velvetears -> RE: Surrendered Wives on "60 minutes" Austrailia (6/25/2007 8:43:40 PM)
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ORIGINAL: velvetears i am still waiting for kittensol to explain her theory on why calling a childs father "daddy" is abuse. So i shall ask a third time, perhaps she is ignoring me because she cannot back up what she claims. You know, I don't have to back up anything, because it wasn't a 'claim' but a constatation. Whilst I have nothing against old-fashioned couple with children referring to each other and to themselves as 'Mummy' and 'Daddy' - although I think it a little sad, as they have obviously relinquished their sexual personnae to their status as parents, period - I do object to the scene in the surrendered wife video. I found it very disturbing that this mother was operating a transfer. She was transferring her personal relationship to her husband to their daughter. To a child, what does it say? It says that 'Mummy' is on par with the child and that 'Daddy' is the boss. In a healthy setup, BOTH parents would be the boss. Do you get it now? Or do I need to orientate you towards child psychology manuals (those books that DON'T reach the top of the bestsellers' list because, well, they aren't as marketable as Boyle's little literary crime)? Just because two people use the word as you term "mummy and daddy" in referring to themselves to their children "they have obviously relinquished their sexual personnae to their status as parents, period " Are you in their relationships, wittnessing this relinquishing happening betwen these two adults, in order to make this outrageous claim?. You make a lot of assumptions about people, people you have no idea how they live, what makes them tick, what their personal relationship dynamic is, how they choose to use the english language, what books they choose to read, lifestyle they adopt, etc . How can you make claims like this? You are judging others based on your own emotional reaction to words you don't like or find offensive. You can find anything you want disturbing, but that doesnt give you the right to judge them and say what they are doing is abusive to those kids. She was not transfering her personal relationship with her husband to her daughter she was trying to instill in her daughter the values she wanted to raise her with. You don't agree with it, fine, don't raise any kids you have like that, but you are projecting a lot of nonesense jibberish onto this situation in order to make it look like something it was not, and that's just plain wrong. Making the man HoH does not automatically put the mother on par with the children, i did not see that in the video clip and i don't think anyone but you read that into it - you might want to examine your own psyche to find out why you personally find it so disturbing. You don't need to direct me to anything, as kind an offer as i am sure it was [8|]. i have read my fair share of all sorts of psychology manuals. It's almost comical advice coming from somoene obviously so disengaged from the workings of the human psyche as you are, as attested to in the ramblings of your posts here.
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