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julietsierra -> RE: Telling Our Stories (6/25/2007 2:31:51 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
However, similar to the depiction of a healthy 'vanilla' relationship, it would be just as boring on the screen; although, for us at least, much more erotic.
The "Secretary" showed a neurotic Dom who on film, came across as a self doubting, insecure, psychopath. The sub, was a socially inept, self mutilator coming out of psychological hospitalization. The 'happy ending' notwithstanding, if either of those people presented their personal situation on the boards of CM most would advise them to get their act together before considering entering into a relationship.
At least "9/12 Weeks" was based on a New York woman's true story. The movie was a very mild version of the book and once again the Dom was depicted as neurotic. Ultimately the sub suffered a break down from the experience. Although I took one thing from that film. The conflict of serving a Master and a serving a Master as work was counter productive to a D/s relationship.
There are many of us with "stories" of a health relationship, functioning in society. They just don't sell. In a Jerry Springer demanding word of marketing - wacko's sell. An Ozzy Osborne reality show sells. The public doesn't want, and wouldn't believe an "Ozzy & Harriet" D/s reality show. Now if they let Ozzy & Harriet show what goes on in their little private home dungeon - you'd have a #1 reality show. However, I think we are still at the twin bed stage of D/s acceptance and depiction in the media. Unless, of course, you need a psychotic killer on one of the Law & Order shows, or want to generate a bit of kinky sexual tension on CSI with Grissom.
There have been plenty of ordinary lives portrayed in film. Aging and relationships between young and old as portrayed quite remarkably in On Golden Pond is one that comes to mind.
Ordinary People was about ordinary people dealing with death if I remember correctly, and I believe it won an Oscar.
What is needed is someone who is both an excellent screen writer AND who understands the wealth of experiences this life we live can offer. The screen writer has to be able to write a submissive role with dignity and a dominant role with respect because each are rather looked down upon in real life. And that's the crux of the issue when contemplating a movie like this.
I believe that if one were to be able to portray the dominant as genuinely respectful of his submissive and the role she undertakes in their lives instead of a domineering control freak, it could be done. I believe that if one were to be able to portray the submissive as someone deserving of dignity rather than pity for her choice to follow rather than lead it could be done. But above all, because these films do cater to a vanilla audience as well as a bdsm audience, the screenwriter would have to make it evident of the feelings shared by the two of them for each other - even if no one wanted to call it "love."
Like all good movies, the conflict can't be their relationship. It has to be something outside of their relationship that as a unit they work together to solve or overcome.
In fact, there is a real life story that I'd love to see depicted in film. There's a woman on another forum who has been undergoing treatment for cancer. With her Master, she has overcome great odds. I haven't heard about her or from her in a long while, but within her story is a whole community of people across the United States and around the world, connected through the internet that helped her when insurance wouldn't cover the bill and she was told "come up with the money or die."
Together with her Master and her family (who knew and accepted their relationship), they fought this. I don't know how it ever ended up turning out, but the story itself is heartwarming and they were healthy as a couple. They presented the best of what some of us amorphously term "community" and what we all ultimately hope for when we coin the term "relationship."
I'd love to know how their story ends.
juliet
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