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ORIGINAL: MstrssScarlet

I started to send you a private message, but decided that what I want to say should be posted out here for all to see.
I get so tired of people coming in here and asking for encouragement and advice only to be trampled on by the same people who continually skip from one post to the other looking for their next victim.
I'm thinking more like Farimir, but a little more 'delicate' perhaps?  I know exactly how you feel.  I spent too many years in a vanilla marriage with a man who didn't feel the need for intimacy the way I did.  I was always going on vacations/trips by myself or with the kids while he worked.  I would look around me and see all the happy couples and it just made me all the more miserable.  I had lots of friends who would tell me to just go out and do my own thing.  Well, that's not the way I am.  I'm just not happy living by myself (which is essentially was what I was doing).  I tried, I really did.  I need someone in my life.  I crave intimacy.  I got a divorce and started all over again.  I decided that this time I wasn't going to settle for anything less than the whole package.  And I didn't.  And I don't think you will either.
Going to munches by yourself is DAMN hard!  It was hard for my hubby and I to go to our first one together.  I can only imagine how much harder it would have been to go by myself.  BUT....ya gotta do it.  (And I think you know that already.)  I believe there were some good suggestions about getting to know some people ahead of time.  That's a great idea.  And you're absolutely right about groups each having their own personality.  There are some groups I love to do things with and others I find nothing in common with at all.  Problem is you've got to go a few times before you can figure that out.  Domiguy makes a good point about word of mouth too.  The more events I went to, the more people I got to know and it very quickly snowballed.  People would actually tell me they came because they were hoping I would be there.  I've finally reached the point where I'm not afraid to go anywhere by myself because I'm quite sure someone I know will be there, and usually several.!
You're a beautiful girl and you handle yourself well.  I'm impressed with how you handled the 'cannibals' in this post.  You seem to have your wits about you and you're obviously no dummy.  You're just going through a tough period.  This too shall pass.  And while you're waiting, take a look through the Dom profiles.  There are new people joining every day. 
You have a well written profile now, some good pics, and most importantly you're putting yourself out there.  Keep your chin up hon.  Things WILL get better.
Mistress Scarlet 

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ORIGINAL: TigerNINTails

octavia,

I don't know what I could tell you, that hasn't already been said, and by some damn near as I'd have said it myself.

.... So here goes my lil bit of encouragement:

Don't Quit



When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh...

When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.
Life is queer with it's twists and turns,
As every one of us, sometimes learns...

And many a failure turns about,
When you might have won had you stuck it out.

Don't give up, though the pace seems slow ---

You may succeed with another blow.

Success is failure turned inside out ---

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt.

You never can tell how close you are;
It may be near, when it seems so far...

So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit ---

It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.
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Tora Kuo