BeingChewsie
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OK Gotcha, I'm sorry I took the statement out of context. quote:
ORIGINAL: Wildfleurs quote:
ORIGINAL: BeingChewsie You did say quote:
"This is more for clarification than anything else and is really a fairly small thing, but I don't think you read what I said clearly (in that quoted sentence). I was saying that you, just like me, are deciding whether it does or does not resemble slavery. You are deciding that it does resemble slavery. I'm deciding it doesn't. The only difference is that we disagree, but we are both making decisions and judgement and running them through our filters and all that jazz." I replied that the defining quality of slavery is ownership(though not directly to that post). You can disagree with that, as you obviously do, no hurt, no foul. I did ask for claification on why that is but whatever, honestly it was just a curiousity. Perhaps you were only speaking about one small aspect...being humble...but I read it as a view of the whole dynamic. I apologize if I was wrong. I went off someone elses post and had only briefly read the other responses so I made have taken what you said out of context. This was a really good topic. I'm suprised it did not take off even more. I think LA said it best: "I'm curious to why a few people went for the negative interpretation being likely. It does seem to reinforce the notion that people equate sacrifice with submission, and spoiling is looked down upon. This notion could easily spread from interpretation to 'fact" to social rule. Happens all the time". I didn't see that you had directly asked me a question, otherwise I would have responded. Yes, I did say that quote however I do think that you have to go back to the preceeding post with luci to see what I meant by using the term resembling. In that post I said: quote:
To me the specific words that were said were agressive and threatening because if someone says, if I'm not happy he's not happy that sounds more like a nagging wife that will make her husbands life hell for doing something wrong than anything resembling slavery. Again just my opinion on that specific quote the OP provided. Somehow you are reading me to use the word resembling to mean defining point. But I really just meant the word resembling. When I was talking about whether that quote resembled slavery was a reference to when I said that the quote sounded more like something I'd hear from a nagging wife, "If I'm not happy, my husband will NOT be happy.". Just to be clear I did not mean that she was not a slave just because of that quote (I don't think one random quote is what I would use as a yardstick), in fact I said several times that I could be wrong and it could be other things (like a misquote, a joke, or a very particular context), but what I did say is that the quote did not sound like something that resembles slavery or enslavement. What does the quote resemble to me? a nagging wife. To me, the discussion of what the quote resembled is a very different discussion on what defines slavery and what are the main components or identifiers. Of course my concept on what resembles slavery is based off my personal definition of slave, but given that I never even said what my personal definition of slave was, this issue of "was the quote a defining point of slavery and thus is she a slave" wasn't remotely what I was discussing. C~
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"In fact, it is my contention that most women are accepting of way less than optimal circumstance constantly, and are lucky to be 'snagged' by the right man, if ever. But it is more by happy accident than by their design. " ~Ron and Hup
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