think they be like?, hard limits and why,  List of play and scale of 0-5,  so many too many to list....

MIstress




Bearlee -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 12:29:16 PM)

 
I was brand-new to BDSM... and trying out 'brattiness' (it never took) when I was told:
 
"Go sit facing the wall for 30 minutes and then, please write your understanding of the difference between punishment and discipline." 
 
I learned a lot,
beverly




MistressSassy66 -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 1:40:46 PM)

I dont give written assignments,but I do
give them things to read that can help them be ready to serve the way I like.

My favorite site is frugaldomme there is a section for submissives that provides links to "How to be a Butler" ,"How to clean house the RIGHT way" etc.

The tests come when they get here,thats when I know they took time to learn it and not just read it.



DominaSmartass -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 1:42:26 PM)

I'm certainly a fan of this as well.  Unfortunately, I don't have anyone for whom it currently works.  My boyfriend is already as avid a seeker of knowledge and experiences as I am and we constantly talk about the theoretical as well as the practical behind WIITWD. And the boy who considers himself sub to me, though he's not my sub fulltime or anything, seems to have a major problem with reading and doing written assignments to where it was a constant battle and I had to just accept that it's not going to work as part of his training.  If we ever become more serious than we are now, I might insist upon it, but until then I find it not worth the effort. I still have a great time playing with him. 



Lashra -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 1:43:17 PM)

I use written assignments and have found them very helpful. My sub and I did a written assignment together on communication. It was like a 10 step kinda deal I found on the internet and it was very helpful in getting him to open up and voice his needs/desires. I found it helpful because it taught us both how to speak to each other in a more respectful way without allowing negativity to enter into the conversation.

I also gave him other various assignments which he completed and found that they helped him a great deal discover what submission means to him.

~Lashra



Calandra -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 1:53:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

I dont give written assignments,but I do
give them things to read that can help them be ready to serve the way I like.

My favorite site is frugaldomme there is a section for submissives that provides links to "How to be a Butler" ,"How to clean house the RIGHT way" etc.

The tests come when they get here,thats when I know they took time to learn it and not just read it.


I love using the assignments for slaves already in My home. Actually My toad is sitting four feet away right now, typing away. I find that it helps people organize their thoughts, and it helps them to be willing and able to share more deeply. It's invaluable to Me.



Calandra -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 1:56:09 PM)

Would you be willing to share that 10 step program with us??? please pretty please?



MistressSassy66 -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 2:03:35 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Calandra

Would you be willing to share that 10 step program with us??? please pretty please?


I'll second that Pretty Please and add some whip cream and a cherry [:D]



earthycouple -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 4:29:50 PM)

One of the other things I've had Robert do for me is answer specific questions on these forums...not only do I believe he has something useful to add, but he can learn by reading the posts of others.  He is free to read and reply to any, but I pick and choose specific ones as well.



PairOfDimes -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 6:42:26 PM)

Yes, I've done this. I ask for book/article summaries, reviews (argumentative reports, effectively) and synthetic short essays (i.e. read these five things and explain what they have in common, or draw conclusions from them together). I'll do this as a Written Assignment if I think a person's analyses and writings need serious attention, or if the writer finds the idea attractive, but if the person habitually reads and can communicate and critique fairly well already, I'm quite happy to simply have interesting conversations (written or oral--oral presentation is important too!) about recent reading to give analytical and communication skills a workout. Resources? I think White's Elements of Style is very useful in improving writing, and you can never go wrong with Oxford language publications. I cull articles from the Guardian, the NY Times, Slate, and Salon, mostly.



Elorin -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 7:29:52 PM)

I am a fan of written assignments. My slave in Ohio is bad with writing unless he gets a chance to mull over the topic, then write down thoughts, then flesh it out. It caused problems at first because I was always disappointed in his writing assignments. Now that I know how his mind works, I am able to give assignments and get much more satisfactory result.

Assignments I have given included: find websites that are resources for BDSM, provide the URLs and how you found the website. List all items in a BDSM checklist that you do not understand (and we later talked about each item and what it meant, or was assigned to research and provide at least 5 sentences about that term). Journal assignments. How did you feel when X (X being an experience we shared). Write about your fantasies. Read a book or website and write a review, or your opinion of the website.

I have had some of the most amazing assignments written for me, actually, by a male dom who wanted me to train him on some techniques so that he could then use what he learned to train his femsubs. He said that he learned a lot about dominance from my training technique. I personally learned that there are people out there who can write what I envision, not just the barest bones of what I ask for - and it makes me wet to read it!
~E



MzStormD -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 7:31:15 PM)

I've used writing assignments to help cull the serious from the "poof" boys. Amazing how quickly they run when given a fairly short assignment of a paragraph about what they expect from a relationship with a Domme. IF they do actually write the assignment I continue to talk with them with assignments given at random, increasing in length, and with more guidelines. I adore intelligence and looks forward to discussions on what they have writtten.

MzStormD



MzStormD -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 7:33:58 PM)

yes Lashra I add my voice PLeasssssse please share!* adds chocolate fudge sauce to the mix*


MzStormD



Calandra -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 7:41:47 PM)

I've assigned:
US Government for Dummies
SlaveCraft by Guy Baldwin and a grateful slave
The Art of Living
Leatherviews (weekly newsletter by Jack Rinella)
Leatherpage (weekly newsletter by Sensuous Sadie)
Etiquette by Emily Post
Newspapers, books, posts and articles on various individual subjects
Movies such as Born Yesterday, Last Emperor, Elizabeth, Everafter, Jerry McGuire, The Piano, etc. etc. etc...
 
I always have a specific reason for the assignment. Usually it will have a D/s application, but not always. Sometimes it is simply geared towards an interest they already have, or something we both decide to explore together.
 
~smiling as I remember toad's report on Born Yesterday this past Saturday~ 



MistressLorelei -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 8:44:19 PM)

I have assigned writing projects in the past.  I have found that often when a male journals, he addresses thoughts, desires, problems, mental blocks, or areas of interest that he may not have recognized previously.  I usually come up with starter topics/questions based on signals/weaknesses in his e-mails.  It also tells me so much about the person that he might not have been comfortable enough to mention  .  It typically doesn't take long before something meaningful is uncovered.

I also have required males to read some of what I have written in the forums, or to read some other information I think he should be aware of.  I think that it's important for a potential submissive to be in tune with my thoughts and desires, and to be in touch with his own as well, along with understanding many aspects of this lifestyle.  Most submissives who won't take the time to do research, or to communicate in in-depth writing aren't going to last long. 

Communication and a hunger for knowledge are traits I look for in a potential submissive.  I am very turned off when someone tells me they don't like to write, or when I get a one sentence response to detailed comments/questions.  Writing/reading assignments can be invaluable... with the added bonus of being a great weeding out weapon.



SDFemDom4cuck -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 8:58:07 PM)

I've done written assignments in the past (and present) and I have instructed one or two to journal as well. I think it helps to probe thoughts and concerns that might not be otherwise comfortable in face to face discussion. A previous boy would often journal his thoughts and fears and then leave it on my desk or pillow with a ribbon marking a particular entry. It was a way to introduce a subject for discussion prior to his learning to be able to speak freely with me. His previous Domme didn't allow for free speech. It was also a record of his growth as a sub over the years.

I've also assigned book materials to be read for discussion later, BDSM research into areas of curiosity with a written report to follow, etiquette training and various other areas of education. I agree that it also tends to weed out the sincere from the not so sincere. Nice topic!

I wouldn't mind a link to the writing assignment either Lashra...what's left to add on here ladies...oooh how about chopped sweet nuts!



pixelslave -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (5/29/2007 9:56:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: earthycouple
One of the other things I've had Robert do for me is answer specific questions on these forums...not only do I believe he has something useful to add, but he can learn by reading the posts of others.  He is free to read and reply to any, but I pick and choose specific ones as well.


Frequently, Mistress asks me to read and respond to specific threads where she thinks I may have something to add.  We often discuss our thoughts on threads that appear here on CM.  We have found it useful in helping us learn more about each other and how each other feels about various topics that are posted here on the boards. [&:]
 
 - pixel



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